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“I’ve discovered the secret of life,” Kay Thompson, the eccentric entertainer and “Eloise” author, once said. “A lot of hard work, a lot of sense of humor, a lot of joy and a lot of tra-la-la!” And that's been my life: As a travel writer for over 30 years, I've been around the block (more like around the world), and I write true stories about interesting people and places. (Check out my travel site, Travels With Lea.) I've lived an unconventional life in conventional trappings. Been a corporate VP, worked with foster kids, acted in an Indie ("Nurse 1"), was on Jeopardy!. I've been managing editor of a travel publication, written for the Times, and authored books. OS is my home, but I also blog on The Huffington Post, and I've contributed (mostly anonymously) to everything from encyclopedias to guidebooks. Married young, divorced late; married late, widowed early, I dated lots in-between -- and survived a scary illness. After being happily, peacefully solo for many years, I'm now happily married again. I founded and still edit www.sololady.com, a lifestyle Website for single women. I'm truly grateful for each precious day, each well-earned wrinkle, my family, my cat. Truth, laughter, friendship, late love. And this blog -- on this wonderful site!

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NOVEMBER 10, 2009 8:59AM

The Amateur Analysis of My "Wet" Dream

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(Exactly as I remember, on awakening, with my analysis/comments/questions in parentheses.)

I was at a rehearsal of a Broadway show like Bye Bye Birdie or Grease. A retro show, in color. People were dancing, stacked on steps (I had recently watched Deal or No Deal.) A Ricki Lake-like woman was dancing the lead, kicking her legs, and I was being told by the producer how good she was, except she didn’t seem to kick very high and slipped off the step. The understudy was called. (Dancing With the Stars had recently changed partnering because of illness.)

I had to leave in a bus/ship (My many travels –bus, ship, plane –they start to meld after awhile.) I reluctantly boarded the vehicle but I called out and asked a person to give me the names and info of those actors left behind. She agreed and I felt better. (Don’t like loss?)

The bus was luxurious and wide, in gold and black/brown hues, with separate reclining leather seats like in a private jet. A seat was empty in the front, but I walked to another one in the back, (My inclination since my childhood in the south, pre-Civil Rights Act -- to go to the back of the bus?) I sat down. The bus was filled with people I didn’t know. I realized I had to pee.

A spiral staircase. I walked down to look for a bathroom. Below was a confined world, off the vehicle, with lots of rooms and light-filled space.

I finally found a bathroom with endless stalls. It was the ugliest, grungiest, filthiest place you could imagine. The stalls were cluttered with  tissues.

A little old lady was cleaning the floor, pushing a broom through about a foot of grime, which stirred up in clouds.(I was once in a fetid public toilet in Turkey and a little old lady with a stained straw broom hit me with it on the leg when I didn’t leave a tip.)

I felt desperate. I went from stall to stall. Most of the toilet lids were down. (I didn’t want to scare myself.) The place was empty (At least there was no line!)

Sitting outside. It didn’t occur to me to pee behind a bush. (It was a dream, and I guess I couldn’t wet the bed so the story had to enfold. In real life I would have gone behind a bush, dammit.)

I found a big blue bowl and asked a blond and pretty woman (Sandra Stephens?), if she wanted to work on creating “a pot to pee in.” A man sitting nearby suggested we add water and make it more like a real toilet. (My bidet?)

I don’t know why I didn’t act on this but I couldn’t. (I was still sleeping and having to pee so I guess that solution wouldn’t do)

“Get her help on other things,” the man said. This world seemed to need lots of solutions. (I just finished redoing my son’s apartment. The health care bill? World hunger? Guilt?)

Exploring some more to find a bathroom. So I walked awhile and I found a corporate suite, and the receptionist was -- Tom Cruise. (I can’t stand the smug little sonofabitch. I must have really felt hopeless). I asked Tom if I could use the bathroom there, and that I had done some work for the corporation. He smiled that entitled smile and said “no, find another place or hold it in.” He said he’d been in that very situation. He kept smiling as I left. (I hate him more than ever.)

I was stuck. I had to go.

(So I woke up, and hurried off to pee, then grabbed my computer and wrote this post! I don’t often have such clear recollection and I wanted to get the dream down before it shimmered away.)

 

 

 

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Oh, Tom would say "No." The little bastard! Is there an interpreter of dreams on OS? Glad you got relief in RL. R.
I have to say, you do have interesting deams.
What a vivid description. I agree with you on Mr. Cruise.
C.K., Tom just seems so smug, doesn't he?

