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Rev. Dr. Monte Canfield

Rev. Dr. Monte Canfield
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Rev. Dr. Monte Canfield
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Retired Protestant Pastor and Theologian, jointly credentialed in the United Church of Christ and the Moravian Church. Education: BA, MA, M.Div, Thd. Public Service: NY State Office of Executive Development, Management Intern; Federal Exec. Branch: Executive Office of the President, Budget Examiner, Bureau of the Budget; Interior, Director of Energy and Minerals, Bureau of Land Management; Non Profit: Ford Foundation, Deputy Director, Energy Policy Project; Congressional: Director, Office of Special Projects; Director, Division of Energy and Materials, General Accounting Office; Private industry: Vice President, Grow Group, Inc.; Chief Executive Officer, US Paint; Owner, the Energy Center, St. Louis. Christian service: Pastor, First Congregational UCC, Ottawa, Illinois; Pastor, St. Paul's UCC, Port Washington, Ohio; Pastor, Moravian Church, Gnadenhutten, Ohio.

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FEBRUARY 5, 2009 6:10PM

A WWII Romance, Part IV

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A WWII Romance, Part IV

Part I:  http://open.salon.com/content.php?cid=99576

Part II:  http://open.salon.com/content.php?cid=99860

Part III:   http://open.salon.com/content.php?cid=100546



Wilma and Al did as they promised and wrote to each other daily, but there was no way Al could get to the only phone on his floor at the Tacoma Hospital.  That was not because he could not physically get there.  He was now able to use a wheel chair to get around the ward and down the hall to the solarium and to the small PX stand at the end of the hall where he could buy cigarettes, toiletries, newspapers, magazines and such.  

But the rule about using the phone in the hall outside his ward was different for each patient.  In his case he was told that he would be able to use the phone when he could walk to it unassisted.  And while that rule seemed unnecessarily cruel it would turn out to be the best incentive for intensive therapy that he could have had.

The physical therapists at Tacoma took one look at his wounds and told him point blank that the doctors were wrong about him never being able to walk and they even claimed that they had seen worse loss of muscle tissue than his.  And, most importantly, they all said that they had taught those soldiers to walk again. Al was startled by that good news and determined all the more to prove the therapists right and the doctors wrong.  

When next he saw Wilma he wanted to walk up to her and take her in his arms, not greet her in a wheelchair and see pity on her face. From that day forward until the end of his life his unstated highest priority goal was to be able to do as much physically as any other man. And in each instance where he was challenged by that goal he met or exceeded it.  

(Years later when I was old enough to understand I would look at Dad’s legs when he wore a swim suit and could not imagine how he did it. From about 6” above his knee there was simply no muscle in the front of the legs up to where his leg joined his body. There were long, thick tendons that the doctors had spared, but it was possible to see the bone just under the skin. Viewed from the side it was like someone had simply scooped out the front half of his upper legs.)

While Al now had a plan and a potential surprise for Wilma when he saw her, Wilma too showed a determination in spirit that her friends would tell her was simply “not like Wilma.”

 Wilma had always gotten pretty much anything she wanted.  As the youngest girl in the family she was her Daddy’s favorite and he saw to it that got she what she wanted.

Even when she got married at a far younger age than her parents had hoped she at least picked a man who was from a well known family in the next town, a graduate of Kansas University Journalism School who came from a long line of small town newspaper owners. And the fact that he was seven years older than her seemed to her parents a good thing since he could provide some stability in a life that seemed to be perpetually on the brink of being out of control.
 
And Wilma’s husband, my biological father, Monte Eugene Canfield, Sr., simply took over giving her anything she wanted.  He was good to her and gave her all of the things she said she needed.  But he could not give her childhood back to her.  He could not remove a baby that came far too soon into the life of one who was in many ways but a child herself. And so after two years of trying to be the wife everybody said she should be, she left him, not for another man, but in a desperate attempt to go back to where she was when she quit school and married on a whim. That she was trying to live the years of freedom she had lost was evident when she decided to leave her son with her mother for an indefinite period.  If she regretted doing that she never said so.

Now Wilma felt that she was old enough to know exactly what she was doing, which was unlikely, but as long as she felt it was so she would stubbornly follow up on her conviction.  So she started saving money and not spending it as soon as she got it and then asking Daddy to bail her out if need be.  

