L in the Southeast

L in the Southeast
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I am a retired Public Relations professional who now writes purely for fun and catharsis. I covered most of my memoir-type pieces in the first three years here. Lately I have dabbled in politics, current affairs, pop culture and movie reviews. Life is my muse.

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JULY 17, 2012 12:40AM

What Not to Wear? Says Who?

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Sunny on WNTW before

  Sunny on WNTW after

 

          

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Okay, at 28 years of age, Sunny, pictured above, seemed to have gotten stuck in a time warp with Tinkerbell as her stylist.  And, no, it wasn’t Halloween or right before the curtain rose on some bizarre version of the Nutcracker.  The wing-adorned frock on the left was one of Sunny’s everyday ensembles, worn whenever and wherever she chose.

Now I am all about style and fashion.  Anybody who has known me since before that doggone movie premiere I attended last September (2011) is well aware of my obsession with “getting it right” for the judging eyes, my own first and foremost.  And I can only think of one or two of my acquaintances who would truly prefer Sunny’s “before” look to the stylish and polished version she presents in the “after” shot.

Sunny’s fiancé nominated her to be ambushed by TLC’s Stacy and Clinton from their mega-hit TV makeover series What Not to Wear.   Sunny’s episode, which originally aired in 2009, was today’s noontime rerun in our market.  It was the first time I had seen it.

Sunny’s idea of stylish included oversized layers of clothing that looked like she stood under an apartment building and “caught” the castoff closet detritus of every woman inside.  Her makeup consisted of glitter on her eyelids –the kind of glitter art teachers use in kindergarten classes.  Sequins and other sparkly accoutrements on her textiles and clunky hiking shoes that converted to roller skates completed her look.  Oh, and she alternated among five pairs of fairy wings that she affixed to her back using ribbons tied over her shoulders.

I have always felt sorry for the people who are ganged up on by their family and friends and told their style or lack thereof stinks -- in front of a national television audience.  Many of those selected are clearly suffering from deep-seated self-esteem issues – some are hiding under ill-fitting or shapeless clothes; some are uncomfortable with attention; some have severe body dysmorphia.

Sunny displayed none of these. She is 5’6” and wears a size 4.  If she had a problem at all, it was the Peter Pan Syndrome.  She is an aspiring actress (read creative) who speaks with a wistful, child-like delivery.  She had no idea people found her choice of apparel weird or inappropriate.  She thought she was universally admired for her individuality and flair. She thought she was stunning.

And when she was ambushed by the show hosts, camera in tow, her feelings of hurt were palpable.  She actually cried when her entire wardrobe was tossed in the trash, to be replaced by a new “acceptable” one worth $5000 of the show’s money.

Her fiancé said he called the show because he was afraid Sunny would show up for their wedding with a pair of wings on her back.  Yet, he apparently fell in love with the costume-wearing woman of his dreams with no problem. 

The show hosts criticized the young vegan’s penchant for polyester instead of natural fibers.  Sunny refused to wear silk, wool, leather – anything that came from an animal – even silkworms. So that left cotton.

At the end, Sunny was going along with the program – literally. She went through the haircut she didn’t want, and the makeup she didn’t want and selected clothes she described as “bland.”  She seemed genuinely pleased with the positive attention her transformation garnered, but there was still a hint of real loss in her eyes.

Yes, it is true Sunny is more likely to land movie and TV parts dressed in her new style.  And yes, it is true everybody at her wedding will feel a lot more comfortable with her conforming to the ideals of wedding glamour.  But at what price?

Who wants to bet she wore high-top glitter sneakers under her traditional gown?

 Photos from TLC.com

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What you've written here perfectly explains why I've always loathed this show.

Also, they have no idea how to dress curvier girls. The episodes I've seen always have them telling them to wear a belt. As a girl with a belly, I'm just like, are you serious?

