Liane Carter

Liane Carter
New York,
December 31
Liane Kupferberg Carter’s articles and essays have appeared in more than 40 publications, including the New York Times, Chicago Tribune, Huffington Post, Babble, Parents, and numerous literary journals, newspapers, and blogs. She is a columnist for Autism After 16: Follow her on Twitter @LianeCarter and on Facebook at


OCTOBER 28, 2013 4:22PM

It's National Cat Day



Cats get no respect.

They're the Rodney Dangerfields of the pet world. An afterthought. Second best. The Chanukah wrapping paper in a store teeming with Christmas merchandise. You'll find miles of ribbon, tags, candy canes, and cartoon Santas... but only two dusty rol

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When I first heard that autistic people didn't have empathy, I assumed my son Mickey must be an exception.

He was not yet 2 when the developmental specialist told us all the things our child would never do. Pretend play. Eye contact. Empathy. I remember sitting on… Read full post »

I'm not laughing.

In fact, I'm fuming.

A developmentally disabled 42 year old man named Robert Schiavelli was slapped with two court summonses for laughing too loudly,  because his neighbor Daniel O'Hanian complained to the police that Schiavelli was "disturbin… Read full post »

Remember that saying from the 1970s -- that the personal is political?

As the parent of an autistic 20-year-old son, I know what my own family is struggling with. The need for employment. Housing. Health care. Insurance. Long-term community-based services and supports. Education. Transportation. Res… Read full post »

MARCH 26, 2012 2:16PM

What Cat Hair?



It is a truth universally acknowledged that a woman in possession of a good number of cats must be in want of a good cat mug.

I have three cats, so naturally people like to buy me cat themed gifts, especially oversized mugs. Whether earthenware or bone china, these… Read full post »

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MARCH 8, 2012 9:39AM

When Mom "Likes" Too Much

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Okay, I’m going out on a limb here.

I’m a middle-aged mom and I love Facebook. And no, I’m not playing games like FarmVille, Kingdoms of Camelot or Mafia Wars. I love it for networking. So when “Saturday Night Live” recently aired a fake ad/… Read full post »

MARCH 6, 2012 3:43PM

The Write Stuff


  It's the question I dread most. You know. The  get-acquainted conversational gambit: "What do you do?"

"I'm a writer," I mumble, and try to change the topic.

 Too late. I've learned from sad experience what people always say next. And what I'd like (but don't dare… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 22, 2012 3:04PM

Feline Fatale


She was meant to be a companion for our cat Dizzy. She looked identical. The same kohl-rimmed eyes. The same silky, silver fur. The same sweet face. She was Dizzy’s Doppelganger.

But inside?

A heart of darkness.

Dizzy, our Maine Coon cat, was a year… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 15, 2012 4:20PM

The Golden Hat: Talking Back to Autism


 Last week I was privileged to attend a luncheon at Ladies Home Journalin honor of the Golden Hat Foundation, founded by actress Kate Winslet, who appears on the cover of the current issue of the magazine.

Golden Hat is a new non-profit whose mission is “to eliminat… Read full post »

AUGUST 12, 2011 2:02PM

The Signs of Advanced Momhood



Maybe it starts when you realize rock concerts give you a headache. Or that you're offering to cut up other people's food. Or that you catch yourself ending a discussion with, "Because I'm the mother, that's why." You've reached a new level of

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FEBRUARY 5, 2011 10:24AM

Roots and Wings



If you ask our son Mickey what he might like to be when he grows up, he will probably say, “A librarian. Or a Pokemon Master!”

There aren’t too many jobs for a crackerjack Nintendo player, but Mickey is learning other skills.  At 18, he attends the Comprehe… Read full post »

DECEMBER 7, 2010 1:42PM

Writers' Prey


The blogosphere has been buzzing in outrage recently over controversial author James Frey's newest publishing venture, Full Fathom Five, a fiction factory that pays a stable of young writers just $250 for commercially viable young-adult novels, and offers them an exploitative, nonnegoti… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 27, 2010 3:58PM

Great Expectations




The first thing we decided when we found out I was pregnant was to wait until the third month before we told anyone.