And she got a real daytime job at the Princess Dress Shop, a upscale shop that catered to what little “society” there was in Topeka.  She chose to work on commission rather than for wages because she was convinced she would be a good sales person.  And that proved to be the case.  The society women loved the way she was attentive to every detail and she far outshone the other sales girls at the shop.  She saved all of that money and lived on the money she made singing, which she continued to do, both at the lounge and with the big bands that would come to town.

By August Wilma had saved more than enough for a train ticket to Tacoma and back so she then told her parents of her intention to go to Washington state to visit Al. Up to that point Wilma had told them essentially nothing about Al and so her mother was more than a little concerned.  

Her mother, who had essentially no education herself, was angry that Wilma had left Monte Sr. and dropped the boy into her lap without notice.  And while she loved the boy she called “Monte Gene” and treated him as one of her own large brood, she felt that Wilma had stupidly walked away from a good marriage. So her mother, Lola Mae Isaacs, from whom Wilma had garnered every possible gene relating to relentless stubbornness and torturous investigation of the activities of their children, started in on Wilma to find out who this Alva Amos Galemore really was.

Wilma eventually told her mother everything she knew about Al, and also gave Lola the names, address and phone number of Al’s parents in Humbolt. Lola got that information out of her on the pretext that she wanted to call them and tell them what a good and brave boy Al was and such other lies as she needed to convince Wilma to cough up the information.

With the information in hand Lola promptly called Monte Sr.’s mother, Ola Canfield Shade, a prominent Kansas newspaper woman and owner/publisher of the newspaper in neighboring Scranton. Both women thought the divorce was a mistake and were convinced that once Wilma got a bit older and calmed down she could be talked into going back to Monte Sr. and to raise the boy properly.

Ola Canfield Shade knew just about every newspaper man or woman in Kansas.  Not only was she a respected newspaper publisher but she had twice been President of the Kansas Press Association, an unheard of accomplishment by a woman in the years during and immediately after the war. She was also highly active in the Republican Party in Kansas, the only party in Kansas in those days. She was a Republican National Committee Woman and three time delegate to the Republican National Convention.

It took Ola less than a day to find out all they needed to know about the Galemores of Humbolt, Kansas.  The word passed along from several sources who knew the Galemores well was uniformly the same: the Galemores were nothing but poor white trash.  In those days that label meant something, and that something was the worst one could be if you were not “Negro” or “Mexican.”  Poor white trash, Negroes and Mexicans were all held to be of the lowest caste known to exist in 1940s Kansas.  

It mattered not that the stereotype may not apply to an individual or to entire groups of people in those stereotyped classes who might fight his or her way out of the socioeconomic situation they were born into.  Lola and Ola simply knew that Al Galemore was the worst possible thing that Wilma had ever been exposed to.  And both women would hold that prejudice until the day they died.

Armed with this information Lola called her daughter and asked her to come down to Burlingame to talk about her visit out west.  She made it sound like she just wanted to understand how it would go and hinted that she might help with the cost of the trip. When Wilma arrived the following Sunday Lola was ready with both barrels loaded and cocked and pointing straight at Wilma.  She told her that Al was nothing but poor white trash, that she was a fool to waste any more time on him, and that if she persisted in this stupidity she would see that all further financial assistance for her “dalliance” in Topeka would be taken away.

Wilma who was just as arrogant and stubborn as her mother told Lola to go to hell and that she should just stop trying to run her life. And it was at that very point that she decided that she was not only going to visit Al, she was going to stay in Tacoma until he was well when she would then marry him!  Of course, Wilma, true to her own scheming self, told absolutely no one about this.  She certainly was not going to tell her mother.   So she stormed out of the house, walked next door and asked an old high school flame if she could borrow his car.

With that she borrowed the car, looked at her watch, and then decided to wait an hour at the creek side park on the edge of town. She wanted to fit her departure from Burlingame to the Greyhound bus schedule.  She then drove out to one of her Daddy’s mines a few miles south of town where she knew he would be because they were opening a new tunnel at that point.

She calmly walked up the steps to the office, walked in, gave him a big hug and kiss and asked him for $200 to go visit a sick friend out of state.
 
Wilma knew that her mother would not have told her Daddy of her investigation of Al, that had she done so he would have stopped it, and that Daddy did not classify people into categories, having worked himself up from a 10 year old coal miner in Wales to his current position as the owner of three mines in America. To William (Bill) Isaiah Isaacs, the American Dream was real and he was living proof of it.  He knew that he only had a fifth grade education as would be classified as “poor white trash” by his own wife were he not married to her.

