The world lost a good man today. By all accounts a kind, funny, decent, hard-working, honest, honorable man. A woman lost her husband. A boy lost his father. A troll lost an ape. Friends and family lost a loved one. It's so totally unfair. Random. Unfathomable. Finite. We have been gathered around one of our own waiting for this and sending love, prayers, thoughts, jokes, comments, notes, more love ... all out here in space. Yet it's totally real. Caring. Supporting. Being there. Being here. But being there too. An army of kindred spirits, hands clasped in friendship and love and okay, it's okay to say, we have to say, grief. Many have intimate knowledge of this mind-boggling event in their own lives. Ideas, suggestions, strategies for coping, dealing, someday healing. Still, when it's your own, you have to own it yourself. Deven will do that. She can do that. She must, and she can. Deven has shown us her wit and wisdom and humility and humanity. She has the strength to deal. We just need to be here ready and waiting to give her whatever she needs. Even if it's white space. Daniel McKay, husband of Deven, father of Ben, member of a large community of family and friends, Rest In Peace. Deven and Ben and all those we don't know, we wish you peace too. 
To honor Deven's wonderful final post about Daniel, Karaoke on the Edge
i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it (anywhere
i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
i fear
no fate(for you are my fate, my sweet)i want
no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)
ee cummings
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I knew it was bad, but...
Oh fucking shit.
May Daniel rest in peace.
Dammit.
Thank you for letting us know . . .
And what Steve said.
May Deven find comfort among the living and her memories of Daniel remain strong.
All my love and hopes and prayers are with Deven and her family.
I know everyone wanted many more years from him, and hope that his peace was achieved, and her peace is imminent.
I am so, so sorry.
Rated with tears and hugs
Rated for compassion.
Love and peace to Deven, Ben and Daniel.
I am not replying to comments because this isn't about me. I'll just say that Cindy Ross has a good idea. Let's work on that among ourselves, in PMs or emails. I'll seek info we'd need.
And of course, Fearless Leader Joan gets a Freaky hug for taking time during her vacation to sincerely reach out to One Of Our Own.
with seven crippled feet,
spiderweb egg,
scramble-brained rat,
bitch’s skeleton:
No entry here.
Don’t come in.
Go away.
Go back
south with your umbrella,
go back
north with your serpent’s teeth.
A poet lives here.
No sadness may
cross this threshold.
Through these windows
comes the breath of the world,
fresh red roses,
flags embroidered with
the victories of the people.
No.
No entry.
Flap
your bat’s wings,
I will trample the feathers
that fall from your mantle,
I will sweep the bits and pieces
of your carcass to
the four corners of the wind,
I will wring your neck,
I will stitch your eyelids shut,
I will sew your shroud,
sadness, and bury your rodent bones
beneath the springtime of an apple tree.
–Pablo Neruda, “Ode to Sadness”
Well, I wish I could do that for Deven and Ben.
From Richard Jeffries these words come through me to all who knew and loved Daniel: "It is eternity now."
Much love to Deven and Ben.
I had no idea he was sick.
I'm so sorry.
Prayers for Deven and Ben.
Sigh...
:(
Tink Picked!!!!
I'm with Cartouche, to a peaceful transition.
Thank you, Sally for this piece.
So much love to you...........
If you've written a post for Deven, I would love to add it above. Please send me the link.
Thank you all.
xo, Deven, and please do tell us what we can do to help, when you're ready.
((((Deven and Ben))))
May you share laughter through the tears.
promo diskon