When Your Spirit Whispers

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NOVEMBER 6, 2014 7:58PM

Sharron Wright 1939 - 2014

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 I met Sharron’s mother Rose a few months before I met Sharron. My first husband Larry and I had traveled to Miami Beach in 1966, just in time to experience Hurricane Alma, one of the earliest hurricanes to hit South Florida. I was 17 years old. 


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MARCH 8, 2014 10:35AM

From The Inside Looking Out

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There’s a part of old fashioned marriage vows that describes unconditional love very well. “In sickness and in health, till death do us part.” That applies to all relationships based on unconditional love. 

I’ve learned a lot in the past two weeks. In the weRead full post »

FEBRUARY 28, 2014 1:58PM

Grief (Take Your Time)

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Rob's memorial, Castle Above Loutro, Crete 

In the middle of grief, I look back and I want to say never again, to run away, to hide somewhere where I cannot be found. But then I remember the joy that brought me there.

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FEBRUARY 24, 2014 11:30AM

Zoe The Happy Dog (RIP)

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 My beloved Zoe,

Your Daddy Tim went back to San Francisco last night. This was the first night in more than one year that I have spent alone. Your bed is still on the floor beside mine. I’m not ready to face the cold empty wood that rests beneath it.Read full post »

DECEMBER 7, 2013 12:23PM

Chris Starkey Williamson 1957 - 2013

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It must have rained the night before. I remember the scent of wet grass combined with the warmth of early June sunshine. I paced up and down the red brick sidewalk in front of my grandmother’s house on Collett Street, in deep meditation, before I even knew the meaning of… Read full post »

JULY 4, 2012 9:42PM

Sonoma Wine Country _ 4th Of July

“The land flourished because it was fed from so many sources--because it was nourished by so many cultures and traditions and peoples.” 

Lyndon B Johnson 












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Two Dads 
There's nothing you can do that can't be done 
Welcome to the 21st century 

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JUNE 14, 2012 1:09AM

Thoughts Of Trains _ Remembering An Era


My grandmother’s two story “farmhouse style” Victorian on Collett Street, where I grew up, sat just two blocks east of major north/south railway lines that carried the Illinois Central trains of “The City Of New Orleans” fame. One and a half blocks… Read full post »

JUNE 6, 2012 10:56AM

The Day After Wisconsin


I'm sure there will be many dissertations on the Wisconsin Recall effort today. I can sum up my feelings in one sentence though. 

"American media is just one big river of toxic sludge slowly making its way toward Fox News."

There is absolutely no… Read full post »

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JUNE 1, 2012 12:03PM

June First, Again

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Seventeen years ago today, my beautiful Robby left this world

I have the privilege of knowing true love 


In that first moment of recognition

He smiled, spoke softly, but with force

“It’s you,” he whispered


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This deserves to be posted again, considering how dramatically things have changed since the first post two years ago. 

I was twelve years old when I had the courage to admit to myself that I loved  men “in that way!” In 1961, even that secret internal acknowledgme…

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MAY 22, 2012 11:17PM

The Golden Gate Turns 75

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Golden Gate Opening 1937
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 Before the bridge 1891

For myself

You stand majestically at the center of the universe


For many  

You stand on the edge of eternity


Without judgment

You toss… Read full post »

MAY 13, 2012 10:07AM


 There's no sense to try to improve this or write something new. This came through me. So I have no choice but to repost it once a year! 

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MAY 10, 2012 10:18AM

Why I Care About Marriage Equality

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 I am motivated to write the following blog because of several recent events. First is the 25th anniversary of the Names Project (The AIDS Quilt). The second event was the presentation of a “Champions of Change” award at the White House, to my friend Cleve Jones. T/… Read full post »


I refuse to jump on a bandwagon in this divisive, totally dysfunctional, deliberately manipulated political debate about the healthcare mandate!

 I do not understand anyone who defends a mandate that requires individual citizens to throw their hard earned money away in a system th… Read full post »

MARCH 22, 2012 1:48PM

Why Are We Debating High Gas Prices?


In 2011 the US government gave $2 billion in subsidies to the five largest oil companies! In 2011 Democrats in Congress tried to end those subsidies. Republicans in Congress blocked the efforts to end the subsidies. Those same five oil companies made $137 billion in profits in 201… Read full post »

MARCH 4, 2012 10:57PM


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"The contraception debate is one that sparks strong emotion and opinions on both sides of the issue. We respect the right of Mr. Limbaugh, as well as the rights of those who disagree with him, to express those opinions."

The Framing of this response says… Read full post »

I’m going to coin a new phrase right here and now. I’m calling it Moral Consumer Divestiture. Just think of it in terms of the divestiture in South Africa that helped end Apartheid! We need to move beyond the simple boycott, to something

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FEBRUARY 26, 2012 3:14PM

Excuse Me For Living! (Homophobia)

 I need to tell this story so the world can truly understand my feelings of rage for those who call themselves Republican candidates for president. But I also have a need to educate the public about how what we now call bullying was institutionalized in the second part of the 20thRead full post »

FEBRUARY 20, 2012 11:32PM

A Conspiracy Of Words, Decline of Empire


When my partner Rob and I first arrived on the south coast of the island of Crete, it was a Swiss tourist who first realized that we were a gay couple. Barbara was the kind of person who would just blurt out what was on her mind. After we confirmed… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 18, 2012 12:01PM

Get Angry! Pick Up The Knife!

I love movies. I love how art imitates life and life imitates art. As I watch many of the movies of the 30s and 40s, I am struck by how many have so clearly warned us of the political and cultural dangers we now face in the 21st century. Last night… Read full post »


I realized I am Gay at about the age of 12. I’m 63. So that means for the last 51 years I have awakened everyday to a world and a country that has blatantly discriminated against me because it believes… Read full post »

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Twenty years ago this coming April I experienced an epiphany. Over the past two decades the memory of those days on the south coast of the Greek island of Crete have informed everything I have done and believe. I came to that important crossroads through a decade of incredible loss… Read full post »

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I’ve never experienced anything more terrifying than waking up at 3:00 AM, unable to breathe. I wondered if I should have left instructions for someone to know where my important things are kept, just in case I didn’t make it… Read full post »

DECEMBER 14, 2011 11:51AM

Repost: Today I Quit Bank of America

 On the second anniversary of this post


Today I Quit Bank of America

This need not be a long or complicated essay. It is my moral duty to not participate in institutions or endeavors I consider evil. Therefore, beginning today I… Read full post »