So, we met today and he's very kind, considerate, well mannered, polite, intelligent, easy going, sophisticated - basically the kind of man I've been waiting to meet. But, I don't think we're right for each other. I'm way too over the top for him, I curse too much, I'm too reactionary, too blah! I come off as a ding bat and, if he hadn't told me he's in IT, I would've thought he was in the policy world.
We spent the whole afternoon together and I really didn't want the afternoon to end. I don't think he did, either, as he walked almost half way home with me and the route was out of his way. He's very much a man that could easily be taken advantage of because he's so very polite and reserved, but I'm an artist and I think I will get on his nerves because I'm not as grounded as he is. Artists or those familiar with artists will know what I mean. We're at very different points in our lives and I think with me looking to seriously move and him looking seriously to stay here and be in a relationship, nothing will come of this. Plus, the career that I will more than likely have is not conducive to his lifestyle.
He's going out of town this week to visit friends and we agreed it would be nice to see each other again. It would be. I wonder if I had met him under different circumstances, as in at a social event totally unrelated to dating or being matched up, "Would anything come of this?" even be a question? I definitely can't be my loud obnoxious self when that part magically appears - some have referred to it as energy or called me a firecracker. For others, I'm sure it's just annoying. I'm not completely honest in that way with who I am when around him because I have dial it back a bit. All I can say is, I will only know with time. So, we'll see.


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This guy sounds like a raving lunatic.
I just got engaged to a man I thought was the polar opposite of me but it turns out we are of one mind in our core values and world view and our hearts bonded after only a few weeks. The rest is logistics.
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JMac
"I'm way too over the top for him, I curse too much, I'm too reactionary, too blah! I come off as a ding bat"
Sine he's agreed to see you again :) how about you not kill the relationship as a tiny little shoot by thinking you aren't worthy
Also, as many have told me, things happen when you are not looking for them to happen, and/or when you are going about living your life. As you continue to pursue your music graduate work, that which may belong in that life may just show up. One never knows.
You all are right and thanks for saying what I so often forget or am oblivious to. I think I've become to cynical for my own good. I'm just going to go with it - Keep Calm and Have a Cupcake :)
and yet like to explode into scintillating weird artistic mode
at times? you are listing your faults which are NOT faults.
"I'm not completely honest in that way with who I am
when around him because I have dial it back a bit..'
Most "kind, considerate, well mannered, polite, intelligent, easy going, sophisticated " fellows don't get that way without
taming the Raging Id inside, which , in the company of
a goofy energetic gal,
can be reactivated!
Get to know the stiff. Ask him all those girly questions.
Interrogate his ass. Get the info.
Oh, and report it back to us, please!
First, ask him if he likes Mahler! Hell....cut him some slack and ask him if he even knows who Mahler was. Then ask him what he thinks of Long Island.
If there's a hint in the affirmative....Christ....GRAB him! Don't worry about the "artiste" in you. It goes away if you really care about him.