So Wilma’s Daddy, reached into his overalls pocket, pulled out a wad of bills, peeled off $200, asked her if that would be enough, accepted a hearty squeeze, a kiss on the cheek and a saccharine “Thank you, Daddy” from Wilma.  He told her, as he always did, to be careful and to let him know if she needed anything else.  He did not ask her exactly who she was visiting, where, or when she would return. He loved her, indulged her in all her whims and never expected anything from her except her love. Wilma, of course, thought nothing of loving him and using him at the same time.  She had done it for years.

She now had more than enough money to implement her newly formed plan. So she drove into town to Thew’s Drug Store which was also the Greyhound Bus stop, called her former boy friend, and asked him if he could pick up the car at the drug store. Shortly she boarded the afternoon bus for Topeka and decided not to look back.  

All her thoughts were focused on her new plan, and she had a lot more packing to do than she had thought she would do when she had arrived in Burlingame that morning.  It bothered her not one whit that she was about to walk out forever on both her job at the Princess Shop, and the job at the lounge, and the gigs with the big bands.  She could not care less that she was not going to give her landlord or her roommates any notice of moving out of her apartment.

Yes, she had a plan, and that plan started with packing for a permanent move.  And nobody else had a clue, including Al.  But she had no doubt that he would ask her to marry him whenever she thought the time was right. Al was beautiful, sweet, kind, gentle and humble. And he was infinitely easy to manipulate. Most importantly, Al was a man, and men gave Wilma whatever  she wanted. She saw, exactly as she saw with her Daddy, nothing wrong with loving Al and manipulating him to fit her purposes. She was just being Wilma.

To be continued………..

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Monte,

I am so loving this story. Wilma sounds like a handful: you paint her beautifully.
Well, mah, she was a handful then and when she later raised me she was even more so. I had the bruises to prove it. I don't want to paint her to be worse than she was, but she was every bit as much a force of nature as I describe her here.

Monte
Monte I'm loving this story. Do you think Wilma's stubbornness and willingness to simultaneously love and manipulate people was born out of her love for life? Because that's an obvious trait in her personality. I'll bet you got that from her, didn't you.
I've got the words coming about as fast as I can, Jim. Should get another one out tomorrow night, but have to go to the Cleveland Clinic tomorrow which will eat up the day.

COS: She did have a wonderful zest for life. And I certainly did inherit that from her.

But I think that the need to manipulate others arose not out of her DNA but out of learning at the foot of a master all her life. Her mother was one of the classic manipulators of all time. I learned it from my mother and used it until I quit drinking in 1990. I had no question that I had learned it from another master.

Of course, once I gave up that manipulation for a more open and honest life style, I was quite ashamed of how much I had used other people for many, many years. I never manipulated people as crudely and with the viciousness that Mom did, but the result was the same. After I joined AA I had many, many amends to make as I worked the 12 steps.

Monte
Monte - this is just an incredible story. I am fascinated by all the relationships in this story - not just that of Wilma and Al. Wonderful writing.
You write really well and Wilma is definitely a force to reckon with.
Monte - every character (all of which truly are "characters"!) in this tale is remarkable and I cannot imagine how you remember, or researched all this detail. I love the twists and turns, and my loyalties and sympathies switch from one to another - just like life. I have mixed feelings about Wilma and can't wait to see how I end up feeling about her!!
Whoa, this is a great tale and fine narrative writing, Monte. I'd say effortless, but I know better.

What a helluva screenplay it'd make....
Monte - Your posts are such a tonic for me. Love this continuing story and how much resonates with me about the similarities between Wilma and my mother and much of her background. Very nostalgic and bittersweet. Lovely, Monte and much needed.
wow Monte! This just keeps getting better and better! Love the people involve and this reads like a screenplay out of the era. I swear it's a black and white movie. Liz Taylor and Bogey come to mind though I don't know if they were prominent yet, that is who I picture in the lead roles.

PS- good luck at the clinic. Really hope you get some good news for a change from them.
Dusty, thanks for your comment and I am glad that you found the other characters important in their own right. They did their best manipulate Wilma and Wilma was determined to not let that happen. It was a mighty test of wills. Interestingly the two main men in the story, Al, my then soon to be step dad, and my granddad, Bill, were very strong men when it came to things like courage and determination, honesty and loyalty, and in both cases. love of country. But both had a big Achilles heel in that all of their lives they were easily charmed by their women and would do almost anything to avoid a direct fight with them. And in my family avoiding a fight meant only one thing: you lose.

