If I want to get to heaven

I have to walk away from hell
MAY 4, 2012 12:19AM

Love like this

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Not long ago, I was having an email conversation with a friend who was going through some heart ache. My friend told me her story then asked for my thoughts, but not before she apologized for whining.

 

“You’re not whining,” I said. “You’re hurting out loud. You have to listen to your heart on whether or not you want to continue on if this other person finishes their lesson. Listen within to what your spirit tells you is good for you, don’t listen to your desires. Listen to what will be Good For Your Soul.”

 

My friend always has tremendous compliments about my writing. And after reading my response to her dilemma, she urged me to share what I wrote pointing out that my words were insightful and that I had incredible talent. She often tells me things to that effect and even urged me to write a book, something I really have no desire to do. I suppose any intellect or writing ability I have is wasted on me. It hasn’t really brought me joy or benefitted me or anyone else, save a few employers. I sometimes feel bad because I don’t cherish this gift, maybe because it comes so easily to me or maybe because nothing lasts forever, ashes to ashes, even mountains wear away… I’ve never really been able to put it into words well, but I’ve tried to explain it in many different ways. This was my exact response:

 

“As far as my talent, it’s only talent. It’s like brains, they’re only intellect. And like beauty, it’s only beauty. What matters is the heart, love is what lasts. Talent, intellect, beauty; those things of the body and brain all fade. Love is the only thing that ever lasts.”

 

For my next explanation, I sent her something I read as poetry with a question. Perhaps you’ll recognize it, the original is below the version I edited. 

 

“My dearest friend, the real question is, how do we get to be filled with Love like this:

 

If I speak in the tongues
of men or of angels,
but do not have love,
I am only a resounding gong
or a clanging cymbal.

 

If I have the gift of prophecy
and can fathom all mysteries
and all knowledge,
and if I have a faith that can move mountains,
but do not have love,
I am nothing.

 

If I give all I possess to the poor
and give over my body to hardship
that I may boast,
but do not have love,
I gain nothing.

 

Love is patient,
love is kind.
It does not envy,
it does not boast,
it is not proud.

 

It does not dishonor others,
it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.

 

Love does not delight in evil
but rejoices with the truth.

 

It always protects,
always trusts,
always hopes,
always perseveres.

 

Love never fails.

But where there are prophecies,
they will cease;
where there are tongues,
they will be stilled;
where there is knowledge,
it will pass away.


For we know in part
and we prophesy in part,
but when completeness comes,
what is in part disappears.

 

When I was a child, I talked like a child,
I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.
When I became a man,
I put the ways of childhood behind me.

 

For now we see only
a reflection
as in a mirror;
then we shall see
face to face.


Now I know in part;
then I shall know
fully,
even as I am
fully known.

 

And now these
three remain:
faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these
is love.

 

At some point, most recognize the above passage as being Bible scripture. Often when I read scripture that’s how it sounds in my head. It’s as if I am reading poetry and must pause in certain places. I broke it up as poetry last year when another friend asked me questions about love. At that point,  I’d run out of ways to explain what I felt love was and decided to go to a better source….

 

Family, friends, lovers, and pets. Love is always a puzzle, but what else feels as powerful or as good?

 

Below is the original verse

 

1 Corinthians 13
1 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

 

 

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i'm not a big fan of the bible, but i've always loved that passage. it's a universal message that reaches beyond any religious beliefs. love is great and wonderful and something we should all give and accept freely.
lemonpulp, if we need spirituality it's best to find the path that works for the individual. Religion doesn't bring me close to God but much of the bible works well for me. I agree with you, love is wonderful and that passage is indeed lovely.
"I am only a resounding gong
or a clanging cymbal." - 1 Corinthians 13
I knew I had read this before, you are soooo sneaky and sooooo wonderful. Thank you for posting, I've missed your posts... please don't wait so long before you post again.
jmac, sneaky, hahaha! Scripture sounds best if I read it with my heart not my head. I hear Solomon in Proverbs like a kindly grandfather's voice. It's a mystical passage with fun words, isn't it? There is much clanging, gonging and blah blah blah in the world. I haven't felt up to speaking here much lately but this was posted on the other blog so I thought I'd stay connected. Thank you for the kind words.
Portions of that verse have become a popular tattoo.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mhoman/4426099518/in/photostream/
Larry, nice script. I came across a fb photo that read "Real Love is NOT based on romance, candle lit dinner and walks along the beach. In fact, 'LOVE' is based on Respect, Compromise, Care & Trust. If her back isn't covered she has room for that one too.
Tears.... a touching and beautiful post, graceful from start to finish. Blessings, dear one.
bleue-I missed you

I think it was you I once told, "I'm in the process of losing my religion..." but some scriptures just stick-because we can't un ring the ring of truth.

I always hear the directive-Love One Another-and I TRY to apply it-LIKE THAT. I do. I try. Sigh....
What other blog?

Lovely words, as always.
Great thoughts and reminders...
This is as lovely as anything I've seen in some time. Thank you.

Rated
You always inspire me Blue.
This post does it well.
continue to spread the good words...
Lovely post. Thanks Bleue.
how perfect, bleue. and that last last line has always been one of my favorites.

it makes a perfect poem. thank you for reminding us today.
. . . and the truth shall make you free.
Brazen Princess, blessings to you. Thank you.

AJ, I'd be a Buddhist but I'm not that good a person so I had to give up religiousness so I could keep God, love and goodness. You know what I mean. I've been reading a bit and glad to see you're here.

Phyllis, Hayleyscomments.com but I haven't been publishing there either. Lately I'm into tossing what I write into the recycle bin, probably because I'm too lazy to get rid of excess stuff in my house, hahaha!