Thank you for this post, even though it's getting me all riled up! :-)
Not that I watch such shows - ( My wife does) I've wondered how often, if ever, Stacy and Clinton get told to get lost (or something more emphatic.) They certainly would never be allowed to replace my collection of South Park and Boy Scout collectibles fashion with their kitsch.
I'm torn. While I generally snicker at people who wear fairy wings (see my fairly recent post about Fairy Fest), I kinda would like to see a bride with fairy wings. And glitter sneakers...
I wouldn't be caught dead in those. Or maybe I would.

r.
I always think Stacey and Clinton do a great job making people look more polished, more put together, and more "mainstream."
There's nothing wrong with teaching someone the basics of how to dress for their body type, how to find a flattering haircut, and how to apply make-up. Especially if these women are looking for jobs in major cities and in competitive fields.
Still, there is something sad about taking someone's wings. ~r
This breaks my heart! Come to art school Sunny, where glitter on eyelids is de rigueur for both genders, and where your wings will be greatly admired. And....DO NOT MARRY that guy! Divorce is expensive and stressful. You deserve someone who can match your delightful spirit and sense of play.
I've never seen this show but I like the idea of glittery tennis shoes.
Sunny, yesterday my life was filled with rain
Sunny, you smiled at me and really eased the pain
Now the dark days are done and the bright days are here,
My sunny one shines so sincere
Sunny one so true, I love you>

Aw, the wings are cute.
I love how you've written this - and I'm so sad for Sunny! That said, I would love to be ambushed by Stacy and Clinton and given a new wardrobe. I need a team to tell me what haircut compliments my face and what clothes to wear with my body. I'm not good at it by myself. That said, I'm a curvy girl and I don't think a belt is going to cut it.
I could never love anyone like Sunny . Bad fashion makes me vicious. But, to each his own.... I suppose.
Loved this article.
I'm pretty sure that, without my knowing it, I have probably been a "Don't" in an issue of Glamour magazine, with a little black rectangle over my eyes.

These shows are like train wrecks, and seem to revel in someone else's pain or humiliation. I appreciate your take on it.
Agree with the comments made by Joan H. Although I do like the more polished after version in this case, I do. Thanks for this story.
This is so sad! I love that image with the wings. So pretty. Creative sparklers make muggles so uncomfortable. Boo.
I have a feeling that most of these changes last only a few weeks. A person's style is pretty much their own and tends to reemerge. And that's fine!
Alysa: Have you calmed down yet? LOL Belt or no belt really depends on where the curves happen to be. For us apple shaped women a belt or band around the smallest part of the torso draws the eye away from the wider parts below. But belts are definitely not good for everybody.

Token: Oh, I’m sure of it. For every woman they put on screen there are probably several who have told them to go do something decidedly unnatural to themselves. :D

Myriad: Wings are good enough for Victoria Secret supermodels!

Jon: Yeah. Maybe you would!

Joan: I absolutely agree with you. I have done for several of my friends. The difference is they ASKED for the help. I didn’t assault them in the cafeteria with a camcorder and tell them they looked like bag ladies. Many, many women would love to have that $5000 opportunity – me included.

greenheron: My 49 year-old neighbor is just like Sunny. She doesn’t wear wings (yet) but she does wear costumes instead of outfits. I am more tailored in my style – not fond of ruffles and bows. When we dress up to go out, we look like the before and after pictures above. But she is an artist; it works for her. (Although, sadly, people do snicker behind her back.)

Bea: Me, too.

Matt: Hmmm. Sounds vaguely familiar…

Jaime: I’m with you. Please, please, please buy me new clothes.

fernsy: To each his own is my point. I am on the polished, well-turned out team, but that doesn’t mean everybody has to see it my way. My neighbor thinks the way I dress is classic and boring (she’s never said it to me directly, but she’s said it.)

Jeanette DeMain: On any given day, everybody has been a “DON’T.” I don’t object to the makeover – I agree with Joan H that Stacy and Clinton do a good job. I just don’t like the way they humiliate the subject.

Mary: Thanks.

ToxicToil: Thanks for stopping by!

Lea: I think you’re right.
Perfect!

Though I'm not much for fairy wings.

Rated!!!

