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Safe_Bet's Amy

Safe_Bet's Amy
In my own little hell, Alaska,
June 06
Missing her while trying to be as good a mom as she was.

OCTOBER 10, 2009 10:52PM

Arrrgh! No More Lies, Mr. President!!!


He took our queer money and he took our queer votes. In return, we took his promise of change. He got elected with our votes and money, but he hasn’t kept ANY of his promises to the LGBTQ Community.

NOW, he makes a speech to the HRC faithful, who… Read full post »

OCTOBER 7, 2009 3:18PM

Seasons of my Love



My love’s eyes sparkled like drops of icy water

Tumbling into the clear pool of her love

Like the first buds of spring, my heart responded

My adoration for her grew just as quickly 


Warmed by the joy of my love’s sunny smile

I sense the heat ofRead full post »

OCTOBER 6, 2009 12:04PM

That's Right! I'm Suing Your Ass!



Busting the Marriage Monopoly

 Gay marriage is a pretty hot topic in a household that consists of two lesbians, who enjoy a long term monogamous commitment, and the children they have created and nurtured together.     

Money and business is another hot tRead full post »

OCTOBER 3, 2009 11:11AM

Sonnet to My Neverborn Babes


This poem is dedicated to all the women,

like me, who have lost a child.






Sonnet to My Neverborn Babes

by Safe_Bet©

Sadness is a cold, cruel mistress;
welding whips of shame filled fear.
Bringing with her the old distress,
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 Back in the beginning of this month, mamoore wrote a blog that got to me.  It was about the dilemma of after school care when there are two working parents.

It made me want to do sometRead full post »

SEPTEMBER 29, 2009 5:53PM

Open Call for "Happy Stuff"

WAY too much crap is going on today.  The Senate Finance Committee SUCKS, friends are bummed and depressed, I'm starting to feel sick....   just a whole bunch of crap going down, ya know?

What I need (and want to share) are some songs and videos that make me larf!  A good… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 29, 2009 4:12PM


Old man spilled his bag in front of the store;
people walk right on past, minds set to *ignore*

Young kids still unprogrammed, faultless, still free;
dash forward to help him as quick as they see

With nary a worry of what might be perceived,
they helped him simply becaus/… Read full post »
SEPTEMBER 27, 2009 10:45AM

Frog Kiss


Like a princess who kissed frogs,

just because she found them beautiful;

my life is for few.


As a square peg in a world of rounds;

the rare fit is that much sweeter.

Fewer chances; greater risks.


The kiss did once work magic.

No prince appeared to carry me away,

instead… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 23, 2009 11:14AM

Happy Celebrate Bisexuality Day, y'all!

Celebrate Bisexuality Day is observed on September 23 by members of the bisexual community and their supporters. [1][2][3]

This day is a call for bisexual, pansexual, and fluid people and their families, friends and supporters to recognize and celebrate bisexuality, bisexual history, bisexual communi… Read full post »

AUGUST 22, 2009 8:53AM



leaves cartwheel gleefully across the yard;
chased by mother wind -
with memories older than man can comprehend.

russets and gold complete wild leaps into the water;
to float and drift -
understanding the need for their blissful demise.

eventually waffling towards quiet solitude;
briefly/… Read full post »

I just got off the phone a little bit ago with Bob, my BMFF (Best Male Friend Forever). He told me the progress on a documentary film he is making about 9/11 and about the part that his personal idol, Mark Bingham, played in it. For my part, I told him… Read full post »


Yeah, sure you don’t have any money, are going to get your car and house reposed, and have no health insurance, but it could be worse!

Luckily, you don’t have one of these Top Ten Jobs I Wouldn’t Want!


Job #10 - Waitress W/ Experience

 hatejobhunting1Read full post »

AUGUST 18, 2009 4:17PM

Pictures tell a story…

From heroism, unsullied by childish taunts of “queer” 


(Mark Bingham





to ones filled with sadness and pride




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AUGUST 16, 2009 4:36PM

Making friends with my new house.


I imagine I am going through what my kids will, when they start in their new school.  They will be the “New Kids” and will feel kind of isolated and sad until they start making friends.


That’s how I am with this new house right now.  We sure aren’t BFFs… Read full post »

AUGUST 12, 2009 9:37PM

And So It Ends…


Our house is no longer our home.  With Amy hugging me tightly and tears streaming down my face, I signed the last papers a little bit ago.  I hope it gets as loved by the new owners half as much as I loved it.


It was my pride and… Read full post »

AUGUST 12, 2009 8:54AM

And so it begins…


The moving company will be here this morning to begin dismantling my world.


They are going to wrap each individual piece of my life in last week’s newspapers, load it into their truck and drive it away.


They, undoubtedly, will ohh and ahhh over Amy’s garage full of powe… Read full post »

AUGUST 5, 2009 8:18PM

Woohoo! We're moving to Iowa!!!!

I am SO lucky to be moving to Iowa!


Yup!  Lucky, lucky me!  I get to leave the horrid sunny beaches and nasty old mountains of Southern California for the fertile, flat fields of Iowa!  Yeah, lots and lots of flat fields… 


Soon, not only lots and lots and lots… Read full post »

JULY 24, 2009 1:37PM

Oh Crap! I’m a bigot too!

Last week I attended a PTA meeting with my friend Dorthea.  She is a black, single mother who has kids the same age as mine.  After the meeting, we were talking and she said, “Girl, I’ve known you for a couple of years now and you’ve always had those god awfulRead full post »

*Snerk*  I'm still laughing about this article.  The quotes are just too good!    

Man claims he found condom in French onion soup

  • SANTA ANA, Calif. – A man has sued a local Claim Jumper restaurant claiming he ordered French onion soup and bit into a c
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JULY 18, 2009 8:44AM

Proud of Them Being Proud of Us.


Later on this morning my daughters and Amy are going to walk in the San Diego Pride Parade. They are going without "Mom". I can't make it this year, but Amy is going to take both of their little hands and they are going to walk for all of us.

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I grew up on a farm in the Midwest.  Like many farm kids, I could drive a tractor, plow a field and backup a triple gang of hay wagons well before I had my drivers license.  To make me even more of a hick, I was a cheerleader for my/… Read full post »

JULY 14, 2009 1:49PM

Cough... Cough... Hack... Hack...

Dear SO,

I can't tell you how excited I am that you've decided to take up smoking cigarettes again! 

Mmmmm, that special aroma of burned plant matter in you hair and clothing... the cute little brown patina that will be on your teeth...  that wonderful taste of tar and nicotineRead full post »

Do you srt8 folks ever wonder why us queer folk get so wound up about our “rights”?  Why can’t we just sit and wait for things to take their course?  If you do, I’d ask you to wonder about this statement, as well… 

“Hope and love can be terribRead full post »


uuummm.....  Hi.I just want to introduce myself to those of you that don't know me and to "Say Hey" to those of you that do (and care).Let me apologize in advance if I trip and bump into you, step on your foot or spill your coffee.  I usually don't mean… Read full post »