A POST-MORMON LIFE

Life after leaving the Mormon Church

Rachel Velamur

Rachel Velamur
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February 15
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Born and raised in a strict Mormon family. I write about what life was like as a Mormon and what my life is like after leaving.

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JULY 15, 2012 5:49PM

A Mormon Family's Finances

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Recently Bloomberg BusinessWeek published an investigative piece titled "How the Mormons Make Money", written by Caroline Winter.  The Mormon Church is very secretive about their finances; they refuse to publish their financial accounts even to members.  BusinessWeek’s conclusion was that the Mormon Church is very, very rich, with an estimated $40 billion in net worth and $8 billion in annual tithing revenue.  The article also outlined the Mormon Church’s business structure, listing all of the church’s for-profit ventures, which include a $5 billion dollar project aimed at revitalizing downtown Salt Lake City, real estate ventures, insurance holdings, among many others.  Although there was little in this article that surprised me, there is a heavy feeling in my chest as I compare the enormous wealth of the Mormon Church to the very modest - often desperate - financial accounts of my own family.  Although my family’s financial decisions were made of their own free will and they offered tithing out of love for their church, I am considerably saddened when I pause to think that their hard-earned money is funding the business ventures of the Mormon Church.  I was even more saddened to read that the Mormon Church only devotes an estimated 0.7% of their annual wealth to charitable ventures.  

My parents were both converts; they joined the Mormon Church in their late twenties.  At the time, they had three children; my father was a gunsmith, my mother was a housewife.  My parents were poor.  But in the Mormon Church, there is a strong emphasis on large families - in 1979, three years after my parents joined, the prophet Spencer W Kimball went on record saying “It is an act of extreme selfishness for a married couple to refuse to have children when they are able to do so.”1  

My parents were obedient and had another four children, the last of which was me.  Their financial situation became more and more desperate as they obeyed the dictates of their religion.  To feed the family, they raised chickens, pigs, cows, and had a large vegetable garden.  I was lucky - my mother went back to school after I was born and became a special education teacher.  By the time I was eight, my mother’s income meant that my family no longer had to worry about where the next meal was coming from.  My parents’ battle to lift themselves out of poverty was ultimately successful but was also brutally hard, as my mother had to juggle the demands of a large family, her school-work, and various part-time jobs.  

During these financial struggles, my parents always paid their tithing.  Every year the Mormon Church received from my parents 10% of an income that wasn’t enough to feed a family.  There is a strong emphasis within the Church to pay tithing first; leaders promise that if an individual has enough faith, the Lord will provide.  And the Church did give back; when times were desperate, the local leaders stepped in to donate food.  Sometimes members would also pitch in, donating food and helping with babysitting.  In return, my family has also done their part.  The Mormon Church is composed of a lay clergy - the majority of positions are filled by unpaid volunteers.  My father worked for years as the ward clerk, keeping track of membership records.  Now that he has retired, he volunteers his time at the church’s family history center and the Palmyra temple.  My parents also volunteer their time and skills to help members in need.  One of my brothers is now the bishop for his ward; in addition to his full-time job, he volunteers an extra 20+ hours a week tending to the spiritual and practical needs of his congregation.  He is in the third year of what should be a five-year stint.  

When I was fifteen, my oldest brother had a financial crisis.  He was building a house to replace his run-down trailer when he lost his job as a trucker.  My brother and his family was forced to move in with my parents while he worked full-time to finish his house.  My parents were faced with the burden of feeding five extra mouths, as well as financing the construction of a house.  I woke up every morning with a pit in my stomach, which was only heightened by the sight of the tithing checks sitting on my parent’s dresser, made out for an amount I knew we couldn’t afford.  

To the ward’s credit, everyone pitched in to help out my brother.  Members volunteered time, coming every Saturday to help my brother build his house.  My brother also received weekly donations of food from the Church Welfare services.  The Relief Society stepped in one time, accompanying my mother to the grocery store and giving her $100 to buy food.  There was a strong sense of community within the ward as they tackled my brother’s crisis.  And yet, I couldn’t help but notice that most of the help received was in the form of volunteer work.  Even in a very dire circumstance, the local ward had few financial resources available to help members in need.  This was in spite of my parents’ monthly tithing donations, along with the tithing contributions of other members.  The policy is for tithing to be wired directly to Church headquarters, a small amount of which is returned to the local ward for assisting members in need.  

My family pays tithing because they believe in their church.  And while I don’t want to impinge upon their beliefs, I do want to see the Mormon Church treat my family’s sacrifices with respect.  The Mormon Church refuses to release their financial records.  My family has worked so hard over the years to pay their tithing; why won’t the Mormon Church respect their sacrifices by telling them how their money is being used?  