Patrick, yeah, sometimes it's simpler than I think it is. Too bad simple and easy are not the same.

Jonathan, thank you.

Mission, I'm tired of the bad words. My granddaughter can't talk yet and she's a joy, hahahaha, such is life.

Brianna, thank you.

daisyjane, I wish I could see the way others would put it in a poem. Thanks, I was the one who needed a reminder today.

Side note, eharmony is advertising above the comment box. A cruel jest as they rejected me as not being someone they could match up. Oh well, someday they'll go out of business. All things must pass.
Never forget you are an angel with a light to spread. Never ever forget that.
HUGGGGGGG
If we all approached everything with love first - so many things would be so different - you need to be around these parts more often - we are all better for it
Bleue: When I read your piece I was reminded of Kahil Gibran. Wise words, HB.
I'm not a bible reader, but do like that passage. Religions say the best stuff about love.
I missed having you around too, l'Heure.
I love how you broke the verses up.
These are always beautiful passages to me, but divided into their natural pauses....it's just lovely and more of the deepness is able to come to life that way, I think.
That fourth paragraph says it all for me...beautiful, just beautiful and so very true.
There is so much wisdom in this.
No wonder your friend was inspired by your words, Bleue. This was beautiful!

Lezlie
Brassawe, thank you for power-full words. I lived in a cage long enough.

Linda, I'm a little dimmed this year and am seeking the light myself, thanks for spreading yours on me.

LammChops, it would be incredibly different if only we all did. I've been spending much time with a toddler, she's exhausting and can't talk but there's really big love there.

Scarlett, what a lovely thing to say, thank you. Gibran was wise and I'm greatful to have read his work. Fortunately I've been able to gather wisdom in many places.

greenheron, huge sigh... yeah, religions say good stuff a lot. It's lovely to think about what the actions would feel like.

Just Thinking, "Love never fails" refused to be connected to the next paragraph no matter what I cleared when transferring it from the other site into Word. Haha, my desires were thwarted. The passage has many deeper levels of meaning and reminds me of Native American (and other) prophecy. We think we are all knowing, I often see beyond what is visable but I know next to nothing. It's all temporary, I know that all that lasts is love.

David, wise of you. The fourth paragraph says what it is, the seventh says what it does. It's good to focus on what it is instead of what it's not.

Sarah, I'm often foolish so I find wisdom where I can.

Lezlie, I'm fortunate to have people to inspire and lift me up, it's nice to be able to give it in return. Thanks.
Lamm chops took the words right out of my mouth. Great passage. I wish I knew more bible passages. You are wise and loving person, Doris. I wish we could clone you. Love and goodness is everywhere but the harsh reality is :There are very bad people amongst the good, and they can't be understood. Therein lies so much of the struggle.
fernsy, my heart aches for you, and many of us. Our mothers used to say things like "one bad apple spoils the whole bunch." Toxic people are the same way, you fell into where every bushel became rotten fruit. We must guard against becoming rotted fruit.

My father died and what I learned from that was that in the end, how we loved is the most powerful thing that we leave behind.
I remember hearing these passages at each Catholic wedding I attended over the years, and seeing the innocence of the bride and groom what they know, what they don't know.
But greatest of all these is love.
Peace my friend, I am happy to see you in the feed today.
This was lovely, Doris. Thanks for sharing.
I know exactly what you mean.
It’s been interesting stopping by OS
- - -
REAL enlightening this time around…
hey bible girl! i like your biblical references..

For we know in part
and we prophesy in part,
but when completeness comes,
what is in part disappears.

thats for f-ing sure a true statement!
and they say, dont take that bible seriously...

well, some say.

the individual
is the whole pt of creation.
I've always thought love was the only thing stronger than death. This is wonderful - I love the poetic phrasing. Thank you for reminding me of these beautiful lines.
rita, weddings give me anxiety (imagine that?) so I avoid them. I can't remember if this was read at my daughter's Catholic wedding, major anxiety for me but I know the love is patient-kind-etc.. part is very popular for weddings. I wonder how many really hear the power of the entire scripture as their minds wander? Peace and love to you.

Christine, thank you very much.

AJ, yes. Everything changes, such is the worldly world. Sometimes it's good to just tuck everything in and rest.

James, hahahaha! That's foul mouthed bible girl to you sir! It's funny that the simplicity of the bible is buried in seeming complexity. And there it is; "what is in part disappears." This year I have been enjoying the seemingly simple complexity of the tao te ching. Millions of brilliant minds studying and teaching and we know nothing of all there is! I am childishly impatient for completeness, hahaha!

Sheila, thank you!

nilesite, my pleasure. Maybe it's what was intended when it was written, who can say?
You are a very smart woman. Hugs doll.r
Your loving nature shines through the thickest and gloomiest fog.
Made me think of Gibran too.
I must tell you,l 'heure bleue, dear madame crepusculaire,I saw your name elsewhere, and then I located you here. When I was a girl, I wanted to write copy for perfume advertisements, and your OS name, reminded me of that precious time, after the sunset, before dark. Terrific name.
You have found the most important words in the bible. It is really all that matters. I have been through every spiritual path I could resonate with and end up saying to myself over and over. "I am a radiant mirror of love" - I say it everyone I know when they are feeling down and rejected only I say "You are a radiant mirror of love." Loving is so much grander than being loved, it opens the possibilities to every thing.
Thanks for this piece, there is wisdom in places just waiting to remind us that we all are "radiant mirrors of love.
rated with love
My favorite Bible passage of all time.
Thank you for posting this. I think it is necessary to remember that "Love is all....Without it we are shallow. Love is home. Without it we are lost. Love is our blanket without it, we are cold and bare." Stories like this remind us.