Mary Stanik

Mary Stanik
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Minneapolis, Minnesota,
Birthday
September 22
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Communications consultant. I hike, I skate, I love Canada, and I think every life should have some wild child left in it. I'm @mstanik0 on Twitter. And I'm trying to find an agent for my first novel, which involves a psychic, an Icelandic volcano, and a young hospital spokesperson desperately in need of a life less ordinary.

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DECEMBER 1, 2011 8:57AM

An unforeseen engagement...and cigarettes

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In August, I wrote a story for these pages called “Unforeseen Romance and Cigarettes” that concerned a quite attractive man and woman I had observed since last winter while walking in downtown Minneapolis.  I had seen them smoking outside their posh office tower on a number of occasions and had watched their relationship move from somewhat awkward cigarette comrades to something a great deal more (my story ended with my unexpectedly witnessing them romantically share a piece of strawberry-topped cheesecake). 

Since publishing the story, I have seen them on a number of other occasions (although I have tried to take much better than Inspector Clouseau care to not have them see me, for fear that they had maybe read my story and would feel something less than pleasure in having been the subject of one of my favorite pieces).  And I’ve noticed that this young couple have indeed become a real “couple” and that the young woman appears to have lost about 30 of the 60 or 70 pounds I thought she perhaps should lose. 

Well, in a move that will surprise no one who reads much on Open Salon, this young man and woman found me.  In a separation of only about three degrees, they contacted me earlier this week through an acquaintance of mine and asked if they could meet me.  They seemed most excited to have been the focus of the story.  And as it was, we met last night for cocktails (but alas, no cigarettes, as I don’t smoke anything stronger than a ballpoint pen, and only when stressed, and Minneapolis bars and restaurants have been smoke-free for years).  Knowing that this couple is usually turned out in quite nice clothing (I think I mentioned that I swear he is often in Armani Collezioni and it turns out, I was right.  Useful skill, being able to detect Armani.), I took care to wear something quite fashionable.  Black velvet and spike-heeled shoes usually work.

But despite their almost too perfect designer looks, this young man and woman, each age 28, exemplify the best of Minnesota Nice.  Without any passive-aggressive tendencies.  They recognized me right away and said they were “so happy to meet you, Miss Stanik.”  I don’t know if it means one is in the elderly aunt who douses too much lilac water category when one is called “Miss” or if they were just being cautiously polite.  I’m just hoping they had read some of my stories about being single. 

We ordered drinks, he a British beer, she a glass of Chardonnay, and, me, my customary Crown Royal Canadian whisky and ginger ale.  They both remarked that Canadian whisky is “pretty strong, I cannot drink it.”  Because nicotine is pretty gentle.  Anyway, the young man said the evening’s libations were his treat.   I’ll call him Erik, a nice Minnesota name.  Although they are thrilled to be the subject of my stories, they do not want to be identified because their parents, siblings and other close relatives do not know that they…smoke.   I don’t know how they pull such deception off but I almost did not care if they called me Miss again.

The reason they wanted to meet me was because, besides finding my story quite entertaining, they wanted to tell me some news.  They work in the same building but for different firms.  They started dating in late June but they had been smoking together since just before last Christmas.  And, just in time for the holidays, they became engaged at Thanksgiving.  The wedding is set for later next summer.  I asked them if they celebrated their news with champagne or cigarettes.  They just smiled most shyly.  She quietly said, while looking at him with one of the beamiest faces I’ve ever seen on anyone not officially an angel; well, champagne, of course.  I told them I was delighted.   I also told them I thought they ought to think about quitting smoking but being a staunch believer in the freedom of choice, I would leave that to them and any thoughts of future robust health and white teeth.

I had the most wonderful evening with these two, who are about as singsong, storybook Minnesota as one could imagine:  families with cabins “up north,” a huge mutual love of hockey, ice skating, skiing,  one or two enunciated “Uff Das” and enough Norwegian and Danish blood between them to ensure any children they might have also could be natural blondes.  They didn’t even duck out to have a smoke, which I found most remarkable.  I asked them to call me Mary.  And while I cannot take credit for their romance, with or without cigarettes, I felt that warm and toasty glow (and it wasn’t from the whisky, as I only had two drinks) you can get from feeling you did something, anything, to make someone else feel, well, warm and toasty.  They said they would “super like to stay in touch” and that I ought to come to the wedding, adding, perhaps a bit too enthusiastically, that “of course, if you have a date or a boyfriend or SOMETHING (capital letters mine), you can bring him along.”  Oh what the hell.  They’re young.  They smoke.  They’re in love.  They dress like models.  Christmas is on the way.  I’ll try to think of something.

The night air was cold when I left the bar but my glow remained.  It does still.  Joy to the world.