Ten minutes later, I was combing through my address book, calling everyone from our realtor to my sixth grade teacher.

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SEPTEMBER 7, 2010 1:12PM

Our Dizzy Girl


“What a beautiful girl you are. You’re in heavy purr tonight, aren’t you sweetheart? my husband Marc croons.

He’s not talking to me.

He’s talking to Dizzy. An eight month old silver striped Maine Coon kitten with long silky fur and a lion’s ruff aroun… Read full post »

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AUGUST 2, 2010 7:41AM

Cracking Wise on Autism


“We’re trying new medication for Jake,” my friend Lauren tells me. Her son, like mine, has autism and seizures.
“We saw bad side effects on that one,” I warn.


“I know. The doctor told me Jake might even have hallucinations. So I sRead full post »
JULY 20, 2010 2:23PM

The One-Two Punch of Autism


"Your child has autism."

It's a devastating diagnosis for a parent to hear. But it's a one-two punch when your insurance company then refuses to cover the critical, medically necessary therapies your child desperately needs.

When our then-2-year-old son was diagnosed with a developmental disa

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JUNE 30, 2010 1:15PM

36 Ways to Wreck Your Vacation



 1. Take your kids.

2. (Okay, forget number one.)

3. Rent a vacation house from people who don't have kids and don't like kids. Rent a house from people who are fond of model ships in bottles, glass sculptures, and white, wall-to-wall carpeting.

4. Pull your kid out… Read full post »

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JUNE 23, 2010 3:23PM

Tupperware, Shtupperware



I have an embarrassing confession.

Last week I was invited to a Tupperware Party. That's not the embarrassing part.

The embarrassing part is that I went.

It was an

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MAY 3, 2010 1:29PM

My Year in China

n my house I don’t need a calendar to chart the passage of time. I can plot the years by my husband’s passions. 2009 was The Year of the China Obsession.

Marc decided he wanted to read ancient Chinese classics, and any old translations wouldn’t do. He cruised the… Read full post »

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APRIL 1, 2010 11:36AM

Autism: Time for Civility


On April 2, we will celebrate the third annual World Autism Awareness Day. But there is a war raging within the autism community.

Parents are still pitted against each other over the vaccine issue, despite the fact that numerous well designed scientific studies have failed to show any c… Read full post »

MARCH 9, 2010 11:52AM

A Clinical Failure



The letter was terse. Our health insurance company would no longer cover our son's epilepsy medication unless we switched from the brand name drug to a generic form. They would re-authorize covering the brand name medication only if he took the generic drug for a month and… Read full post »

JANUARY 31, 2010 2:57PM

The R Word

We were trying on hats at a department store counter when my childhood friend said it.

"I never know how to wear these," she said. "I'm such a fashion retard."

I was shocked. I said, "We don't use that word."

She turned red. "You're right. I am so sorry," she said.… Read full post »

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JANUARY 19, 2010 2:43PM

Sotto Voce

“If you could be anything in the world and talent and money weren’t an issue, would you still be doing what you do, or something else?"

My husband posed this question in an attempt to liven up a rather staid Upper East Side party one night. The gathered Wall Street

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JANUARY 18, 2010 10:33PM





The Hanna Anderson catalog of children's clothing arrived today. I pore over the pink striped stretchies, diminutive sun dresses and dotted pink diaper covers.  Then I fill out the order form: yellow long johns, red socks, cobalt underwear.  NothRead full post »

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JANUARY 11, 2010 9:32AM

Confessions of a Perfume Slut


I am a perfume slut.


I can’t be faithful to just one fragrance.  I have serial love affairs; no signature scent for me.  This morning, I own thirty-something bottles of perfume and 103 sample vials on a dedicated closet shelf. And that doesn’t include the bottles

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