This past Saturday night, one of my housemates (whom I shall refer to as Pot Head) and her girlfriend smoked weed in her bedroom before going out. Also, before going out, one of them went into the bathroom, shit on the floor, smeared it when trying to clean it up, stepped in it, and tracked it out into the hallway and down the stairs on the bottom of her shoe. My other housemate was already out for the evening with a friend, and I decided to stay in and have a quiet evening. I went upstairs shortly after they left to find the bathroom door closed, with light and vent both on, the air reeking of marijuana, and shit on the floor.
I texted them both to let them know what happened and that it wasn't me. Pot Head still adamently claims that it was either the dog or the cat who did it. The other housemate has come to the conclusion, based upon the evidence, that it was a person. I have explained to Pot Head that it was impossible for the cat or dog to have done it because the cat (her cat) pooped before anyone left for the evening, and I cleaned out the litter box, resulting in no poop on the floor, and the dog was downstairs with me the entire time.
Pot Head is currently on assignment with her Government Job that is ending in a week and conversations have been exchanged over email with her defending her girlfriend, saying that I'm avoiding the issue and have a personal problem with the two of them, and if I have a problem with her girlfriend (who brings the weed into the house), that I should take it up with Pot Head immediately and leave everyone else out of it. "Everyone else who?" is my question. And, I don't have a problem with her girlfriend. I have a problem with them smoking weed, which leads to incidents - apparently such as this - that affect my living space in an adverse manner. I have set my boundary that I do not want it smoked in the house anymore. This has not created goodwill and I am being accused of being jealous that they haven't offered me weed, that I'm mad because she's hardly ever home, that I don't like her girlfriend personally. I don't smoke anything because I can't. I could care less if she's home because I actually like it better when she isn't given how much she's changed since she started dating her girlfriend. I'm indifferent as to whether or not I like her girlfriend, but have been nothing but nice and have not said one unkind thing to or about her.
I think that Pot Head is an addict because she does not address the issue that weed is the cause of the problem, she avoids discussing it, and tries to redirect the argument into complete immature nonsense. I also think that she is addicted to her girlfriend, someone that no one who has met her likes. Sex and relationships can also be addictive. My feelings are incredibly hurt because of all of the things that Pot Head has said and how she has handled the situation. She and I have known each other since high school, we even went to the same church, and I am losing a childhood friend because of an addiction to weed and sex.
I am astounded that someone so educated, so kindhearted, is willing to be so destructive in every aspect of her life. I am sad because of this. What is wrong with people that they allow something as stupid as marijuana to determine their friendships? Girlfriends and boyfriends are, more often than not, temporary. Seriously damaging a friendship is not.