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Oryoki Bowl
February 03
Quaker buddhist, kinda quirky, loves cooking and knitting and movies. Dr Who fan, Scandinavian-aquarian and cat lover. Would love to be paid to travel around the world and write about local healing cultures. While eating and drinking and dancing. One day I will have a health cruise in the fjords.


OCTOBER 21, 2014 10:13PM

Monogamy and the Modern Woman

The beauty of not dating at all is in the time you get to spend finding out what you value.  There is "not dating" because you are too busy, or have a project to finish, or have to focus on something, or feel depressed or asexual.  There is the other "not… Read full post »

OCTOBER 21, 2014 10:11PM

Monogamy and the Modern Woman

The beauty of not dating at all is in the time you get to spend finding out what you value.  There is "not dating" because you are too busy, or have a project to finish, or have to focus on something, or feel depressed or asexual.  There is the other "not… Read full post »

OCTOBER 13, 2014 3:41PM

Bierotosphere: Paradise Found, part 6

Elena looked out the lab window.  She was standing at the sink, scrubbing up tubes and flasks.  The ocean was calm today, after the storms of the last few days.  The sun would set in about two hours.  Her husband should be home soon.  If she hurried, she'd be in time… Read full post »

OCTOBER 10, 2014 5:50PM

Bierotosphere: Hungry, part five

It was monday and Elena and Richard had eaten six mangos and a shared protein bar since saturday morning.  With any luck, someone would find them and let them out today, but they realized they might be locked in until Saturday.  The temperatures were high, and they were getting dehydrated a… Read full post »

Passion has been on my mind a lot lately. 

I want it and I don't.

My body and mind don't process those chemicals they way they used to, and I think it is probably a really good thing.  Except, of course, it's lousy.  Who doesn't want to be absolutely gripped… Read full post »

OCTOBER 7, 2014 4:14PM

Bones, Sticks of Stone

Bones lie down in grooves, like scars against gravity.

Born of dynamic tension, broken by calamity, healed by resistance and grown again into tree rings, marking years of personal drought and high water.  

Bones hold us up and keep us down, bones give form, direction, and match yang to… Read full post »

By the time dusk had fallen that night, Elena realized that Derk wasn't there at the facility, wasn't looking for them at all.  Either he hadn't gotten her message or... or he wasn't coming.  That meant that it could be another day, another two days... up to a week before Tiffany… Read full post »

OCTOBER 5, 2014 3:44PM


What is this thing called chemistry?

A friend recently asked me to write my take on this.  What does it mean, how do you know when it is something to pursue and something to avoid?  How can you quantify it?  How can you qualify it?  I am not sure I  have… Read full post »

OCTOBER 3, 2014 10:28AM

Bierotosphere: Marooned, part three

Elena tried the handle again, but it was tight.  The airlock had been completed, and the sensors were programmed to change in one week.  Unless there was a computer override, which had to be done from the control room.  She reached for her cellphone, only to realize it had been left… Read full post »

OCTOBER 2, 2014 4:09PM

Love in the Time of Ebola

I recently made some decisions in my life around love and sex and dating.  I hadn't been making decisions before, I was going with the flow to see what happened.  I did go with the flow, I responded to my flow and the flow of those not me.  I wanted to… Read full post »

OCTOBER 2, 2014 11:30AM

Bierotosphere: Landlocked, part two

By six pm, Elena had finished all the checklists for the day, and laid out the rest for the week in the control room.  She had done all these tasks before, but not all by herself without backup.  This wasn't a drill, and her career hung on the results.  The season… Read full post »

OCTOBER 1, 2014 12:53PM

Bierotosphere: A desert oasis, part one

"Women may be from Venus, but I'd rather see Uranus," Richard announced to the team.  His punchline was delivered in the same manner as many of his other jokes, as a form of aggression.  A few snorts and guffaws made it up from the downturned heads of the males of the… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 25, 2014 7:43PM

Please, don't ask (bad poetry)

You cannot offer another what you cannot give yourself;
You should not ask from another what you will not ask from yourself.


Always the yearning to be understood. This intimate connection across space and time, perhaps transcendent, or just luminous in its exuberance.  Eac… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 22, 2014 9:19PM

The MOO Club

I spent Sunday in the company of long married people.  It was the occasion of the 50th Wedding Anniversary of some family friends.  I am close friends with their daughter and son, and they are close friends of my aunt and uncle.  The wife and her sister went to grade school… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 4, 2014 5:07PM

Action, Reaction, Attraction

These are either really interesting times, or they are so boring, there is a black hole where your attention would be.  Which, if you have been reading any of what I've been reading lately, is the gateway to the universal consciousness.  Win for me, eyeroll for you.  

This summer has… Read full post »

AUGUST 7, 2014 8:15PM

I think I've been "Ma'am'd"

I think the universe is trying to cock block me.  

Back in March, I met a cute guy at a conference.  Lots in common, easy to talk right away.  He moved the conversation from medical professional to personal interest.  He suggested coffee, I accepted.  Conversation flowed like… Read full post »

JULY 26, 2014 1:47PM

The Feminine Feminist

This year I embarked on a journey of becoming a meditation instructor.  Aside from learning about what it is, and what it isn't, I have learned much about the different styles of meditation and what they are focused on.  There is so much overlap, and yet those subtle differences may be… Read full post »

10.  I did everything you suggested, and it all worked out perfectly.  I would love to pay you more money than you asked for your good advice.  

9.   My ex was also an underwear model, but your mind is so much sexier than hers/his.  (Could be on the giving… Read full post »

In my work, I often find myself in the position of cheerleader.  I listen to the issues that my patients (usually women) bring in, and help them sort them out in a way that is useful.  Usually this means looking at them from another point of view, which means reframing them… Read full post »

MAY 5, 2014 4:43PM

A Girl and Her Cat

I am a cat lady.  Not yet old or crazy, I am on a life path that will include feline companionship more often than human.  For some, a relationship must have certain elements, and for me, one of those elements is "Must love cats".  

I have had lots of kittens… Read full post »

APRIL 23, 2014 4:17PM

Whose mass delusion is this, anyway?

I usually make my commutes in silence, a time where I have no persons or animals to tend to, no chores to be done, no "thing" to accomplish- other than get my body from home to work, in a timely fashion.  I used to use this time for phone calls with… Read full post »

APRIL 22, 2014 3:15PM

Wellness Burnout

The healing arts cannot be driven on science alone.  Bedside manner is only one way in which delivering health care is dependent not just on the information given, but the way it which it is given.  Understanding the complexities of the individual patient in front of you is key to making… Read full post »

Many of you may know that I am generally a pro-peace, choose non-violence kind of person.  I have had a long friendship with Quaker community, and am now actively a Buddhist practitioner.  I grew up with a fair amount of verbal and physical violence in my home, directed at me, at… Read full post »

I had a notion to write a blog today with this title, and as I sat down to formulate what thoughts and ideas I would put into it, I saw that Phyllis had managed to be similarly inspired today.  Live the Life You Want to Live

Personally, I have had a… Read full post »

APRIL 3, 2014 2:47PM


These days, the word narcissist is thrown around like a dollar store diagnosis.  Narcissism, historically, has been considered a male disorder.  The female companion diagnosis, is Borderline Personality Disorder.  Narcissism evokes the Greek Mythology from which it derives its name. &n… Read full post »