Andrea
I might mention that, in spring and fall, I often wear socks with sandals, so there.
I love this post! hate that show and refuse to watch it because, while some of those women were quite off their rockers, it is all about pure consumerism and hype artists who are not that great at dictating a person's "new" style.

Now let me get some glitter paint and some tennies! R and hugs.
What a horrible thing to have happen - someone you love worried more about "appearances" at HIS wedding, then humiliating you in front of a national audience.

I'm with the folks who wouldn't mind having someone buy them clothes and tell them what looks good on them. BUT the difference would be that I instigated it, because I wanted to change my look.

ooh, this makes me hot under the collar.

Thanks for posting THIS take on THOSE shows, Lezlie. :-)
This show does make me uncomfortable at times. There was one especially poignant episode - a divorced mother in Texas, nominated by her daughter. When asked about dating post-divorce, she said "All the men my age that I know go for my daughter instead of me." There really seemed to be some underlying mother-daughter issues there, which only seemed to be heightened by the show.
Since I am routinely bashed (in good humor, perhaps) by friends and loved ones for dressing too formally, I can sympathize with this poor woman. The TV crew would never make it past my door, however. It is interesting that people take such interest in clothes that other people are wearing.
I noticed this morn that Burdock Thistle is Blooming.
Also:
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Catnip Buds, Blue Chicory, Black Eye Susan, and You?

Wear your so-called `
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Sunday Best on Picnic.
I lend You Bib Britches.
Stay in Rural Guest Hut.

No stuff Burdock in Pants.
Burdock Roots Are Great.
Boil Roots For Dock Teas.

You make readers itch.
We can get dressed up.
We go on white picnic.
We wear black blanket.
No go to White House?

They Invite. No Dresses.
Wear Bib Overalls. okay.
You can be a `Single Date.
I'll bet you a fairy wing that boyfriend will find himself out on the curb soon enough.
I've watched the show. I get that some people dress in ways we might not like. Many on the show are very young people who are still finding their way in life and those clothes are simply phases, stuff they will decide to toss when they are good and ready.
(I do remember a particular 1960s summer for me, during 1990.)

I am, however, unimpressed by Stacy or Clinton. Her style seems to be clean, but boring. Would she stand out in a crowd? I don't think so. As for Clinton, I would like an explanation for the Argyle vests.
More reason to judge people, shows like this, and then they think it's fine to judge all over town, a la Stacy and Clinton, or the English ones who actually grab asses and boobs in the name of "you're not good enough."
That ought to be the name of the show: You're Not Good Enough (and how to spot them, judge them, and shred them, just like we do).

Disclaimer: I studied fashion and worked in the industry for ages before I went West (on all kinds of levels : )), who says Stacy or Clinton are good judges anyway -- have you seen her hair, or the guy's shirts?
Yes, I can judgmentally shred like the best of them too...

PS -- Sunny looks normal in her 'before' photo for my part of the country. I say our country is so huge and stuffed with different cultures, it's a miracle we've stayed 'United' for as long as we have -- and its impossible to declare NY's fashion trends as trend in Indiana. Or Arizona. Or Oregon. Or Wyoming. Stylish in NY looks ridiculous in Montana (and even in NY, depending on the style trend).
(this is also my theory on why Ann Curry tanked -- she's too West Coast emo for the NY/East Coast/national market, and she grew up right here in my current town, with all the other hippie huggers, righteous ones and sob sisters...).

I liked this post, I'd forgotten about those two and that show...and I agree with Alysa on the belt for curvy women, your thoughts aside -- maybe it's the short torso that goes with the curves that's actually the problem. Straight or tailored (if dressing up), with no ruffles, for me...like that gorgeous blue floor-length gown you wore last year?
I'd wear that in a heartbeat : )
(sorry for the lengthy epistle today...)
Andrea: Thanks for stopping in to read and comment.

Myriad: Hear that sound? The fashion police are on the way. :D

Zumalicious: I don’t believe style can be “installed.” I think it just is.

Emily: I have a feeling that marriage might have already ended.

postmormongirl : Exactly. These kinds of problems cannot be solved at Barney’s or H&M.

