by Sheenah Hankin
In my office I deal with terrorists every day. Their weaponry is words. They don’t torture me but daily commit cruel verbal attacks on others. “He won’t talk to me,” she complained. “I tell him what a lousy husband he is, how he expects me to do everything. Then he explodes and calls me a nagging bitch.”
“So you do talk—or rather fight,” I said. “You blame and insult him, and he responds by assaulting you.”
Like all terrorists, this couple sees themselves as victims. Self-pitying and self-righteous, they attack; but they never win, never manage to promote guilt and apology in their tormentor.
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