Men like John Edwards, Eliot Spitzer, Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Jimmy Swaggart, Larry Craig, that delusional governor from South Carolina who lied about hiking to be with his South American mistress, and most recently, Anthony Weiner are really giving men a bad name.
These “men” don’t even closely resemble the majority of good men. And I, for one, am incensed that because of power hungry sex-addicted weak famous men, men in general are constantly being labeled as animals, pigs, narcissistic, and considered incapable of being faithful to another human being, especially if that human being is his wife.
May I suggest ever so boldly that the men I’ve met in my life, the men that have been my clients, the men that are my friends are spectacular men in every way, shape and form?
These men love their wives, oh how they love their wives. The men who come into my office are anxious and willing to learn how to make their marriages better and their spouse happier. They have a strong desire to provide financially for their families and they work hard in jobs they don’t like in order to do this. They love sex, but they also love touch and snuggling and hugs and gentle words of affirmation.
And while we’re talking about all the bad boys that grab our national attention on a daily basis, let’s talk about Seal, the famous musician who is husband to fortunate Heidi Klum. That Seal is the real deal, a real man. His words reflect the hearts and intentions of the many men I know.
Did you know that Seal met Klum when she was pregnant with another man’s child? The biological father, Italian businessman Flavio Briatore, gave up his paternal rights and Seal eventually adopted the child. Of his marriage to Heidi Klum and the family he has built with her, he says this, "Heidi is No. 1 at all times, then it's the kids—as strange as that may sound—then it's health and career. I think that is the area where people get a little bit confused once kids come in and then the career takes over.”
Seal is one smart man and he is not alone. I hear his words echoed over and over in my office, I see it in the behaviors and choices of the husbands of my girlfriends, and I see it in the eyes of my good husband when he looks at me at the end of a long and physically draining day and says, “Is there anything you need?” I read them in the many words of well spoken men who write volumes of books, poetry and posts about hearts that profess eternal love and devotion to the women they love.
Men love women and they want to please them. Many of them will admit to being clueless and ask only for a roadmap, a set of instructions, or specific communication about what their woman wants.
Men love their children and work hard to be there for them, care for them and play with them. Yes, women could learn something from men when it comes to play. Men are great at playing and wrestling and general horsing around. When a man playfully touches the behind of the woman he loves, no matter how irritated she may be by his action, he is telling her how much he loves her, how attractive he finds her and how much he wants her.
Many men spend their lives in jobs unfulfilling, but they go to them without complaint and without expectation of recognition because it feels natural for them to do this for their family and the ones they love.
Many men enjoy the sight of a beautiful woman and what’s wrong with that? Women are beautiful and their gentle and full curves are one of nature’s magnificent delights. Men savor the many plesaures of women while staying true and faithful to the one they love, to the one they made promises to, to the one they made a lifetime vow to.
Here’s to all the good men out there. Don’t let the dark shadows of those bad little boys disguised as men cover your light. I know you’re out there, we know you are out there.