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Patrick Frank

Patrick Frank
Location
Asheville, North Carolina, USA
Birthday
September 26
Bio
I am a poet-essayist-singer-songwriter, and advocate for the poor, with a teaching and counseling background. I grew up in Florida, now live in Asheville, North Carolina. I also lived in New England 20 years. I love nature, music, and poetry. I am married and we have three adult-kids between us and four grandkids! I am interfaith, leaning toward Taoist, Celtic, and Native American spirituality, and an "Obama Democrat." Currently, I am working on poetry and prose as well as publishing political columns. I am also phone banking nationally for Obama.

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AUGUST 18, 2012 7:26AM

Stepping forward again...encouragement is important

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"This is the first day of the rest of my life" attitude this dawn. Going to take a look at my writing w/fresh eyes. My motto will be, finish what you started. Due to being a creative person and/or bipolar, I keep going off on tangents, new projects in my head, false starts, etc. I will refocus and finish a couple of things. Life can take you off in ten different directions, too. That's why, for instance, it's good to avoid cable news w/their endless series of political crises to focus on. Why it's good to avoid frenetic activity of all kinds.

How about making a to-do list w/ten things instead of 25? Or 7 things? And finishing them all.

Did not hear back from the school system this week about work. Important to not obsess and just let it go. There is a reason for everything that happens in life.

Even being ridiculed, like on OS recently, has its purpose, beyond making me feel like crap for a while. In the absense of all conflict, how can there be growth? I have no desire to stay in a meditative trance 24-7.  Creativity does not come about in a vacuum.

I can worry about what others think of me till the cows come home, but where does that get me, except in a nonproductive stew? Self-esteem, ultimately, is an inside job; it's not something others impart to you. It's something you come to apprehend, in creative solitude.

However, iIbought a book on encouragement yesterday. And yes, it does play a huge role in helping a person to get back up after being knocked down, and step forward again. And I do thank others in this writing community for their encouragement.

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I’m a fan of making lists; one can measure their progress that way.
I really like this quote by Dr Seuss I hope you will too...“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”
Enjoy your day Patrick!
~R~
"Self-esteem, ultimately, is an inside job; it's not something others impart to you. It's something you come to apprehend, in creative solitude." Patrick, you have written so many powerful words on this blog, but these are about as earth-shaking as I have ever read anywhere. I am blown away this morning. The words "thank you" never seem to be enough. My gratitude overflows. Rated with great admiration.
We all go thru the muddy waters and will again. You stay afloat somehow and that is good.
i advise not giving too much credence to negative remarks on a blog....no more than an annonymous? phone call.....i enjoy reading your work,but most important is you enjoying WRITING it....jus my lil opinion...
R
Self-esteem, ultimately, is an inside job; it's not something others impart to you.

So true, Patrick. And I'll carry it a tad further, if I may. To me, self-esteem is merely the recognition that no matter what others might or might not see in me, it is my job - my duty - to contribute to the well being of those less fortunate or who are in need of support of some kind. No matter what I think otherwise of them. I interpret this duty as communicating to others thru my writing, trying to reach them in a way that brings them a little joy or helps them to see clearer what I see, and helps them feel better about themselves. Washing the dishes every morning helps, too. Good for the soul.
patrick,
you are the most sensible and meticulous mystical bipolar
i have ever encountered, and i am making a damn list
as i write. i have no idea what will end up on it,
but that is the creative part of doing it.

if we have calm, we can, as wordsworth said, "reflect in tranquility".
Hi Patrick,
I appreciate your commitment to live well, and focus on positive growth. Obviously when someone writes or says ridiculing things it is going to sting. BUT, it is about them. Maybe they are not always petty and small people, and just having a bad afternoon or something, but the behavior is petty and small, so that person gets to own it. Again, I enjoy your honest reflections .
r./
patrick - i did not know you were ridiculed recently on os, and i cant imagine who would do that. i am sorry it happened.

i have only two things on my to-do list today, and have given myself permission to take all day to do them. slow and steady wins the race.

as for too many good ideas and none getting finished properly, i do believe i might win the title of empress of that activity...

nice post - we all can use encouragement, from the inside and the outside.
Patrick, some people need reactions to their remarks, so are outlandish, rude, untrue, painfully true and otherwise. They want to hurt so they hurl. The best ways to handle thinks like that are not always to believe them or let them get you to react. Hard advice to follow sometimes. The thing is, if there is something productive to be gained from it, take it and move on. No use carrying the baggage of haters with you as you try to move through society. Best to you as you work to grow personally. When we give some time to ourselves, we can usually benefit from it. Have a great weekend.
Sorry about the typos!! Too early in the am!
Patrick, I really admire your attitude. Of course it made you feel like crap, but you handled it with grace and dignity and stuck up for yourself. Good on you. I just love "self-esteem is an inside job." That's just golden and I'm going to steal that from you.
What Steel Breeze said :).

Rated for wisdom.
Thanks to all for these comments!
Hope you can hold on to that nice attitude.
Oh I am a fellow obsessor....why? what if? how? when? It makes me crazy and my husband crazier because he is mostly the one I'm asking and he really has no idea why my attorney, doctor, employer won't call me back, maybe because I obsess too much!

Being ridiculed, now that hurts and I know the ole "sticks and stones, blah blah blah" but that is just bull crap. And I'm sorry someone hurt your feelings, that isn't cool. Sorry that happened to you. From everything I've read of yours , I've always enjoyed it.