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Matt Brandstein

Matt Brandstein
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SEPTEMBER 11, 2008 10:12PM

Rush Hour

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The evening rush hour at the close of another warm day inspired a collective fatigue among the passengers of the crowded train car as we rode from stop to stop in utter silence. A little boy sat patiently with his pretty young mother directly across the aisle from me. They were Asian, probably recent immigrants, given their flashy counterfeit designer wardrobe that was worn with humility as opposed to the brash arrogance of the original designer’s intended retail price paying customer.

The mother carried a handbag with the intersecting logo letters L and W. She placed it between her feet. So she could hold her son’s hand. They were both slim and small enough to share a corner seat despite the extra girth of their seat mate, who inadvertently inched over into their square.

The boy waved his arms above his head and released a contagious yawn that spread quickly throughout the train car. He then uttered something to his mother that caused her to scoop him up into her arms. The boy pressed his face into his mother’s bosom and was lulled into a protective sleep. He turned from side to side to adjust his position as the train moved forward, while his mother gingerly combed through his damp hair with her fingers.

This was probably one of the last times that she would be able to hold her son like this for soon he will be too big. At 57th Street, I left feeling disappointed for both of them.

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"There's nothing sadder, I know, than the passing of time..."
Matt, beautifully written. I felt like I was on that train with them, and was looking across at them, so great was your description.

I loved your last sentence. I've had a habit with my children since they were born. Only now, they're old enough to notice when I'm doing it.

They call it "The Creepy Mom Stare". Whenever I'm around them, and I did this a lot when they were growing up, I will just sit and stare at them.

Really stare at them. Soak them up. Tell them, that I have only this moment, this present moment when I get to look at them, at that age, at that particular moment in time. I also have a creepy smile when I'm staring at them.

Don't feel disappointed for that mother and son. My 26 year old son was in town for a brief weekend. He was standing tall in my kitchen (6'4) and talking away. I just stood there and looked at me and suddenly saw him as a 7 year-old boy. Plain as day. My thoughts were interrupted when I heard him say, "Mom, stop already with The Creeping Mom Stare!"
I am touched by your comments.

Mary, my sadness was over the realization that there is a very narrow window of time in which a child and mother have to share a physical intimacy (so creepy if taken out of context) that is conducive to the variance in their sizes. We literally grow out of our mothers' laps as we age, but having once grown up in their wombs, the need for a maternal embrace never fully fades.
well said Matt. Perhaps the intensity of a moment like this is one reason why people like me choose not to have children.
We literally grow out of our mothers' laps as we age, but having once grown up in their wombs, the need for a maternal embrace never fully fades.

Nope. Never does. I can see it in my own children, who are fortunate enough to still have their grandparents around. So they can see their parents giving those embraces as well.

Kelly, I'm sure there are lots of reason why some folks choose not to have kids. It doesn't make them any the poorer for it - life's about choices, after all, and figuring out what it is that makes you happy. :-D
Aw, a window on those sacred moments, common to everyone.....in all cultures, in all seasons..........and as the little ones grew up, we were blessed.
"...there is a very narrow window of time in which a child and mother have to share a physical intimacy".

Matt, I have two boys and two girls. This is very true for the boys who are now not boys but young 25 and 26 year old men. My daughters, 20 and 23, are like kittens. They snuggle up, purr and love to be scratched. The boys will give a good hug, and occasionally let me reach over and straighten their hair...but there's a distance and a boundary, and it's just the way it is.

Redstocking: ah, the creepy mom stare...they are so lucky.
Matt, this was just a sweet and lovely read. You have a real gift.
What a knack you have for capturing such divine moments. :)
Really wonderful writing. And so accurate. As they grow, the need for cuddling starts to change. Every time I hug the kid and she lays her head on my shoulder, I'm reminded of how quickly this part passes.

You end up missing it before it's even over.

And your writing is so beautiful. Really. The heck with Jim Cantore on the Weather Channel. I'll just have a very correct OS crush on you and your writing instead.
I liked your description of the interaction of mother and child. I am blessed with the love of a four-year-old daughter much like the child you describe. Work and worldly concerns can sometimes blind me to what I have that is much more important. Your writing makes that blessing clear.
The little boy you describe could be my son Kai Dong . Claus and I adopted him from China when he was 2 1/2 and he's now 4. He's always been tiny, and at 4 he still curls up in my lap and holds close. Tender moments.

Thanks Matt, you reminded me to not let this time slip by without appreciating it. I'm going to go give him hugs right now.