 

1 Spencer W Kimball, “Fortify Your Homes Against Evil”.  General Conference Address, April 1979.  http://www.lds.org/general-conference/1979/04/fortify-your-homes-against-evil?lang=eng

 

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"... why won’t the Mormon Church respect their sacrifices by telling them how their money is being used?" Mormon tithing and finance is protected under the First Amendment same as any other church, temple or mosque so unless some Mormons start blowing up skyscrapers in Manhattan, your question will remain unanswered.
Still a painful question, even if I'll never get an answer. And given that the Mormon Church is a tax-exempt organization, they at least owe the American tax-payers (who have to make up the difference with their own taxes) an accounting of what their tax-free dollars are being used for.
I appreciate hearing your "Mormon" experiences. Don't think I've commented previously.
I live in an area with a lot of LDS families and I knew the church was very good at helping members through hard times. I had no idea it was other's donating and volunteering, I always figured it was from the money tithed as I knew it was 10%. I've had friends and co-workers, and my most helpful neighbors are LDS. This makes me sad to learn this because they've been good people.

I can well understand you wanting to know where all the money is going. People work hard for their money and you're right, it's disrespectful of the church not to give them an accounting to make sure the church is wise at spending their money and who exactly they're helping with it.

Thank you for sharing a view I hadn't seen.
I enjoy your reflections on the Mormon Church- I was farmed out after my Mother's death to old friends for a month- it was the time for the adults to put the house in order and Dad to regather himself. The family had become Mormon- they did not stay long but were quite enthusiastic at the time and I was treated well by all, good people. But going to the service and Sunday school had the opposite effect intended- I was only fourteen but asked too many questions and corrected too much history and I guess that is unusual? It caused a minor breach in the warmth of the two families.

But I do enjoy your stories of your life free of the mormon regrets as well.
Kenneth: A lot of Mormons are very thin-skinned when it comes to excessive questioning - they see it as being an affront to their beliefs. Which, most of the time, the people asking the questions don't mean it in that light. But it can cause a breach all the same.
Kenneth: A lot of Mormons are very thin-skinned when it comes to excessive questioning - they see it as being an affront to their beliefs. Which, most of the time, the people asking the questions don't mean it in that light. But it can cause a breach all the same.
Religious institutions virtually all take from their flock, the word 'fleece' comes to mind, and return very little to the needy, all with no disclosures required.
Myriad: Fleece is a good word - very apt. Although the Mormon Church has refused to even let us know if they are fleecing or not.
Maybe that's why Romney won't release his financial records. I wonder if the Mormon Church contributes to his Pacs, and if they contributed to supporting Prop 8. I don't think Churches should be protected this way. The Catholic Church has questionable investments. There should not be a tax exemption for churches.
Pam: I think the attitude of the Mormon Church - that they don't need to release their records - probably feeds into Romney's justification for not releasing his tax records. As far as Prop 8 goes, officially the Mormon Church didn't donate a lot of money but from what I hear, leaders were putting really putting the pressure on members to donate as individuals. And as a church, they were very, very organized in promoting Prop 8.
It seems to me if they believe so much in the tenets of their faith, they would gladly explain and defend them with enthusiasm.
I may be wrong, but if they help you, aren't you supposed to help them out by volunteering also?/r
Christine: That is the idea. And my parents have spent many the Saturday helping out other members. My dad is pretty handy with tools and my mother is very patient with sick people. There is a pretty strong community feeling.
"The Mormon Church refuses to release their financial records. My family has worked so hard over the years to pay their tithing; why won’t the Mormon Church respect their sacrifices by telling them how their money is being used? "

see jmac above.

also, to answer truthfully,
in the voice of those elders,
"why the fuck should we? the earth is a temporal place.
we have our home in eternity. so fuck the earth.
fulla temptations, yo!"

the herenow is never worshipped as the only
holiest of holies, but so what.
it takes a good
soul to handle
that kinda pressure. they got good-lite souls.
buncha mayonnaise leaking into the sandwich of america,
that yummy meat
protected by bread
and ...uh..mayo..
and mustard.
and
plenty of cheese.

cheese! you are on candid camera (actually, no you are not)
you are free and no one but God can see you.
and God is saying, more more.
not less less.
It's a pity that the very institution that speaks of the faithful's duty to tithe "to God" don't practice what they preach. The Mormon church is not the only one. When I tithe I do as led by prayer not to any one institution.
I've learned so much from this.

So very well done

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Andrea
It would be interesting to see where all the money goes, but I'm willing to leave that as a question for the members to ask. The Mormon church may have some strange practices, but the volunteerism and "help they neighbor" ones seem to serve a good purpose and be working pretty well. As an outsider I have respect for that.
I can certainly understand how you feel. Once we've lost our basic faith in the altruism of the Church ( any church) a lot of things start to feel just wrong.

Lezlie
Interesting, I didn't know that much about the Mormons. Good post.
Pmg, thanks for another enlightening post. Your inside knowledge is fascinating!
First your post are well written and informative. I personally think all religions should have to show what and where the money goes. I think if one believes in one god or organized religion that person better respect all the other beliefs because I see no proof that any one of them is correct in what they teach. Yes, many teach good morals; however, how many people have been killed in the name of this or that religion over time. Keep writing.
Thank you HammerPoint!