Oryoki's House

Where's the Mojitos? I have the guac!

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Oryoki Bowl
February 03
Quaker buddhist, kinda quirky, loves cooking and knitting and movies. Dr Who fan, Scandinavian-aquarian and cat lover. Would love to be paid to travel around the world and write about local healing cultures. While eating and drinking and dancing. One day I will have a health cruise in the fjords.


Many of you may know that I am generally a pro-peace, choose non-violence kind of person.  I have had a long friendship with Quaker community, and am now actively a Buddhist practitioner.  I grew up with a fair amount of verbal and physical violence in my home, directed at me, at… Read full post »

I had a notion to write a blog today with this title, and as I sat down to formulate what thoughts and ideas I would put into it, I saw that Phyllis had managed to be similarly inspired today.  Live the Life You Want to Live

Personally, I have had a… Read full post »

APRIL 3, 2014 2:47PM


These days, the word narcissist is thrown around like a dollar store diagnosis.  Narcissism, historically, has been considered a male disorder.  The female companion diagnosis, is Borderline Personality Disorder.  Narcissism evokes the Greek Mythology from which it derives its name. &n… Read full post »

MARCH 30, 2014 6:08PM

Please, stop stepping on my spinach!

(This is not about leafy green vegetables) 


There is a wonderful danish expression "at traede i spinaten" which roughly translates to "to step on the spinach".  The meaning would compare how when one is out viewing the garden of friend, we have crushed the spinach patch with our big… Read full post »

As a recent returnee to the single life , I have naturally met with all sorts of advice and insight from well meaning folks.  "Learn to be on your own"  "Learn what you want to do" "Focus on yourself" "Learn to love yourself"  Etc.  While I understand why these things are… Read full post »

MARCH 16, 2014 7:59PM

Dating is for Suckers

I have learned a lot these past few years, and a lot of what I have learned is how awful dating is.  It was pretty bad back when I was trying to do it, and I hear no good things about it now.  I am a woman of a certain age,… Read full post »

MARCH 13, 2014 4:14PM


If you don't change when you are in a relationship, you really aren't in a relationship.  You just know somebody, probably killing time, waiting for something else to come along.  Some of us are so into protecting who we think we are, we refuse relationships.  Fear of intimacy is about… Read full post »

Online Free Community College, Open Salon, is revving up to graduate its final class of bloggers, journalists, novelists, poets, memoirists, diarists, artists, commenters and trolls.  With the first week of May in just under two months, getting the graduates sorted and situated with their post S… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 25, 2014 12:28AM

I am done with you, kale, done

Let me be the first to admit I am totally sick of kale.  I say this as I eat my last kale salad, at my desk, wishing I had just gone for the romaine or mixed greens.  

I eat healthy, and I love my vegetables.  Every week I am at… Read full post »

Today marked a first for me.  I was asked to convene the Vipassana group I sit with on Sundays.  Our "leader", who founded the group many years ago, and who has dedicated hours of her time each Sunday to overseeing the care of 1 to 2 sits, has asked others to… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 17, 2014 12:26AM

Latenight Valentine Fauxrotica: Vincent

"Today's the day!" Eliza exclaimed, turning over the just delivered envelope in her hands.  Thick padding, silver paper, sealed and embossed.  Emotrix Industries.  "Today's the day, Vincent," she called again, turning her head back over her shoulder to catch his attention.  He was… Read full post »

What makes you click?  

This is the question I am asking you, personally, to take the time to answer in the comments section.  

What makes you, demographic information here, personalization there, decide to click on an ad, follow a lead, print out a coupon, show up to an appointment,… Read full post »

JANUARY 30, 2014 2:25PM

A Rose By Any Other Name...

I have a friend who changed her name a few years ago.   Twice.  First, she went to change her name, after her divorce.  In filing the paperwork, it turned out that she had never legally changed her name after the marriage.  Despite living as Mrs... all these years, with all… Read full post »

This question popped into my head the other day, as I was ruminating over a series of recent incidents in my life.  

When is it the best choice to just shut up and let things go without making a comment or forcing a conversation?

I hear people say that… Read full post »

My sister called, a little disturbed.  She had been on a date recently (good) that went well (great) with a guy she met on a new dating app for her phone.  She hadn't looked into it, but a friend insisted she try it.  After a second, good date and phone chat,… Read full post »

DECEMBER 29, 2013 5:22PM

Days of Grace

I could never have predicted what this past year would become.  Coming close on the heels of the 2012 year of disasters, I imagined a year of change (of course) but nothing I had in mind this past Dec 31st.  

What a difference a year makes.  

Somehow, my plans… Read full post »

The recent ruckus over White Santa has me contemplating the current state of the War on Solstice, and cultural appropriation.  Thankfully, much of the US has been completely whipped with a snow and ice frenzy par excellence.  I haven't seen any ironic White Christmas memes go out.  My… Read full post »

It's that special time of the week again when we gather round our LED fire places and throw some kindling on the Yule Log!  Except this is no ordinary week, it is the week before Festivus!  What a better time than come together and collectively grieve the year of 2013!  … Read full post »

DECEMBER 7, 2013 7:23PM

Stopping by OS on a Snowy Evening

Whose posts these are, I think I know

Her blog is in the village, though

She will not see me stopping here,

To read her posts and fill with hope


My little cat must think it queer

To read without a sound in ear

The tv’s off, the ipod’s dimmed,… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 28, 2013 8:18PM

Black Death Friday

Angel rolled over and patted his girlfriend on the shoulder,

"I don't think we should go, I am feeling kind of bad."

"Nonsense, you just ate too much again.  It will be good for you, sweat off that second piece of pie."  Maria was scooting out of bed, crossing the room… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 27, 2013 11:58AM

Eating for Enlightenment

There are, stricktly speaking, no enlightened people, there is only enlightened activity. 

-Shunryu Suzuki 


It's that special time of year when food takes on a whole new section of the national consciousness.  Holiday eating. Depending on your religion, your level of comm… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 18, 2013 2:33PM

Enduring Love, for the Moment

The object of meditation in Vipassana is the breath.  There are reasons for this.  One, everyone who is meditating or trying to meditate breathes.  If you aren't breathing, and you aren't conscious, meditation is not likely in the forefront of your ... priorities.  So, everyone ha… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
NOVEMBER 15, 2013 2:54PM

Latenight Valentine Fauxrotica: Vincent

"Today's the day!" Eliza exclaimed, turning over the just delivered envelope in her hands.  Thick padding, silver paper, sealed and embossed.  Emotrix Industries.  "Today's the day, Vincent," she called again, turning her head back over her shoulder to catch his attention.  He was… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 7, 2013 11:34PM

Get Your Karma OFF My LAWN!

I belong to a Thursday night book club, it meets twice monthly, and it is essentially a Buddhish book club.  We sit, we reflect on the book we are currently sharing (about dharma, karma, buddhism), we sit some more, we have an open discussion about the book or something else in… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 6, 2013 1:58PM

Live to Work.... Work to Live

I caught a bit end of a BBC documentary the other night on some of Scotland's small islands in the Shetland Island archipelago- Foula and FairIsle.  If you have spent any time here, or Scandinavia, or just visited extensively through documentary and movie, you will often ask yourself why people… Read full post »