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JUNE 4, 2012 3:01PM

How We Age

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In February, I turned 69. At 68 1/2 my health problems multiplied and that is what I and I'm guessing most here feel bad about aging. Our own bodies with problems and the loss of our beloved friends and others who are also either struggling with health issues or dead from them.

I think this is the one area that makes aging a bitch, not losing our minds, not losing our looks--most of us have not--but losing simply losing.

Nora Ephron writes books about the necesssity of maintenance but hers are mostly beauty maintenance, hair dye for example which is a necessity for most but not in itself depressing. She does say that she sometimes thinks not worrying about her hair must be the upside of death. Hmmm. I think that stuff is just window dressing.

I have a doctor that I just adore. Nor he, nor his really elder patients say 78-92 seem to be depressed about their ailments. Well, one never knows what casual strangers really feel but according to him i'm the rare person who thinks if next year is even worse well that is not a subject I'd want to dwell upon. Usually, I don't.  

Then there is the must-see Woody Allen documentary of 2011. You can see it in two parts on I simply loved this summary of his life so far. He is 76, to me looks older, but he has this amazingly cheerful sister who says he's never been happier.

 She is credible given his creativity and family, two new kids, but he himself ends this film with the best line:

"I have achieved everything I ever wanted to. (Here he lists his aims and suceesses).... So why do I still feel I've been screwed by life?!

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For a long time I wanted to reach the successes I wanted to achieve but didn't, so I felt bad. Then I got really sick, back when I met you three years ago. As my brain and mind started to heal I realized that the one constant I really wanted most out of life all along, was being a certain kind of person. The kind of person that goes to bed at night with my own respect, the best person I could be. And I already was her in my 20's. I guess my window dressing is crumbling too, oh well, nothing material lasts.

I don't know Wendy, I've been reading you for almost 3 years. You were like an angel to me when I was pure crazy and wrote senseless drivel. You didn't have to be. Are you sure you're looking at the right things?
At 86 I'm crumbling but slowly. Mostly it's a lack of energy and a strange collapse of time so that the days pass like minutes and I have to rush to get anything done. Otherwise I'm holding up and the world is rapidly collapsing. (see: ). The people in power, the wealthy elite and their puppets, the presidents etc., are reacting so incredibly stupidly to the failure of economic systems that this latest "recession" is obviously the mere beginning of a major crash. It will not be pretty, especially as it gets really violent. Personal problems will be subservient to merely getting enough to eat and a warm place to sleep. This roller coaster is just beginning its long slide down and there is no clear upturn ahead.
For every crumbling edifice, there is a well of real feeling and experience in this world.
We have yet to respect our elders nearly enough. I notice this more and more, for every year I get older.
If I don't dye my hair anymore, it's due to the fact I wasn't born to have darker hair forever, so why escape nature?
I say, let's embrace our aging and stop using ageism against ourselves.
You'll be over the hill the rest of your days, as will anyone over 50, so why don't we all cut each other some slack and accept faces sag, muscles slacken wrinkles arrive, and hair turns to spun silver?
I'm with Poor Woman, Wendy. Let's embrace our aging - cut each other (& ourselves) some slack. It's going to happen whether we like it or not, so I guess we just need to enjoy the ride (as best we can) be that hiking the mountain or sitting in the wheel chair.
Thoughtful the Woody Allen post. He shoots the truth with an arrow.
I'll have to check out the Woody Allen documentary. Always have been a fan. I think we all still have so much more living to do, despite the physical setbacks.
Thoughtful piece here WendyO. Just starting down the hill at 53. Uh oh.
Oh this resonates. I'll watch the Woody Allen documentary; surprised to hear this curmudgeon is so happy in his 70's?! Aging, aging is not for sissies; it is 75% spiritual and 25% physical. rated.
Thank you for your post,providing me with a chance to leave my comment here.
Could you supply us with a link to Woody Allan?
As we get older,we come to realize our limitations yet the mind remains active and reaches out for new possibilities.
I have high respect for Jan's attitude and self control.
I might not have the strength and endurance with which he manages his daily routine.
I have a few wishes left with one of them being the answer to my life or to the time that I have left.We'll see.
Your post has been a welcome thought stimulant.
Hi All, thanks for your comments. As you know, aging is different day by day. For the Woody Allen Documentary pt 1 and pt 2 that is the name. I don't know how I became Amazon Prime maybe bec. I make a lot of commments?? but for me the streaming was free. Or you can rent it on anyone of your gadgets if you go to Amazon Instant movies, then put in Woody Allen A Documentary.

loved each commment and sending each of you blessings. WO
Blessings to you too in abundance.