Romance  

 

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Mary ~ wow, that's quite a fascinating story that transpired there in Minneapolis! I can't think of a similar situation like this having been mentioned before on OS. I'll be keeping an eye out for further developments and the wedding news, too!
You definitely should go to the wedding...with signed and framed copies of your stories. (Although you may want to tell them to open them in private, lest the secret come out).
How adorable. I especially like the "SOMETHING", does it have to be something animate?
They could be headed to Gopher Prairie; she may endeavor to improve the place. I'll try to read the original before the IDS blocks out the sun.
Im so curious about how they found your story. So heartwarming. I wish my life were that simple. I hope they live happily ever after.
Sounds like the beginning of a bbc series, Miiiiiiiss Stanik. As a former smoker, I was surprised at how many people assured me I didn't smoke, but I think there are a few things about how you handle it that changes the perception. Next, you can observe me in my natural habitat and then write about why I am still not married. :)
Such a great story. Don't be surprised if you get contacted by the Today Show or some other TV network looking for a cuddly, warm and cozy holiday love story. ... Just saying. ... And loved, loved, loved your descriptions of the local culture and traditions. I've never been to that part of the world, but I listen to Garrison Keillor, and enjoy his take on it.
Uff da, ya! Our own little OS reality show. Charmingly told. I feel a tad warm and toasty, too, and it's 47 out right now. So. Who ya gonna take to the wedding? A fashionably dressed non-smoker, I would guess.
Mary,

This is such a beautiful story! And I share those Armani detection skills. I find that they often come in handy. :)
I'm a Svenski from Duluth but my parents escaped from the tundra when I was a kid. Still, having been surrounded by Minnesotans all my life i could picture everything vividly...even the smoking. Lovely writing.
The wedding would be a great excuse for a fabulous dress. I mean, if the groom's wearing Armani...

Now teach them to drink whisk(e)y.
What a great story, with captivating writing Mary. I am waiting to hear about their honey moon in North Dakota with lefsa and ludifisk as the main entre at their wedding reception. Next chapter please!!
You are always in the middle of miracles....and your stories are so beautiful, it's no wonder!! You're right...it doesn't surprise me that you were "found" by this couple. You should go to the wedding...and in a perfect world they would name their first child after you!!
Mary, I do believe you are a romantic at heart. I wish we lived closer and could go out for some whisky to contemplate ;)
Wonderful!

Take your laptop to the wedding and live-blog it!
Tres chic, both thought and paint. Beautiful piece. R
that warm and toasty glow (and it wasn’t from the whisky, as I only had two drinks) you can get from feeling you did something, anything, to make someone else feel, well, warm and toasty.

yeah i know it well. ha, it gets me to sleep at nite.
a gallon of champagne & a carton of newports for
every guest at the wedding. super.
What a happy fun story!
What a lovely story, I loved this!!!!
Sweet story Mary. Funny how they found out about your post. And surprisingly they turned out to be charmingly normal. This sounds like serialization.
Mary, I looked for the fiction tag here but it's true. Good outcome of blog writing.

"They both remarked that Canadian whisky is “pretty strong, I cannot drink it.” Because nicotine is pretty gentle. -- That made me laugh.

You Americans loved that whisky during Prohibition, glad to hear it's still you still are.

The only thing: love is love regardless of recommended body size.
I wanted to put that there in case the young woman is reading this. Thanks for sharing this story.
btw, ugh, too many "stills" in the above comment but after all we are talking about whiskey ... ;)
Mary:

Maybe not "only in Minnesota" but I'm not surprised it's Minnesota. Aren't the bizarre and sometimes wonderful side effects of blogging fun? Does add something too ones life, what that that "something" is that we do here, you do it very well.
P.S. Viceroy's suck, put the Marlboro Man up there and give us really old women (with a cig hanging out of our mouths) a treat!
I love everything about their love story except the smoking. The description of these rarified lovebirds as storybook Minnesota was cute. We know it's an elegant place because that is where FSF was from.
Yeah! Loved this story. Charming.
LOVED this! now i have to go and read the original story...best for the holidays to you, Mary, and your loyal readers!

ps how many drinks does it take to make you warm & toasty? ;)
What a great story and delightfully written.
It truly does sound like a Minnesota Fairy Tale.
I hope they live happily ever after and name the first girl after you,
there can never be enough Marys in the world.
rated with love
Oh, this is so cool. You've described these two so well! I am wanting to hear about the wedding now too.
I think a fabulous Wedding is the best ending to this tale.
What a wonderful story, and I understand how you must feel, about having had something to do with it.

I hope, however, that I never see them. Wouldn't want to jinx your good work.
Greetings Miss Mary,
Catching up on some reading!
Missed this one when u posted it!
Wow! you are a real fairy god mother to these two. " Black velvet dress and spike healed shoes ussually work",with those beautiful lochs and eyes! Oh my! Could smell the John Bull and Crown Royal clear cross the country. Cheers!!
You make Minn sound and feal like a magical place similar to Camalot!
Love the way you sense, see, hear, feel and transcribe your personal experiences.

So look forward to reading your book, hardly can wait for it to be published!