A POST-MORMON LIFE

Life after leaving the Mormon Church

Rachel Velamur

Rachel Velamur
Location
Texas,
Birthday
February 15
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Born and raised in a strict Mormon family. I write about what life was like as a Mormon and what my life is like after leaving.

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JUNE 20, 2012 9:26AM

My Grandmother, the (Illegal?) Immigrant

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My grandmother immigrated from Toronto when she was six years old along with the rest of her family.  She married my grandfather, a US citizen who worked in an auto-plant, when she was twenty.  Grandma then went on to live a full life, outlasting her husband and two of her children, before finally dying at the ripe old age of ninety.  She was a tough lady, having survived the Depression with her wit and humor intact.  When asked about the Depression, she would say that for breakfast they ate potatoes and tomatoes, for lunch they ate tomatoes and potatoes, and for dinner they had a choice of either potatoes and tomatoes or tomatoes and potatoes.  Grandma always had a sharp remark for empty platitudes and hated being the object of people’s pity.  

My sister, who studied genealogy in college, liked to interview my grandmother about our family history.  Sometimes Grandma was willing to collaborate, filling out the bare bones of our family tree with the details that make history come alive.  Other times she would get short-tempered, usually when my sister pointed out all the first-cousin marriages cluttering up our family tree.  

Another point of contention was my grandmother’s immigration status.  Whenever my sister brought up the naturalization process, my grandmother would become un-characteristically quiet.  We never did find evidence of our grandmother becoming a US citizen, although she was married to one and collected Social Security.  I suppose, in those days, the rules weren’t quite as strict.  In any case, my grandmother was as much of a citizen as anyone else; she worked, raised a family, and paid her taxes, just like everyone else.  

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Once upon a time all you needed to get a US Passport was a birth certificate and recent picture... now there's a Homeland Security Background check with dozens of questions.
It is getting a lot stricter. And immigration is a nightmare; my husband is a foreign national and I've seen how tense he gets about anything INS-related.
I love genealogy, Mohindu and I love older people even more. My best friend from the time I was around 6 until I left home in 1971 at 19 (and you know the reasons for leaving at that age) was a man who was 56 years older than I am; summertime and weekends I was almost always with him, working his farm or on his front porch – he was Colonel Sanders’ doppelganger right down to the clothes he wore. The stories they tell are somehow very comforting and open the windows of imagination so wide one can’t begin to absorb all the information. The stories uncovered in talking with older people and in genealogy research are priceless (and, btw - ALL families have first-cousin marriages, as recent as three generations ago in my family).

My grandparents had their 1 bedroom home with a makeshift bedroom on the enclosed back porch in which I stayed when visiting them in El Reno, OK during the summers. They were constantly talking about genealogy which somehow seemed very comfortable and deeply fascinating to me, although I had little understanding of its importance at the time.

Sparked by their conversations, I later became and am still an avid genealogist and I’m always amazed at how much I remember of the stories they told. I personally believe genealogy should be used to teach history as it gives a person a personal perspective of history virtually unattainable through any other means.

A warm kitchen in the mornings smelling of homemade biscuits, wild honey, eggs, bacon and coffee and the strong smell of iris blossoms after a summer rain still take me back to El Reno and very fond memories.

Grandparents are the coolest!
Oh yes - their meals were Turnips, Turnip soup and boiled/baked turnips during the dustbowl and depression. I still love turnips :-)
How times have changed! I've had some older folks tell me that back then the marriage certificate to a citizen was instant citizen ship. Things were less complicated and the motivations were different. I enjoyed this immensely, I am so glad you posted in the OC!!
Thank you Poppi! Great idea for the OC, btw, there were some great posts listed that I would have missed otherwise.