LadyMiko's Open Salon Blog

Acceptance Goes Both Ways

Fri, 28 Sep 2012 17:09:20 -0400

From the pages of Salon.com, Tracy Clark Flory bemoans the “holier than thou” attitude the BDSM community has toward non-members. Her piece “What’s Wrong With Vanilla” makes a few valid points, yet it dismisses the very real stigma the general public has against those who are in alternative relationships and sex practices.

People lose jobs for being outed and even some cases children are taken away for parents engaging in these practices That is wrong. No one can be sex positive and support this discrimination. I'm very pro sex and am fed up of politics getting involved in the private actions of consenting adults. Vanilla, Kink and every mix in between, I want everyone to have whatever kind of sex life they want, free from judgment from anyone, even the State.

I have never seen the snobbery that Flory is eluding too, in the circles I’m a part of.(Most have a strong etiquette and little tolerance for nastiness) Does it exist? It wouldn’t shock me, there is one upmanship in every aspect of life. I think the author of the Salon piece is mistaking frustration with pretentiousness. Has she researched how the media and society treat BDSM in general? Its not pretty or even accurate. Everything from people thinking S&M is something to be cured to radical feminists saying that women couldn’t possibly consent to submission. Crimes shows always show it as “deviant” Then you have Dr Drew and anti porn warrior Gail Dines screaming about abuse. Don't forget the ever popular "People in kink have childhood issues and trauma" From my perception, people in the lifestyle are tired of being hit with stereotypes and ignorant assumptions.

Time to put these over used cliches to bed.

I give Flory credit for starting the conversation, and I agree with her conclusion that being sex positive isn’t about what you are willing to do, but rather what you are willing to defend.

The Summer Boo-Fest

Thu, 28 Jun 2012 00:06:34 -0400

I dicovered Quick Meme and am having a TON of fun with pics, lol

"If YOU think I'm going to share the couch, you're wrong!"

"MY bed, my bed, my bed! Neener, neener, neener!"

"Mom, NO bathtime photos!"

" I'm sleeping, you didn't come to bed so its MY Spot"

"Yeah, I'm pouting,"

" I want a cookie, stop playing Angry Birds and watch Spongebob with me"

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Boo Tip #34

Hugs and Snuggles are the best therapy. (the ocassional 2x4 from In & Out doesn't hurt either)

Things I’ve Learned in 2012 (So Far)

Sat, 17 Mar 2012 14:03:48 -0400

* Puppies are magic. (Like I didn’t know that already!)

* Paying it forward is the sign of a happy person. :)

* We never stop loving those who leave us . . . they merely open our hearts to share that love with other people.

* I have a love hate relationship with Brie cheese.

* Observe how a man treats your dogs, for that is how he will treat your children.

* Breasts are a natural focal point for men. And some canines.

* Nothing makes a man forget an argument like a naked woman waiting for him at the door with a beer. Or a home made cheese steak.

* Being fun size has more pros than cons. (Being too short to see over a mans shoulder is HOT)

* Corsets are not easy to size :(

* I STILL can’t walk in heels.

* Debt sucks but its not the end of the world.

* Some men are not very verbal . . . that’s ok.

* Grief changes us, but it doesn’t have to define who we are.

* I can still belly dance!