Sheila, I have *far* more interesting dreams. But this one was so clear because it was early in the am.
Vivid dream! And I love the commentary to help us follow. Dreams in general - do they mean something or just the brain doing its filing?
Funny, Sheep, but Cruise has turned from a dreamboat to a nightmare.

Smithery, I find that if I remember my dream clearly it so often is pretty easy for me or others who know me to figure out the symbols. I studied dreams a bit and they truly are the attic we can rummage through.
That Tom is a real piss ant. But your dreams do tell much. ie: ~Dreams of urination may also stand for changes, usually for the better, to follow in one's waking life. They may also illustrate one's determination to let go of a painful past and adopt a new lifestyle, changing one's old habits and way of thinking. Consequently, urination dreams may be a symbol for re-birth and revival. Or maybe you just had to go real, real bad. ~R~
I hate pee dreams and when I wake up I always have to check before I get up.
Chuck, you are funny with wordplay, and wise with interpretation. I think you may be right about the symbolism (as I have written I am not longer "solo") and also physically I just had to go!

ocularnervosa, I find these kinds of dreams wake me up at just the last minute. For me it was Tom's smug refusal. That got me mad enough to wake up!
And what did you eat before bed? Pepperoni, mushrooms? Pizza?
Ever wonder if the mind resents having the imagination yoked to that down-to-earth body, with all its basic needs? Here it wants to travel and explore, and yet all it can explore is a bunch of bathrooms.
Owl, I had decaf and diet coke. Can you tell?

Pilgrim, fascinating how our minds are grounded by our bodies. No place more clear than here!
ah. another item on the "reasons to dismiss tom cruise as a dope" list. [check]

thanks, lea. 8~)
femme forte, this would be low on the list as to why Cruise is on so unloved, but happy to add my two-cent dream.
Ah, give Tom a break. I'll bet Katie was already using that toilet.
Ha! Now I know why Tom Cruise bugs me.
"He smiled that entitled smile"

The little weasel.

I hate dreams like that -- I wake up afraid I'm going to wet the bed. Or already did.
Isn't peeing in the middle of the night a real piss-off? Happens to me every friggin knight at 2:30, like clockwork, but I don't recall ever having such vivid drams about it. My dreams are more often about a nude woman and I really do get pissed off when I have to go pee.

One time I was helping rebuild Hoover Dam and a gorgeous black lady was swimming in the river below. I tride to get a pencil and paper to get her telephone number, but had to pee too badly to wait around. I tried to go back to where I left off, but for some reason they never seem to work out that way.
Steve, she probably doesn't pee. She might be a cardboard cutout, come to think of it.

Maria, it's that smug smile, kind of like a big happy hedgehog.

Boa, yes the dream had an urgency to it -- that's why I remembered it so vividly. And yes, he's a weasel.

Bob, isn't that frustrating about dreams? Once you break the spell you can't just return to where you left off.
Jane, thank you! How interesting. I get it and can even understand some of the loss I may feel, and the difficulty of ridding myself of past perceptions.
But when it is a physical thing, like a full bladder, isn't the symbolism of the dream more about that than anything?
What is really interesting about dreams such as these is the fact that even though it felt like it lasted a long time, in all probability it took place entirely within the last half-minute before your eyes flew open and you HAD to go pee. Dreams and the way they stretch time have always been an interest for me.

Rated!
Torman, yes it could have been s short time. I would have loved to know, as it was vivid and many of the scenes were forgotten. Lots of walking around, searching.

Jane, yes the things *around* the physical sensation and my choices and my difficulties are telling, I realize. I do find dream therapy extremely fascinating when done with someone who has studied the symbols and such and has intuition and sensitivity and observational skills. Thanks.
Hmmm, a lot of movement and a lot of water (universal symbol of primal life force). Sounds like a dream that means you are moving toward greater generativity? Or you had to pee really badly....
Oh you dirty girl, you. No, but this is a very graceful dream actually.
Laura, probably the second reason.

Caroline, graceful. Oh my. Thanks. (But I probably just had to pee.)
I like this idea - the dream sequences and such. Very unusual, as reams of creative people should be.
Asking the Sandra Stephens character to help you make a pot to pee in... What a mind bender. But I have always thought of Tom Cruise as the guy at the desk who wouldn't let you use the toilet. It all seems so real! Rated
Nikki, I have a feeling everyone's dreams are creative. Often more creative than conscious thoughts.

