I am sure that this will not be the first argument in regard to Ann Mittney's "I stood at home and raised five children" comment. I am sure that social psychologist are able to make some pretty heady arguments on the behalf of both sides of the coin. Staying at home in the year 2012 is no bargain, (just look at the price of gas.) There are also many other areas that are scarry, you want a good child care provider? they want a good paycheck, one that will afford them insurance, pay for college credits, and also leave a couple of bucks for the numerous "things" that seem to catch the eyes of many us so called humans.
It is an apathethic argument in my eyes, we have discussions too many times to tell, there are book shelves packed with the whys and musts and does and don'ts of practically any librairy. Some people care deeply about the situation of working women, as a matter of fact they study it. It is studied from what perspective women are seen in jobs, is it from the perspective of a government study? Is for the reports for consumerism? Those studies usually show how women far out weigh men in being superiour in this department, but when it comes to earning dollars, women are still not equal to men.
This argument has been going on for as long as I could remember, what does pay say about social issues? Does a woman who works have more say in her home affairs? Some would disagree, it just balances out expenses, it depends I would also think on what the husband does as well, or significant other, what so ever it be. Some people have two incomes, but still earn less or are just above the poverty level. Others manage by being savvy shoppers, craigs list, discounts, coupons, but that can become tiresome. But I am sure with bills and insurance and college for kids, or other problems that come about from life, end up being split down the middle and some losing homes in the foreclousure mess.
Where does it end? the perpetual question of being a stay at home mother as opposed to going to work depends on two things in my eyes? Can you cut the mustard? can you get by people in your work place who make issues out of nothing much? gossip about co-workers? talk about what they earn? speak about finding other work, don't do their work? bosses that are overly bossey, or under bossey, there are other areas as well. Are you required to dress like casual dress? do they treat their employees like human beings or are they objects? There are volumes written on human resources and the lack of not to mention other gray areas, such as race, illegal aliens, and business that don't disclose reasons why they hire then fire, because they don't have to.
In the big picture talk of work is a far relief for most, some are lucky they seem to have the ideal job, whether they have crafted out a niche item, or they are savvy business people, they entertain, or they learn a new way to spin an old idea, there are a myraid of ways the job market has changed. If you have read "What Color Is Your Parachute" Richard Bolles, you would be well aware that even simple work is not so simple. Being bonded at your job is serious business, having insurance is stating that your employer understands a big piece of the human condition. People get sick, and need medical attention notice I said, "people get sick" I didn't say people "may" get sick. They get sick, it's a fact of life, there are numerous affairs to speak about on the nature of work.
There are people that are great at certain jobs, others not so great...with out going in to details we as a society need to justify why we have this ego, in regard to telling people what to do. People can act coherently on theri own basic instinct, some people resent having student loans, oh well... many people other wise with out them, would be sitting looking into the abyss of dullness and never being able to realize very much more, than just living. Other people attend fine universitys and make a contribution towards the medical fields, or towards fiances, or towards humanitarian areas, others can find new ways in which to develop interest in new ventures.
Thankfully we live in times where we can be pretty flexible in making decisions, just as we web cast and now can speak spontaneously to people about different subjects, we should encourage debate regarding how we can identify what those culprits are and make better choices regarding jobs, since they become paramount with our families. We take home our day to day dealings, whether we think we do or not we do. We need to make positive impressions so our children will want to participate in work and in being productive citizens and also to buy into our American economy. If it's not too late for that, since many of us are overly relainat on goods shipped from China. Even though it may be less expensive, it is still not great for American goods and further more American workers.
Another gray area is the cost of things, if you have a child and they are of age where they are getting ready to start their independent life, the rents are starting for a semi decent 1 bedroom starting around 1,000.00 a month if heat and hot water are included say alleluia. Then food, that will range about 75.00 or so a week including toileteries and maybe if he or she is really good at handling cash, maybe a out side lunch. We are a painfully out of touch society, as we are willing to pay with credit cards and I am just as guilty, we are in debt and not willing to see what we are paying for it. As we wind our way back into the entangled ball of yarn, we see that we have hurt so many of our ideals.
Of course the idea of going to work, takes some of the stigma off, but it dosen't answer the question about whos watching the kids? Who will pay the baby sitter if the mother dosen't make enough, what if she is a single parent? or the father cannot afford to pay, or the couple don't live together? There again are the gray areas, Ann Romney may not have had to work, but here again is the double standard, is housework not work? If you ask some they may get defensive some will state they wont do housework. Others make it a day to day grind, shaking crumbs out of the toaster, cleaning the stove, taking out the garbage, washing the floors, cleaning the bathroom, and the refrigator, and the sink and dishwasher. Making the beds, cleaning downt the bedroom floor, I haven't yet gotten to the windows during Spring cleaning. the furniture, and the carpets, and the animals if there are. I still didn't mention shopping for grocerys, there are quite a bit of things that the housewife gets short shrifted for and I still get to the laundry. These are all considerable and all take time to do, they do not get done by themselves, and if there is a child involved add two hours additional inbetween your work sechdule to take care and provide for the childs entertainment and taking out doors it is all part of the housewife maze. Not to mention other essential tasks that a well run housewife takes care of, making sure money is put in the bank, bills are paid on time, and posted either on a bill pay or at the post office are all responsibilities that fall on the housewifes pretty little umbrella, and not to mention taking a bath at night to look pretty for her better half, and still have other fufillment areas that should brighten up the gray, hopefully.