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Lucy Simpson

Lucy Simpson
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Monument, Colorado, United States
Birthday
December 20
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The Cleaner
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I am a published poet and exhibited artist living in the shadow of the small, but lovely Mount Herman, a part of the majesty of the Rocky Mountains. I raise children, tend gardens, cook, write, clean, sculpt, read.....................................................................................

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AUGUST 9, 2010 7:58PM

Objects of Ourselves

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In the Reeds by Lucy Simpson

 

I wanted a Betsy Wetsy.  I got an ugly doll named Nancy that I loved and hated as much as I loved and hated myself. I dressed her and learned to dress myself, always forgetting some key element of clothing, because my head was not in that practical space yet. I was busy wondering and wandering the world. Who could remember socks when Santa could pop in for a visit any moment, if he were real? The head only held space for so many thoughts and mine was already filled with important matters. The moon, was it really following me? It seemed suspicious, the way it trailed the car at night, always visible outside my window, no matter how hard my father pressed the pedal to the metal.  Even his big stogies didn't scare off that moon or the occasional stray mosquito of a summer night.

Nancy stayed in the closet in the cockpit of my airplane. I also had Amelia Earhart in me, that lost adventurer of the skies. I put on my winter hat, pretending it was a leather pilot helmet and flew with Nancy, that ingenue by my side.

Nancy was not a Betsy Wetsy, though I did soak her frilly panties to make it look as if she wet herself. Then I'd make her sit in the corner, “horrid girl.” I sheared off all her blond hair. I beat her and kissed her. I held her close at night sometimes, frightened by my own desperate need to love and be loved.

Sometimes I still think of Nancy, thrown out when I grew older, when I preferred dolls with plastic pointy boobs. I feel guilt about the way I treated that extension of myself, unworthy of love. It was power over something, a plastic thing with no soul – but still a part of me lived in that dented and dirty doll.

I watch my four-year-old daughter chastise and adore her dolls, her mood variable as fickle weather.  Although I long to protect the plastic babies, because in them I see shades of the real, I let her beat and love them as I did.  She can control something smaller that will never countermand or leave her.  There is a safety in these effigies for girls.  There is valuable learning in the play she enacts each day.

I think of Nancy whenever I read The Velveteen Rabbit. An essence of us sneaks into our most valued objects.  A few years back, I wandered into an antique shop in Colorado.  My daughter was inside me then, my son the age she is now.  I peered into a worn satin mourning bonnet from the mid nineteenth century, wondering how many times the poor woman had to wear the bonnet in heat and snow. I thought I heard a cackle, that jovial, almost acceptance of life, death and everything in between.

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This is brilliant. From the title to the last sentence. Wow._r
Beautiful. All the lines drawn up into one huge idea. I admire your writing.
Nice to meet you, this is my first read on your blog and I'll definitely be back!
Very beautiful piece of memory.
walking backwards is nice sometime....you made me think of my old dolls...Miss Beasley, Baby Alive (who would want the dead version) and Tippy Toes (comeplete with accessories) :)
Lucy - this pulled me in so fast, and then I actually hurt, when you said "horrid girl." I remembered -- and not till I read this -- driving home late in the evening, watching the moon, for the same reason. Thank you for evoking it.
Brilliant and beautiful..
"An essence of us sneaks into our most valued objects." I believe this is so. It is not materialism to value the artifacts of our lives. Thank you for this fine post!
Thanks for the kind words.
I liked this. It's interesting how childhood things sometimes stick with us for a very long time.