The first thing I noticed when I picked up my used copy of Platform by Michel Houellebecq, were the bits of jizz on the edges, making the pages stick together. Not surprising, given the amount of orgy scenes.
Houellebecq’s exploration of our contemporary malaise is only relieved through the constant pursuit of sexual adventure. The protagonist, Michel, is a depressing character with really no personality to speak of. He drifts through life bored and alone. “Anything can happen in life, especially nothing (Houellebecq, 148).” He is unable to find a suitable partner, or even really, connect with anyone at all. But then he meets Valerie on a group tour in Thailand, where he goes to enjoy the benefits of Thai prostitutes. In Valerie he discovers a sexually giving nature with the benefit of having someone to love, talk to, and enjoy life.
She works in the tourism industry, dealing with the problem of customers who are bored by their vacation experiences. Michel suggests a line of hotels that specialize in sex tourism. At first it’s a huge success – until Muslim terrorists step in.
“The problem with Muslims, he told me, was that the paradise promised by the Prophet already existed here on earth. There were places on earth where young, available, lascivious girls danced for the pleasure of men, where one could become drunk on nectar and listen to celestial music; there were about twenty of them within five hundred meters of our hotel (Houellebecq, 250).”
Michel listens quietly to his companion, but he is more concerned with the sexual problems of westerners. “Something is definitely happening that’s making westerners stop sleeping with each other. Maybe it’s something to do with narcissism, or individualism, the cult of success, it doesn’t matter. The fact is that from about the age of twenty-five or thirty, people find it very difficult to meet new sexual partners… so they end up spending the next thirty years, almost the entirety of their adult lives, suffering permanent withdrawal (Houellebecq, 172).”
In my early twenties I attracted more men and even women than I ever have since. And since then I have been analyzing exactly why this is so. I had that youthful glow and was always smiling and laughing, whether it was nervous laughter or not. I was much more friendly and open to all experiences – not yet scarred by all that was thrown at me later. I was naïve, which older men found highly amusing for a while. In fact, I was everything they were looking for to make them feel young again. I was the answer to their existential crisis – youth.
My 22 year old self
For a number of these men – sex in its basic form wasn’t cutting it anymore. They were resorting to cocktails of Ecstasy and Viagra, group sex, role-playing, bondage, domination, whips, hooks, orgy-parties. And yet, they were still always bored. “Organized S&M with its rules could only exist among overcultured, cerebral people for whom sex has lost all attraction. For everyone else, there’s only one possible solution: pornography featuring professionals; and if you want to have real sex, third world countries (Houellebecq, 175).”
When I did date normal, mainstream guys, I was bored out of my mind. They were so vanilla, with nothing to talk about and a limited capacity for pleasure that was stunted and one-sided. They were also not as honest.
Since then I have gained much more than lost. But if I have lost anything, I would like to bring back that openness I had to people all around me. I want to love fully without fear, with more effort on my part in the awareness that we are all as one. Houellebecq, of course, puts it more bluntly, “It is in our relations with other people that we gain a sense of ourselves; it’s that, pretty much, that makes relations with other people unbearable (Houellebecq, 63).”
Houellebecq has a dire view of the world, and though he writes of the dangers of isolationism, he also gravitates to it. I see it as laziness. How can you feel connected to others, if you are not first willing to give? The character of Michel expects women to sexually fall all over him when he has not given them anything to fall over. He is a walking dead man. There is nothing lovable about him. And when he meets Valerie, it is hard to understand why she is attracted to him.
Behind Houellebecq’s fictional sexual forays is the mind of a Puritan. His characters are always punished for finding sexual satisfaction. They begin and end in their fear of intimacy. The sterile, noncommittal experience of a prostitute becomes the safer approach.
I watched Houellebecq’s interviews, and got the sense that he is already dead. He appears to fall asleep, and takes an inordinate amount of time to answer questions. His hands and mouth constantly grab for the stimulus of a cigarette. In an interview for The Paris Review, he was asked how he has the nerve to write some of the things he does. He answered, “Oh, it’s easy. I just pretend that I’m already dead.”


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how damn american.
"Houellebecq, of course, puts it more bluntly, “It is in our relations with other people that we gain a sense of ourselves; it’s that, pretty much, that makes relations with other people unbearable "
this is true for cowards.
what is self but
an ongoing process/?
we examine it self consciously. this is our human gift,
self consciousness.
for example, this:
"have been analyzing exactly why this is so. I had that youthful glow and was always smiling and laughing, whether it was nervous laughter or not. I was much more friendly and open to all experiences – not yet scarred by all that was thrown at me later. I was naïve, which older men found highly amusing for a while. In fact, I was everything they were looking for to make them feel young again. I was the answer to their existential crisis – youth."
true. for these men.
for you.
i am now 44. i find young perfect women intensely boring
due to their ..uh...how to put it...naive vacuity...
sex in its 'basic form' is unendingly pleasurably
revelatory
to a skilled practictioner.
skill? hardly..i do not mean skill ...i mean...earnestness...
skill is for athletes and competitiors.
Love what you said about earnestness. Very true!
Maybe Valerie showed just enough interest that his Puritan conscience was able to open more, and the intoxication of Thailand did the rest. After all, the best way to interact with a writer, outside of her mind, is to become the keyboard on which she can write her heart. Then, you are everything to her.
On the surface, I can identify with Houellebecq's comments, in the same way that a lot of Nietzsche and Kerouac gets my heart racing. There's some relief in such sweeping statements, especially at the expense of suburban American life. But I don't know if the roadblock is narcissism, individualism, or the cult of success. I think it's general, and often legitimate, fear. Men routinely fear that a sexual adventure will lead to an unwanted relationship, followed by a sticky and unpleasant exit-strategy. Women routinely fear an unsatisfying encounter, or even a violent or abusive experience. Or pregnancy. Or STD's. Fear of getting date-raped by a veritable stranger doesn't strike me as narcissistic. Catching a bold strand of HPV doesn't interfere with the cult of success, but it might lead to ovarian cancer. And if individualism makes men phobic of long-term relationships in their mid-twenties -- despite their volcanic desire to fuck anything that moves -- I think men have been individualistic for longer than Houellebecq gives us credit for.
I think it's also easy to romanticize other times and places. If you're a sexually open person, you might feel titillated by the idea of Roman bath parties, Greek symposia, French amours, San Franciscan love triangles, Arawak polyamory, New Guinean male bonding, and all kinds of omnisexual cultures throughout the world. Yes, it seems liberating at first glance. But sexuality, like everything else, is shaped by power, trust and control. I don't buy that every animist in Indonesia is having a great time. We are not bonobos monkeys, after all; all the threesomes and spouse-swapping and double-knots come with consequences, good, bad and extremely emotional. I might have thought otherwise at 22. As you say, we were naive. A part of me misses those halcyon days, but only for an instant. I like being sadder and wiser.
And the orgies? Amazing :)
"The first thing I noticed [was] ... bits of jizz on the edges, making the pages stick together."
That got my attention.
“Something is definitely happening that’s making westerners stop sleeping with each other."
Yes. But what?
Too much transparency?
Sex tourism is a form of arbitrage, as the logic of commerce infiltrates the personal sphere and vice versa. For what its worth, commerce is shifting in the other direction, as relationship selling has become a mantra, with an obsession with the 'customer experience.'
At Starbucks, they always smile, and if you aren't completely satisfied with your beverage, apologize and try again.
And people looking for love end up, if they get lucky, with little death.
OH and p.s. you're hot at 22 and just as good looking now!
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