- Santa Barbara, CA, USA
- January 14
- I am a writer, reader, mother, yoga teacher, and dancer/choreographer. I am not in any way related to the NPR commentator who shares my name. I am a study in opposites and paradoxes, just like you. The photo that appears here was taken by Kathee Miller. And that is all.
MY RECENT POSTS
- A Doctor, a Dead Body, and 17
Bags of Crack
January 20, 2014 12:33PM
- In Defense of Robin Thicke
August 27, 2013 07:30PM
- To Young Women Who Pepper
Their Speech With “Like"
July 10, 2013 01:31AM
- Why I Refuse To Watch The Dove
April 19, 2013 11:40AM
- I've Been Wanting to Write
Erotica. I Wrote This Instead.
April 02, 2013 08:52PM
MY RECENT COMMENTS
- “wow. thank you DH”
March 22, 2012 02:42PM
- “oh, and also, Robert,
I'd love for you to mark my
Open Salon as a
August 23, 2010 11:26AM
- “Robert, thanks for this.
As a woman who spent about
years nursing her
August 23, 2010 11:24AM
- “I think the gist is that
since there are no guarantees,
need to be
June 04, 2010 03:17PM
- “amandajwl, good point.
thank you for that. i do
May 23, 2010 03:12PM
Melissa Lynn Block's Links
A beloved person in my life has taken psychiatric medications for most of the time I’ve known him. Because the human brain shifts and changes, medications stop working and need adjustment. To keep getting prescriptions for these medicines, ongoing visits to a psychiatrist are necessary.
My fri… Read full post »
Author's note: In light of all that is going down in Syria right now--massacres of thousands of innocents, dying in droves from poison gas--I wish I knew enough to write about THAT instead of contributing anything to the Miley-slut-shaming-racism-rape-culture conversation. But I don't have anything h… Read full post »
Like: preposition: having the same characteristics or qualities as; similar to. Conjunction: in the same way that. Noun: used with reference to a person or thing of the same kind as another, or the things one likes or prefers. Adjective: having similar qualities or characteristics to another person o… Read full post »
A couple of young fish swim along in the vast sea one fine day. An old fish swims the other way and greets the young fish. "How's the water?" he asks them. The two young fish look at each other, confused. "What's water?" they ask.
After a week of being exhorted… Read full post »
Do you spend a lot of
time thinking bad thoughts and feeling miserable?
Are you waiting for
your life to get better?
Depressed? Anxious? Afraid? Stuck in bad thoughts? Escaping through TV and the Internet because that's the only thing that distracts you from these thoughts? Spending big bucks on ther… Read full post »
All day that day, on 9/12, Alice waits for the sound of explosions, for the invasion, a hundred soldiers of God landing at the beach a mile from the secondhand children’s store and storming the bike path full of families of tourists on pedal cars who always look like they aren’t… Read full post »
You're in that yoga class. The one you get to when you can get to it.
Slow flow through sitting and standing poses, holding them until they hurt. You fill the places that grip, that grab, that hurt with breath. You send the laser point of the mind away from thoughts… Read full post »
On January 8th, 2011, Arizona Rep. Gabrielle Giffords set up a meet-and-greet at a Safeway store in Tucson, Arizona, with the intention of meeting and greeting her constituents. One of them, an unhinged college dropout and Army reject named Jared Loughner, shot her and 18 others, six of whom have/… Read full post »
I’m sixteen years old. I’m alone in my dim bedroom. On one wall is a mirror. From where I sit, I can see a reflection of my upper torso and my face. Intensely I gaze across the room at myself, turning my face and shoulders this way and that. There, I… Read full post »
When I’ve said the occasional “That seems surprisingly relevant,” while reading a newspaper horoscope, I’ve chalked it up to the same phenomena to which I attribute surprisingly relevant fortune cookies: 1.)coincidence, or 2.) vagueness adequate to make it applicable to/… Read full post »
Historically, monogamy didn't begin as a way to ensure that two people could relax into deepest intimacy. It began as a way for men to assert their ownership over a woman's body...Our thinking that monogamy is inherently a nobler arrangement than any other has created a nation… Read full post »
Carsick, find the entrance from Rt. 1. You’ve been winding around the curves and telling yourself it’s gorgeous, it’s gorgeous, but you feel like hurling, and you’re overwhelmed with gratitude to see the rectangular wooden sign: ESALEN INSTITUTE.
Wind down through the everg… Read full post »
She moves through her days. Cooking meals, watching her children eat them, buying more stuff from the store, sitting at a desk doing the work that earns her money. Her actions are dictated by the arising of urges and obligations. She is a responder. There is always something that requires a… Read full post »
In my teens I began to fall regularly into bouts of deep melancholy where I would cry incessantly and write maudlin, self-hating things in my journals. I would sometimes cut myself or smash my own head against the wall. My concerned parents brought me to a psychologist, who, after the usual… Read full post »
Both my parents are Jewish, as were all four of my grandparents; the lineage stretches into Jewishness as far back as anyone has traced it. I was raised in a household where Yiddish words were regular parts of our vocabulary; where menorahs were lit; where books addressing the Holocaust were a… Read full post »
At Yogurtland today:
A longish line. Mostly it's composed of teen and 20-something girls, with a few families thrown in. The families generally include two parents, male and female, plus one or more very excited children under the age of five. (Yogurtland is, after all, the premier destination for… Read full post »
Because I wear a lot of tye-dye and no makeup; because I'm into healthy food; because I practice yoga; and because I like to rhapsodize about things like permaculture, slow food, cheesemaking, and baby goats, people think I know how to grow things.
I'm a… Read full post »
At a friend’s birthday party, two women in their sixties talked about their experiences with the health care system. One had had cancer. The other was considering surgery to try to reduce her disability from back pain.
As someone who writes a lot about the hazards of modern mainstream me… Read full post »
I only babysat a few times as a kid. During those gigs, I realized that babies and children were completely irrational. They smelled bad. They liked making me angry. And really, once I spent some time with them, I realized that they were not nearly as cute as they’d initially seemed.… Read full post »
When I was a newlywed without any of my own offspring, my stepsons were five and six. I went to a birthday party for one of them. I remember sitting at a picnic table, the only childless woman in a group of moms. They were talking about the stuff moms usually… Read full post »
I read vegan activist and 31 Flavors heir John Robbins’ book Diet For A New America in 1993, at the age of 23.
Aghast, weeping, I looked at the graphic photos of suffering and dying animals living out their lives in horrific conditions, only to be sent to an equally… Read full post »
I’m one of those non-vaccinating mothers.
(*If you came here from the Editor's Pick page, please note: my kids ARE now vaccinated. Not sure how to point that out to the editors, though...)
In 2004, my 1 ½-year-old son had no immunizations at all and my three-year-old daughter… Read full post »
What, you might wonder, am I doing in the photograph at left—which was taken by photographer Jim Boyden of Ojai, California?
Crawling across the floor in my underwear? Yes. That’s the short version of the story. It wasn’t the first picture I posted here—but when I switched ou… Read full post »
I weaned my second child about four years ago. He’s nearly seven now. My daughter nursed for two and a half years.
I gave birth at home and both my babies were lifted onto my belly just after birth. Both latched on right away and sucked like champs. From the… Read full post »
Back in the early 1980s, my drug of choice was Simon le Bon of Duran Duran. Remember Duran Duran? They were minimally talented, bright-eyed, smooth-skinned British boys who inspired Beatles-level ardor in thousands and thousands of awkward young things like me. Despite the makeup and fedoras, they we… Read full post »