- Philadelphian via Californian nee New Jerseyite., USA
- June 20
- Writer Extraordinaire
- Mandarin speaking, art dabbling, standardized patient, mom, wife, driving instructor, home care worker and blog writer.
MY RECENT POSTS
- Halloween gender benders
October 13, 2013 03:57PM
- Transparency in parenting a
June 25, 2013 01:03PM
- The great out (car) doors
February 19, 2013 04:02PM
- The Chard Came Back
January 11, 2012 10:45PM
- The Blueberry Kid
November 16, 2012 09:29PM
MY RECENT COMMENTS
- “Anybody else here not a
fan of how long the posts stay
front page? Fewer
July 08, 2013 07:29PM
- “I'm with Cranky Cuss.
Poking fun at the religious
July 07, 2013 01:54PM
- “Can any of you share
this? I was disappointed not
Editor's Pick as I
January 12, 2012 11:23AM
- “Thanks, all three of
you, for reading this.
September 14, 2011 01:23PM
- “Interesting ideas. My
family is of the downwardly
husband has two
August 26, 2011 12:52AM
- MY LINKS
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I'd love for this to be a story of tolerance, but it is more about one step forward on our path to acceptance of our transgender daughter.
When a new family joins a facebook group or other social media group for parents of transgender and gender variant children, they usually start… Read full post »
My 14-year-old daughter keeps hoping nobody will know she's transgender. I roll my eyes but also wring my hands when she tells me this. I mean, please, she changed her name and pronouns three quarters into her year as a third grader. Almost everybody in town knows.
Yet when she entered… Read full post »
Like Percy Jackson's magic sword, or the proverbial relentless cat, my chard just wouldn't go away.
Just yesterday the temperature plummeted below 30 degrees and my chard wilted. While I kicked myself for not harvesting the remainder the day before, part of… Read full post »
Airplane travel, heck, travel in general, has always opened up a repressed side of me. My senses heightened, I've scrawled hilarious descriptions of weary travelers, observations of human behavior, insight to my own nature, all entries I wish I'd saved. Possibly my best writing has… Read full post »
If you're trans and you see a skinny Girl Scout, run!
Last fall a girl scout troop, after controversy, welcomed a seven year old transgender girl to their troop. Now, Taylor, a teen girl scout has launched a campaign to protest by refusing to buy Girl Scout Cookies.
To… Read full post »
A lot of people, apparently.
We're standing in line at Toys 'R Us. My affirmed daughter is buying a big pink meanie--a Lots-o-Huggin' Bear. Why the bear is popular I do not know as his character is a grumpy traitor on Toy Story 3. In front of us… Read full post »
It's not every day I get to go to a spa. Few things can be better than a spa weekend in the Catskills with a childhood friend. From yoga and cardio, facials and massages, then steam room and sauna we had it all, not to mention delicious, healthful… Read full post »
I may know more than the Average Joe about transgender issues, but being a part of an LGBTQ family doesn't make me the perfect role model on sensitivity.
Long ago I'd written a post about wearing a dress. I started with the quote:
Just… Read full post »
There are those who tell us that our adoption was meant to be, that already having three sons, we needed a daughter to complete our family; that we were destined to adopt Ruthie because our family was prepared to support a transgender child, and so we found each… Read full post »
Art by Jymi Cliche.
Today in my yard I saw the first
violets of spring. As a sometime
gardener and a lackadaisical
weeder, I know full well that violets, though pretty in April, take up valuable lawn/… Read full post »
Ruthie, our 12-year-old transgender daughter, is out but not proud. She is ashamed and wants no one to know she's trans. Yet a few years ago she started the school year living as a boy, then mid-year socially transitioned to live as a girl. Regardless of… Read full post »
“Wait until they are teens!” is a mantra I often heard from more seasoned parents. I would smile inwardly knowing that my boys would be okay. But when Connor, 13, decided to try his first drink he didn't go half hog. Within a half an hour he'd drunk himself straight to the… Read full post »
There are many who dare not kill themselves for fear
of what the neighbours will say. Cyril Con… Read full post »
An unsuccessful shopping trip prompted me to nominate the top ten reasons why I shouldn't buy "skinny jeans." I only got to seven. Which is supposed to a lucky number.
7. I'm not skinny...
6. ...but my wallet is.
5. The holes in my other jeans aren't that bad.
… Read full post »
Connor yelped as he registered his feet, or rather the light gray slipper socks with white rubber dots that covered them. "What the hell?!"
To a young teen who favors ankle-high black Jordan or Nike socks, this was a traumatic event. Never mind the tube fed through his nostril to… Read full post »
Sometimes our portended 15 minutes of fame comes unwelcome.
It all started with a letter. Our principal, well-intentioned--although I believe misguided--decided it was best to send a letter to the third grade parents saying, "We recently became informed that one of our third-grade stu… Read full post »
Always provide for a distraction when your child appears in public for the first time as his or her affirmed gender. I learned this and other things on Ruthie's first day of school as a girl.
Connor—one of my fifth graders—hugs me goodbye and takes off on his bike.… Read full post »
Suddenly we have a girl, she's Ruthie now, she's on top of the world. She frolics in a skirt at home. Hand-me downs arrive from neighbors, from those who get it--from as far away as Maine. She cuts up t-shirts to make jackets, mini-skirts, you name it.… Read full post »
Kudos to Justin Bieber for appearing in a Best Buy Super Bowl commercial making fun of himself. When Ozzy Ozbourne looks at the Justin Bieber in his real guise he asks, “What’s a Bieber?” Bieber, in cognito looking scruffy with a beard answers,“I don’t know, kinda… Read full post »
I am smitten with names, always have been. As a youth I read the What Shall We Name the Baby book over and over until it was ragged and dog-eared. One day my father approached me anxiously asking whether I was pregnant. No I wasn't, it was the love of… Read full post »
Okay let me start out by saying ick, ick, ick.
And then I'll go on to say that I put our lives on the line on a regular basis by writing about my family's experience raising a transgender child. Recently a family with a similar daughter got chased out of… Read full post »
As we waited for the adoption of our son, L, we were getting hints that he might be a different sort of child. So many things about him seemed so feminine, so my sister, a therapist, sent me emails from various lesbian and trans friends. One said:
Assuming… Read full post »