Ralph, odd juxtaposition of characters. The pretty blonde could have been anyone, but reminded me of SS and she could represent OS!
My, you are a funny woman. I've taken to keeping a notepad next to my bed. I wake up in the middle of the night and jot things down in the dark. Of course, come first light the note looks like it was written by the aliens who abducted me. I really need to get a laptop.
This was HILARIOUS!!! First of all, I have this exact same type of dream quite often, and yes, always when I really have to pee (I wake up with bladder bursting). And same thing although different details in every dream -- no matter where I go, the bathrooms are filthy, broken, locked or an entire football team comes bursting in just when I'm about to go, or whatever. And I also assume it's because my mind is making sure my body doesn't really go.

but what really made me roar was the part about Tom Cruise!! I hate the smug SOB too and I LOVED that he was the final obstacle to you and that you knew this must mean you really felt hopeless in the dream.

Just remember: In Scientology, no one can hear you pee.
That bidet is great for fodder!! You should always have one! LOL
Michael, I have a notepad, too. But I often can't find the pen! And most dreams just vanish. This was an early am dream so I guess I was in lighter sleep mode.

Silk, you the brilliant Mad Men analyzer. What a thrill to have you analyze my dream ("Mad Woman"?). Interesting that Cruise does get me so exasperated I want to get up and end the dream, and thus I end it and go.

And is that true about Scientology? And if so, isn't that a bit strange? Or am I being totally naiive?

MAWB, I have one as you may know, but only use it for "special" occasions. And not usually when I'm sleepy or there could be terrible consequences!
This why old Noah doesn't drink anything an hour or two before sleeptime... Diapers to diapers, dust to dust
That's profound, Noah. I used to be able to sleep through the night even if I had a drink right before bed. And so it goes ....
If I'm ever in Turkey, I'll remember to tip. Some advice. If you are ever dreaming that you have found a safe place to pee, DON'T BELIEVE IT!!! Not that that has ever happened to me, or anything.
Actually, I was making a joke based on the movie slogan for the first Alien movie, "In space, no one can hear you scream." As far as I know, it's not that you can't have bodily functions in Scientology. It's mental functions, like logical reasoning, that are forbidden.

I find dream interpretation so individual that I don't believe in any system of 'X means Y in dreams'. I've had fun analyzing my own dreams and those of others, but only people I know well, including knowing what's going on with them right then. I think you were spot-on in pointing out things you'd recently read, heard, seen or experienced that made it into your dream -- I think that happens for all of us. As for what those things you pluck from your life mean in the context of the dream.... I think really only the dreamer can say what her dream "means".
Jim, why does your admonition sound like something Seinfeld might say? Not that you would know or anything!!

Silk, thanks for the clarification. After reading so many of your spot-on interpretations I tend to believe whatever you write. And Scientology is such a mystery to me that I could believe it might be possible.
Ever heard the expression "You could screw up a wet dream."? Now if you had hiked up your skirt and peed all over Mr. Cruise... never mind.
My feeling is that sometimes dreams are deeply significant. Other times, they're random, signifying nothing. I have no idea which is which!
Thanks Robin. xox back.

Cap'n the only problem with that plan was that I would've wet the bed. But then again, it would have wet so good!
I hate those bathroom dreams, truly. I've had parts of your dream before, but not all in one sleeping.
I'm all dried up here. I think you kind of said it all. And TOm Cruise? Ewwwwww. (Looks in rear view mirror of mind to see if any dream remnants of him are loitering around)
I can't stand my dreams when I have to go to the bathroom! They are always about stalls with doors that are too short and everyone can see over it or that the only toilet available is right next to the window on a busy street with no curtains! Never thought about blogging about them though...hmmm...
Hate those dirty toilet dreams! Even so, great detail remembering it all. I love dreaming.
This means that you will be coming into money. No, wait! You'll be taking an ocean voyage. Or you're in love with a camel! That's it! Lea, why didn't you tell us you'd met a camel?

I guess it's obvious I'm just making this crap up. Just like in my blog.
Let me amend my brother Floyd's comment (it's not often that we are online at the same time). It should read: "I guess it's obvious I'm just making this crap up. Just like in my real life."
Kathy, I hate them too.

Outside, that's a whole other story. There's a hotel in NYC called the Standard which caters to open windows and people who like to be seem through them. Not a dream.

O'Really, why am I not surprised you're not a fan of Tom.

Polly, I'm not crazy about them either.

Floyd, yes I'm living with a camel. (Right O'Really?)
Sandra Stephens and Tom Cruise appear regularly in my dreams. I'll leave it at that.
This is really quite simple. Bottom line: Tom Cruise is a pissant.
Steve, that's a dysfunctional couple, I admit.

Sally, agreed. See you later!
Thank you, Lea. See, sis? She is living with a camel. I'm not making it up.

