When someone makes an insolent remark, and displays passive-aggressive behavior through a "subtle" put down (I am not a dumb person), and does it repeatedly, what would be a good response? The best response for me is to simply refuse to be intimidated, to continue to express my truth quietly but straightforwardly.
Let it be said that passive-aggressive behavior is most irritating kind, in my view, more irritating than a frontal assault. Most people prone to this form of behavior are experts, to begin with, and sometimes they don't even realize what they are doing; most of the time they do.
It's hard to even define what you are talking about in a specific case. Sometimes it is just the insolent tone of voice that goes with the remark, an implication that you are stupid or irresponsible when you might be discussing a problem you are having, in an open manner. (Just because you reveal a problem does NOT mean that you are asking for a diagnosis, or a judgmental remark. (This is just one example.)
When you confront rhe person, usually they will deny that their intent is denigrating. But the feeling you get inside yourself is often a clue that a backhanded comment has been made.
What are your thoughts on this matter?