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Lunchlady 2

Lunchlady 2
March 05
I am now a widow, having laid my last kiss on my husbands brow after he died to say goodbye. Since then I have found an old note he wrote me apologizing for his meanness laying on my floor and two gold coins under my blankets, his way of saying he was sorry and goodbye. I have buried my ex husband, my baby son, my grown son, my mom and now my husband and I wish to bury no more, but life does not work that way. I have birthed 3 children and have 3 more wonderful children from my last marriage. I have 4 living children and a granddaughter I adore and I am in the process of finding me. I have no idea who I am but I have discovered I am loved and I never knew that before and it makes me smile...


APRIL 24, 2012 7:50AM

For My Sister on Her Birthday: Trois

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 Kathy's birthday 2

 Suzie blowing out the candles and me watching with dad

Kathy and Grandma and Grandpa 

First born Grandchild she was the apple of every one's eyes especially Grandpa who is the one who always called her Suzie, he would have done anything for her.

Great Grandma Grandpa and Suzie

And Great Grandma and Grandpa!

Kathy baby

Here she is all adorable before I came along.


Okay so the picture says this is Suzie and dad and I think it is but if it turns out to be me well just ignore this picture :)

Kathy and me 

Ah here I am and see how "happy" my sister is to see me...stinky face and all!

12-10-2009 01_16_13PM

We have so many pictures through the years that mimic each other. I have pictures of my children, Suzie's children all standing with snow balls in their hands...Suzie was actually taller than me here.

Kathy being a big sister 

I swear here it looks like she is protecting me from what I don't know but she was always, has always been my big sister.

Mom and Aunt Millie 

Mom and her little sister just to show how similar life can be...

Cutie dolls 001 

Suzi and I looking like little dolls, I mean real plastic little dolls.

Kathy Fairy 

I think I found where my love of fairies came from!

Me and Kathy 2 

Even as we grew up we were inseparable

Us 6 

Somewhere around this time or maybe even sooner Suzie became mom and mom became a working woman to support us all. I don't know how we siblings would have survived without our sister...

Me and Kathy

We did grow apart for awhile  me taking the party life while she was left behind with the younger siblings but here me very pregnant with Joey we came right back together again as sisters.

Kathy Dad Grandpa 

Here is where I could insert every graduation/ wedding  picture ever taken and she would be in it. Not missing one sibling or niece/nephew graduation ever! She is an incredible woman who not only sat by mom's side as she died but was there for Grandma, Grandpa and Dad, even though dad was undeserving, she was still by their side wiping their drool, brows, anything but butts where we all draw the line.

34 years ago she came all the way up to San Fransisco when I had been  staying with Toddy at UCSF and brought my babies with her so I could be with them too. My oldest then 5 and my twin girl just a year old. How many sisters would do that? She came with mom and I finally felt less alone so far from home.

When Joe ended up in the hospital and we realized he was in trouble she drove the 3 hours to take days with me, my daughter and my son's love. When he was transferred to a better hospital, for surgery, she was there the next morning with me, actually I got very lost and we got there at the same time because she followed my directions and I didn't. She helped keep me distracted, laughing about silly things, bringing pictures so the staff could connect with Joe, me staying at work a few times knowing my son was in good hands. That she was not there the day he died was probably a good thing for us both as we handle life with bizarre laughter, very dark humor and many would not understand and find us callous but we are no where near callous we are a loving tight knit family that my sister has kept together.


On my sisters birthday I want to wish her long life and joy and I want her to know she is free to let us go now, free to slow down and enjoy her life with her wonderful, loving husband. She is free to get on that bike and ride as long and as far as she wants to! We will be waiting for her when she returns..

Kathy being brave 

Take that bull by the horns and enjoy life without guilt, without sorrow, without worry.

Off into the sunset 

Life is way to short so sis Happy Birthday to you!! I love you more than I can ever put into words. Thank you for everything you have done for our family, for your siblings.  

Tommy Lee Jones  "Now get out there on that bike and ride"!!!!!!!

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I am posting this from home in case my computer is down at work so if you don't hear from me I just can't get here...Happy Birthday sis!!!!!!!!!
You two are such great sisters, I'm sitting here weepy!

Happy Birthday, Susie, and long life and joy to BOTH of you.
You were both adorable - and I'm sure you still are. Happy birthday, Suzie!
This is wonderful. I know it is not right to envy..but I do wish I had a close relationship with my own sister. How lucky you are to have her in your life. :) Happy Birthday, Susie.
know your sister will love this post! It's great. What lovely pictures.

The fourth picture down looks like what heaven must. A great big wonderful world in front of that beautiful baby girl. :)

Happy Birthday Suzie!
looking again I love the one of you as a newborn and your sister with that silly scrunched up face! :D wonderful!!
What a wonderful tribute to a very dear sister!!!! Happy Birthday!
Great post... Happy B'day Suzie.
happy birthday, suzie, to one of the best writers here and a terrific sister! xoxo
This is so lovely. What a fabulous tribute to your dear sister. Happy Birthday Suzie!
Happy birthday Suzie!
Happy Birthday Suzie!
Have a wonder-full year ahead!
You both are the sisters I wish I had : )
You're a sweet sister. Happy Birthday, Suzie.
What a beautiful tribute to your sister, Lunchlady 2...happy birthday, Suzi! Thanks for sharing these treasured family photos, Lunchlady. I love that one where you are a newborn, looking at your big sister. :)
Best Post Ever! (And not just because it's about ME!) -- Thank you for the beautiful loving moving perfect birthday "gift"! -- I love you!!!! (& could you send Tommy over to the house? I think Geo has to go to the hardware store for awhile this afternoon...)
My sister and I have always hated each other. I envy your friendship with yours. This is a wonderful, heartwarming post.
A sister is a very precious family member even though we may not realise it for many years.

I don't know what I'd do without my big sis. Happy birthday to Susie.May there be many more for you both.
Lunch Lady, This is my favourite birthday post so far. Happy Birthday Suzie! Love all the photos (they each tell their own story!) and the sentiment behind them. I just had lunch with my sister ... ah, sisters, they're an intergral part of us, aren't they?
I just adore both of you. This is an amazing stroll through your lives, together. What can I say? I never had a sister, but I often feel like I've found two in you and Suzie. happy day and cake!
you both have good family
Happy B-day Suzie!!
Whew I finally have a minute and just want to thank you all for helping me wish my big sis a Happy Birthday!!!!! I could not even imagine not having her around!!!!Thank you ALL!
Wonderful tribute to your sister, LL! You are lucky to have a sibling like her and she is lucky to have you too.
Thanks for all the good wishes, everybody! It's been a great day! As always, my sister rules!
...oh...& that picture that you aren't sure of? Yeah, that's me & Dad alright. You had a lot more hair, plus I still have those shoes. Bronzed. (& now that I'm ON here...what exactly was the purpose of bronzing baby shoes? It's sort of an odd thing to pass down thru the years...)
Lovely birthday tribute to your sister
Your family pictures are wonderful
Hey you got bronzed shoes! I didn't get bronze shoes :) I thought it was you but then saw blondish looking hair so...
I have NO idea maybe they wanted to save your little bitty shoes forever and ever!
I am very HAPPY you had a great birthday!
Seer, I did not even see the horns until you brought them to my attention...hmmm that would explain a lot :)
You and your sister are so blessed to have each other. Happy Suzie's Birthday to both of you!
So sweet. I think you most must be very good sisters.
oh yeah...those are TOTALLY horns...
Such an adorable collection of photos, I love it!