I only make stuff up to get out of trouble. Or to avoid trouble. Or I'm bored.
I dream all the time but can almost never remember them. I do remember having dreams where I was searching for a place to pee, and, thankfully, I never found that place and woke up before I did! Amazing that you were able to both remember it and put it in context with your waking ideas. I have no idea what that means expect to say that I can never do that.

Finally I have to say that you may have come upon a whole new writing genre to explore.

Fun read.

Monte
From a professional standpoint (carpentry is a profession), this dream had NOTHING to do with the fact that you had to pee while you were sleeping. It was a manifestation of the Id's traumatization at the notion of taco shells invading the sacrosanct liquidity (water of course always representing sex) of your bidet, leavened with reverse post-Oedipal hostility towards a "Tom Cruise as pleasure-denying stand in for Dick Cheney" figure and subconscious angst stemming from a repressed admiration for Ricki Lake and a pre-adolescent wish that life was more like a Broadway musical.
Vehicles in dreams typically represent how you are getting through life. A big luxurious bus -- sounds like your life is pretty cushy. Until you need the basics, like a toilet. Then the dirty, reality comes through. And an old woman pushing the broom -- a part of your psyche that feels like the mundane, bodily functions-part of life . Getting off the bus and being outside? No longer barreling down the road of life, taking a little break. Seeking out the advice of a pretty woman -- while all along the man (with all the answers) offers sound advice. Wait and ask the pretty woman about how to solve bigger problems. Very cool -- having someone in reserve for when you have a bigger problem.

As for Tom -- I think your subconcious threw him in there for his star power. LOL
You are looking for a place to dump your shit but haven't found it yet. You're still in a conflict with your masculine side, as represented by Cruise, your "animus," who seems to know better but you reject him.

Robert Johnson's book on dream interpretation is the best I've ever read though the great Marion Woodman has an intro tape that is fantastic. Have an "active imagination" dialogue with Cruise to get to the bottom of your differences and you may feel it in your bowels.

hugs,
Oh, Lea, where do I begin???
I am a dream fanatic and yours is just so full of imagery. . .I can't resist giving a few of my interpretations:
1. You feel like you are "on stage" in your life and are being watched carefully by some people around you. (rehearsal)
2. Someone in your life (represented by Rikki Lake) is getting praise by someone important to you (producer) but you don't think it's warranted
3. You are leaving a part of your life to embark on another (the bus/plane) but you want to make sure you retain a part of your old life
4. Whatever you're going through in your life now feels good and very comfortable (some part of it is represented by gold and black/brown--maybe a person who is prominent in your life wears a shirt of these colors?)
5. You don't want to see exactly where you're going in your life right now but want to just go for the ride without knowing too much (the back of the bus)
6. You're afraid to fail and that it will happen gradually (spiral staircase)
7. You want someone who you can really "let it all out" with but you feel like you can't do that (all toilet lids are closed and Tom Cruise saying no)
8. You feel like you're not being so nice to someone because you are expecting something from him/her that he/she is not giving (every person in your dreams represents you also--the little old lady that was expecting a tip)
So sorry for writing so much but I have such fun interpreting dreams! A few more pointers: take every image that appears in your dream and figure out what it means to you in waking life. Also, when you write about a dream, write it in the present and you can more easily interpret it.
Thanks for providing me with some fun today!
I have used gestalt on my dreams before. Where you become everything in the dream. Sometimes it's the inanimate object that cues you in to what your subconscious is trying to tell you. Like--I am the spiral staircase, I feel this, I do that. I am the washer woman I am the blue bowl, etc., etc. I haven't had a wonderful vivid dream like this in a while. Have fun!
I not any good at figuring out the hidden meaning of dreams but I don't like Tom Cruise either (smug little sonofabitch sums him up perfectly!) and I can just picture him denying access to his toilet.

He acts like his s*** doesn's stink and you're (us mere mortals) not good enough to even pee in his toilet.
Jeez, I have no idea what to make of all that weirdness. I'm just glad it was that other Tom who was so rude. And you're right, I couldn't stand the smug little twerp even before he started pontificating about Scientology. Somebody oughta tell him children should be seen not heard.
Floyd. I repeat I'm living with a "camel."

Monte, I usually don't remember them either. This one was in the morning, and vivid.

nanatehay, that makes as much sense as most analyses. But keep your day job!

skeletnwmn, I like this interpretation. It makes me feel comfy.

Ben, it was number one, not number two!

Karin, thank you so much for the fascinating interpretation. I concur on much of it.

Anne, just as long as I'm not Tom Cruise!