Yea, Moana, Wilma was some force to be reckoned with, indeed. Even after overcoming two deadly cancers, invasive cervical and lung, where the docs said that she would die and she told them that she would not because she was not done raising her boys yet, she would not give in to the ravages of emphysema from her three pack a day habit. She died as she lived: determined to beat down any and everything in her way. The pneumonia in the end could not be beaten and she died at a relatively young 59.

dcv, you have good insight into the characters and know Wilma pretty well already. She played the others for all she was worth and mostly won. By the end of our relationship through high school when I moved, or rather, was kicked out in my senior year, it was a textbook love/hate relationship on both sides. I would by then just call it a sick relationship. I had mixed feelings about her until about five years before she died when I just decided to take her for who she was, because she was never going to change, and to thank her for the good parts and ignore the bad parts. It was the only way I got any closure.

Monte
Thanks, B1 and MIke for reading and commenting.

While I think that someone could easily make a decent screenplay out of this story, what is missing is the dialogue. I suppose I could reconstruct it because I know how each of the characters spoke, their patterns, favorite phrases, etc. But I haven't put much dialogue in here because when they told me the story, each from their own perspective, and in bits and pieces over the years, they seldom used dialogue in the telling.

The test for me has been to be as true as I can be to what the storytellers each told me, never all at once, but in little vignettes and anecdotes and scraps of the story. The difficulty has been to place those memories into some reasonable order and to try to not fill in the blanks too much with a "guess" as to what happened when, etc. Getting it in sensible order has been the hardest part. Once I had that the actual writing does come easily.

Monte
Hey, Cathy, if there are similarities between Wilma and your mom then we both had a handful to deal with over the years. I do think that there is that feeling and taste of bittersweet in the telling of this story. That is an astute observation. So much of what I think of my own childhood was so far from the sitcoms of the 50s and 60s as to seem to have happened on another planet altogether. There was so much live melodrama and hysteria floating in the air constantly than it is little wonder that I came away from it all with a kind of deer in the headlights "What just happened?" feeling. It took me a long time to start to sort the pieces out, figure out the angles of all the characters and then put it together again.

Thanks, always, for your wonderful support.

Mont
Cindy, you have been a real trooper to read all of what I have written so far in one sitting. I am honored. I am not totally certain but right now it looks like the rest of this story will take two more Chapters which I believe I can write this weekend. I'm going to start on Chapter V tonight and see how far I get with it. I'll send you a notice when I post it.

Monte.
Monte Gene, this is better than a night with Turner Classics. Who plays Wilma in the movie version? I say it's got to be Barbara Stanwick.
Cute, Laurel. It has to be somebody who can be both appealing and turn on a dime and be a bitch. Stanwick would be excellent. So would Bette Davis or Joan Crawford. Crawford's real life (Mommie Dearest) comes closer to the life I lived with my mother later on. But, yes, absolutely one of those women who know how to kick a guy around.

Thanks for keeping coming back.

Monte
This is such a lovely story. I am so hooked on it.. Good him to get so determinded to walk again and prove the doctor's wrong. and good for her to follow her heart and make things happen for the both of them.
You are such an awesome story teller.. Thank you
Thanks, again, fireeyes. Part V will be up this afternoon.

Monte.
Most of what I wanted to say has already been said. I'm going to read the other bits right not. As I read this a soundtrack of Glen Miller tunes was buzzing in my head.
ablonde: Thanks for commenting. Part V, the next to last part, will be posted in a little bit.

Monte
Thank you, Kay. It wasn't until I could be just a bit objective about Wilma that I was able to come to accept her as she was, not as an ideal mother would have been.

Monte
Monte - quick question if you're reading this - how do you put the reader count at the bottom of your page?

I really love how you show all facets of Wilma, details that make me admire her determination and others that make me cringe. Have you ever thought of expanding these chapters and turning them into a novel? Certainly you have a large group of readers hooked on the plotline!
Thanks for continuing to read this series.

I sent you a PM on the hit counter.

I have thought about turning it into a memoir after I write the next series that will take off where this one ends. But not a novel.

Monte
I certainly see why some of my own stories are difficult reading for you. It is interesting hearing the story from your perspective.

I am in the grips of your story, told so well and with the necessary hindsight. On to the conclusion.
Thanks again, Buffy. I hope the final two chapters will give you a bit of a lift.

Monte