- Santa Barbara, California, USA
- June 11
- Shannon Kelley and her mother Barbara Kelley are both journalists, and have just written a book called "Undecided". Together. (...Right??) This blog is a taste of what you'll find in "Undecided", a book about choice overload, analysis paralysis, grass is greener syndrome, longing for the road not traveled, and how the success of the women’s movement has left women stumped in the face of limitless options — and how to get over it. The book comes out on May 3: if you like what you're reading here, get the book here: http://www.amazon.com/Undecided-Endless-Perfect-Career-Life-Thats/dp/1580053416. And subscribe to our blog here: http://undecidedthebook.wordpress.com/
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With the election looming, we decided to write this one together. Call it our endorsement. Because we’re women! Two generations of them. And between the two of us, we’ve held all kinds of roles: daughter, sister, wife, mother, employee, self-employee, employer of others, homeowner. We are… Read full post »
I’m starting to wonder if this presidential election might hinge on apron strings.
In the wake of the last debate, weâ€™ve all been caught up in binders and trapper-keepers and funny Facebook memes â€“ along with some hijinks on Amazon, where a bunch of smartypants hijacked several binde… Read full post »
The other day, in the midst of a meeting of my paper’s editorial staff, I found myself waving my Feminist card in a manner reminiscent of when I used to referee kids’ soccer games, and had to deploy the whistle-yellow-card combo. (More often than not, the recipients of said cards w… Read full post »
It happened again the other day:Â I was being interviewed by my introductory journalism class when I got The Question:
Are you a feminist?Â Of course, I shot back.Â Beat.Â Are you?
The young woman was the tiniest bit flummoxed at being put on the spot.Â Well, she said.Â I guess… Read full post »
The other day, a good friend who is Swedish emailed me a linkÂ to post by Ann Charlott Altstadt, a Swedish writer who suggests that when life gets us down, weâ€™d sometimes be better off ditching the trip to the yoga studio or the psychologist and seeing a sociologist instead.
Funny,… Read full post »
Is it the end, or just beginning?
Ye olde End of Men is in the news again; this time, author Stephanie Coontz is weighing in on how the headlines proclaiming The End of Men might be a tad premature. It’s territory we’ve covered before, to be sure, but there’s a new… Read full post »
The last time our family got together — finding all of us in the same zipcode at the same time is a rare and wondrous feat — we hunkered down in a suite at the Holiday Inn Express (Backstory not important). With no bar or restaurant in sight, our family of… Read full post »
So, the subject of our book is certainly in the air as of late. First, Ann Marie Slaughter, and now, a piece on The Daily Beast by Debora Spar, whose take on the issues of women chasing perfection, juggling roles and choices in a not-adequately-changed world was, frankly, so similar to… Read full post »
Ew, right? The very thought sent chills up my spine.Â Did I really want to revisit my adolescent self? Does anyone?
Now, I am old enough to know that… Read full post »
Isn’t it funny, at a time that’s been described as The End of Men And The Rise of Women, during an election season that’s been touted as hinging on the “female vote,” during an era in which young adult humans of the female persuasion have never known a world in which… Read full post »
I had a serendipitous moment with Michelle Obama last week — just a few days before her transcendent speech at the DNC.Â The occasion was an interview with the First Couple by Lynn Sherr and Maggie Murphy in Parade, the supplement that shows up in many local Sunday papers.
I almost… Read full post »
That gagging sound you heard last week, when Ann Romney bellowed in her best Oprah voice, “I love you, womennnnnn!”? That was me.
And not because I don’t love women; I do. And not because I don’t believe that Ann Romney loves women; I’m sure she does. It’s because,… Read full post »
I think itâ€™s time to send the Mommy Wars off to bed once and for all.
Best-selling novelist Deborah Copaken Kogan would definitely agree.Â Kogan was one of the featured break-out speakers at last weekâ€™s Sun Valley Writers Conference and her talk on the myth of the mommy wars provided food… Read full post »
In an epic case of What-Goes-Around-Comes-Around, Janice Min, founding editor of Us Weekly magazine (a magazine which traffics in “cute mum and baby” porn and is nearly singlehandedly responsible for introducing terms including “baby bump” and “post-baby body̶… Read full post »
It’s not so much the right-wingers’ war on women that pisses me off — it’s the fact that they think we’re dumb enough to buy their talking points.
“Good girls go to Heaven, but bad girls go everywhere.” So said Helen Gurley Brown, longtime editor of Cosmopolitan Magazine and author of the bestselling “Sex and the Single Girl.” And while one can say what one will about Cosmopolitan magazine, few can argue that HGB… Read full post »
I confess: I love shoes.Â Especially when they’re high.Â Until they wore out, my go-to faves were a pair of black leather ankle boots with dangerously high heels. They were actually pretty comfortable, but I would have worn them anyway because they looked damn good.
Iâ€™m also a femini… Read full post »
So, you know that special brand of squelched eye-roll/mini-smirk you trot out whenever you find yourself cornered by your Positive Thinking-evangelizing sister/friend/coworker? Turns out, raining on her parade might be the best thing you can do for her.
In a comical opinion piece in Sunday’s NY… Read full post »
The other day after I got home from my run (I use the term advisedly), I got a call from the local NBC affiliate asking for a quick interview on the overall impact of “girl power”Â in this year’s Olympics.Â Within ten minutes, the reporter and her cameraman were on their… Read full post »
I’m off to Mexico tomorrow, and, up until a couple of hours ago, I possessed exactly zero pairs of non-running shorts. Ergo, I sucked it up and made a speed shopping trip between a quick lunch and a (not so quick) meeting so that I might procure a pair or two.… Read full post »
And like you, I am reveling in the fact that this has been dubbed the â€œyear of the womanâ€.Â As NPR… Read full post »
It’s grey skies for women inspired by the docs on Grey’s Anatomy: Keith Chen and Judith Chevalier, both PhDs at the Yale School of Management, write in The Atlantic about their new study under the gulp-inducing headline “Is Medical School a Worthwhile Investment for Women?… Read full post »
Now that the chatter about Marissa Mayer has started to grow cold, let me admit that the whole conversation has pissed me off.
In case youâ€™ve spent the past few days under a rock or — same thing — totally unplugged, Marissa Mayer is the former Google superstar who was annointed… Read full post »
Thereâ€™s no denying the ubiquity of iComm.Â Long ago, we gave up talking in favor of typing.Â (My land line rarely rings.Â Does yours?) More recently, email conversations -â€“ thanks to the seductiv… Read full post »
Sometimes what we need to do is clean house. I’m not necessarily talking about making your bed or doing the laundry — although either one is a good start — but channeling your inner minimalist and ditching the clutter.Â Both literally and figuratively.
I’ve been thinking abou… Read full post »