Paul: Oh, yeah, I can relate. I got teased in college for not letting the bottoms of my cutoff jeans fray, for wearing clothes that fit, etc. That’s when I really learned to appreciate the saying “Consider the source.” :D

Art: There is no danger of catching me wearing bib overalls ANYWHERE, much less the White House. Not even you you were my “Single Date.” :D

Vanessa: I agree about Clinton, but I like Stacy’s sleek style. Like I said in a comment above, my artsy fartsy friend next door thinks my style is boring. Different strokes…
JT: I look forward to your epistles! When are you going to write about your fashion career and how you have changed since "going West?"
L- before I give my beleaguered computer a break, I just realized that there is a thread between this post and mine, and that is the thread of "creative voice". It's beautiful when it's nourished and it's ugly when it's squashed. OK, taking mine out into the outside world. :-)
They sometimes do a good job but too much of the show is just based on being nasty.
I watched that episode several years ago when it first aired. It made quite a buzz in my family because we have someone similar to sunny. Her "thing" is dressing like Ginger form Gilligan's island except for her bright green hair and cat ears mounted on a hairband.

I took her to Mendicino (a small city full of hand-made crafts stores run by fifty-something hippie ladies. The old hippie ladies loved her. It was like walking around with a movie star.

Yes, I hope sunny keeps a few pairs of wings around. I think her new outfit makes her look like a young CPA on her night off. blech.
Sorry to say, I loathe that show.
Oh, yeah, I forgot to mention sunny's fiance was a dick. If they are Catholic, his contribution to that episode should sure qualify them for an annulment. Totally "false pretenses".
Emily: You go girl!

Kosh: I’m glad to know you think so, too.

another steve s: I just loved Mendocino! Of course she would fit right into that quaint little seaside town. If I had a fiancé who did that to me, there would have been no need for an annulment. I wouldn’t have married him.
I love ill-fitting and shapeless clothes. I am uncomfortable in clothes that touch me too much and I don't understand why women are supposed to always wear snug clothing that completely outlines their body. Well, yes I do - femininity = exhibitionism in our culture. It makes us less powerful, I've always thought, but I think the youngsters may be subverting that, insisting that they can be powerful with their boobs half exposed and standing on tippy toe inside their shoes. One more thing that makes me glad to be old.

That said, I like beautiful clothes but my definition includes good fabrics and construction. Not like the green dress above, a style I particularly dislike. And I might be able to endure some indignity in exchange for a new 5k wardrobe. But chosen by me, not that uber-consumerist conformist. And not tight.

Maybe I'd think differently if I was gorgeous.
I think she looks cute both ways. It's knowing when to wear the wings - and when not to. But then again, she is trying to be an actress, a creative type, so who really cares? If she wants the corporate look, she knows what to do now. ... R.
I will admit WNTW is one of my favorite hours of fluff. I love before/after shows (houses, people, bad pets made good -- I 'm a sucker for the transformative moment), enjoy Stacy and Clinton, and am truly surprised by how lovely many of these women are once ill-fitting clothes and bad hair are cleared away.

As for Sunny, a young woman who wears fairy wings in public and wants to be an actress isn't exactly someone who wants to fade into the background, so I'm betting toning down her style for an hour's worth of exposure on tv was a fair trade off for her.
Seems like if fiance fell in love with the girl with wings, and it bothered him, he should have said something much sooner. The one thing that Sunny should not wear? Fiance's ring.
Sigh...poor, poor, humiliated girl! My best advice to her would be to NEVER marry this man - who clearly has no regard for who she truly is - deep inside! While i may agree she looks better - socially acceptable, even - in the 'after' picture - the important thing is she FELT better in the 'before'..Dump this Dick!
Awww, I have not seen that episode. I have not watched that show in a long time, but I do hope Sunny secretly hid some of her fairy wings so she can bust out with them when she needs to ;) And glitter sneaks would be awesome! I think it is important to always stay true to who you are, and not conform to the point where you lose yourself completely. I would hate for Sunny to be anything but, and spend much of her time being unhappy :( Nice piece, Lezlie!