A friend of mine went on a first date recently, where he made this photoluminescent jellyfish at a hacker space. You know, like you do on ANY first date. In Seattle, making quasi-electronic aquatic creatures out of felt is what "dinner & a movie" is in the rest of the U.S.… Read full post »

 

Now I feel a bit ridiculous that I was all LiveJournal with a twist of Teen Angst (metaphorically speaking, of course) in my last post. It occured to me a few days later that it was the unfortunate confluence of a lack of sunlight, all my parters… Read full post »

 

 April is the cruelest month, but January is by FAR the bitchiest. 

Especially in Seattle. The relentless, petty lack of light is making us all completely insane. Everything seems harder, and more complicated--downright maudlin, even. Like we're all trapped in a minor, yet part… Read full post »

In my last post, I mentioned Dan Savage's recent column devoted entirely to stories of happy, healthy couples who identify as "Monogamish"  (but, are they allowed to use electricity??).

My only issue is with the guy who was cheating on his wife (hence NOT in an open relationship), after… Read full post »

If you’re reading an obscure polyamory-related blog (ahem), I have to assume you’re well acquainted with the oeuvre of Dan Savage, especially his advice column, Savage Love, and the related podcast. If not, your homework is to read all the archives from the past 10 years. Seriously. … Read full post »

You probably think you don’t know anyone who’s in an open relationship, but there’s a good chance that you do. They’re probably afraid to tell you, because they assume you’ll tacitly judge them (at best), or (at worst) flat out recoil in horror and insist that they need… Read full post »

When I was 19, I decided to spend the summer studying in Germany. This move wasn’t motivated by any great passion for the German language or culture. You might say that wanderlust was the motive, but really it was just plain, old garden-variety lust. I wanted to go to/…

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Here's a link to a piece on Nerve.com that I may or may not have written, originally called "Terror Sex on the Rebound."

http://www.nerve.com/love-sex/true-stories/true-stories-sex-after-9-11#comment-form

This time of year, the tributes to 9/11 generally make me a bit uncomfortable. I always feel lik… Read full post »

At this point, I should probably clarify that I’m not a swinger per se.

Not long ago, I was trying to explain this to my dear friend June. A whip-smart woman, June’s bullshit sensor is on a hair trigger, and she’s never afraid to let you know it.… Read full post »

“We are looking to add a third to our bed. We are interested in a woman who likes to be with a couple and is open minded, fun and of course sexy. We are an average couple looking to have a little fun and spice it up ... If you are… Read full post »

Again, “boyfriend” is a strong word, and not entirely accurate (and not to be confused with Sean, the non-boyfriend mentioned in the previous post).  Also, the word “girlfriend” may be a bit premature at this point. 

For the lack of a better term, you might say tha… Read full post »

Okay, “boyfriend” is a strong word to describe Sean, and I mean it mostly in jest.  He’s one of my three regular Secondary Partners, although we only see each other (naked, that is) about once every 4-8 weeks.  

I see Sean much more often platonically, as half of the coupl… Read full post »

Hello!  My name is Polly (okay, not really), and I’m a 30-something woman in a happy, healthy and openly non-monogamous marriage.  I started this blog to offset our society’s inexplicable default assumption that men are always the ones who want, initiate, or insist on open relat… Read full post »