Ablonde, we agree on that one. Nasty man, I just feel it.
piss and shit are both waste products--to be gotten rid of. since piss is "wet" it has a reference to the unconscious, since water is univerally a symbol of the unconscious, and more feminine in nature. you take me literally. the language of the psyche as expressed in dreams is meant to be taken SYMBOLICALLY. i note that the vast majority of responses do not have any understanding whatsoever of dreams. every object, every action, and every "figure" has a meaning, but that meaning is what is represented in you, not it's meaning in an "objective" way. this is really dreams 101. i suspect you are at a time in life when you wish to "relieve" yourself of some of your more feminine aspects and embrace more of the masculine in order to reach more consciousness, which is the masculine principle. you may start to find it harder, for instance, to be nice and forgive fools quite so readily. this is part of the natural process of becoming a crone.
I first read Freud's Interpretation of Dreams when I was seventeen and having a recurring dream, which I cannot now recall (in itself a Freudian slip).

Urination dreams seem to be brought on by the conflict between the body's need to pee and its desire to keep on sleeping.

You may find it interesting to revisit the characters in the dream and ask yourself what you have done lately which they exemplify (yes, even smug toilet denier Tom Cruise). Keep in mind that they all represent some aspect of your own personality.
Ben, I am actually finding my feminine side again in a new relationship. I find it harder yes, to tolerate fools in the last years. But your last sentence -- symbolic or reality? I am not dried up, if that is implied. Crone?

Wayne, nice to see you here. And thanks for the help. I shall try to think about how Tom Cruise exemplifies me. So far, I'm having a problem, except perhaps that he is a public face, and on here, we are all public faces.
In descending the staircase you were exploring the many different levels of you. The lowest level is where secrets of the soul are thought to reside. It represents that which you don't face head on in waking life because it is too difficult/scary/yucky, etc. I think it is important to identify the blond woman. Who did she seem to be? (looks are deceiving in dreams), so go with who you felt like she represented. The old man's advice for you to get help from this person for other things is key to solving a problem that lies deep in the basement of your soul. Creating a pot to piss in = creating a source of income (a business venture/partnership?) The cleaning lady represents what a task you have or will have set before you (a real mess to clean up) but that it is important to pick a place to start and dig in.

Just taking a stab at it. Was I close?
Apache, I don't know if you are close or not, but it is an excellent interpretation. Mess, source of income. These are realities I face.
“Get her help on other things,” the man said"

This is the meaning of the dream. I am not kidding.
That was an interesting dream, but our dreams allow us to escape. They allow us to rexamine a different path, towards what we might be trying to do, being you have been in the acting arts, your middel ego might be struggling to compartamentalize everything going on. Some times dreams are what they call like visions, we retain some incredible dialouge, and at times our dreams remind of us real life issues, that we may be sub-consciously pushing away.
I would think the bathroom thing, is also a sign of artistic expression, you are a person who "dosen't like holding it in". A bathroom, or going to the bathroom in a dream, is also another form of artistic expression. The maid in your dream, can be like a certain feeling of being a maid towards your roles, or other areas, where you are forced somehow to manage the aggravation that accompanys your success. The actors are all over the tabloids, sometimes the mind works like magnetic ink, and retains images and sounds even, exactly like the voices we have heard. Eeries since, we are sleeping and our brains are supposedly shut off. But it's just that odd, that when we are relaxed we can truly envision what and how we are percieving things. That is why there are those unusual art pieces I belive they are called surreal, where nothing quite makes sense, but somehow it does. I hope your sleep is peacefull. Gloria
Start with the content of the description as recorded upon waking and not the 'content' of the dream which is always misremembered--this is a basic insight of dream interpretation. The sub-content is not the dream-content. It is not a mass of drives or urges or events from waking life either, but what the description suggests, minus any displacement or other defensive mechanism.

You mention 'actors' and this is often a word associated with sexual content as in 'the actors in a sexual situation.' You also end up in a toilet which you describe as the 'grungiest, filthiest place you could imagine' (you use the more polite term 'bathroom' which is in itself a displacement). Feces is associated with an erogenous zone (th anus) but it is also the expulsive center of our selves, where waste and the unwanted, the toxic, is removed from view. We pretend that it ceases to exist, and the toilet is the site of this magical refusal.

I would say that there is something you want removed from your life, some impediment to a sexual relationship or carnal scene (this could also be food, of course).

Good, intense dream analysis. Was it good for you?
Nick, Momsacomic, BOKO, wow, I think I'll go back to sleep. If I morph everybody's analyses, I'm a repressed crone who wants to change my life, desperately needs help and to expel something. Or something like that. :)

Maybe I just had to pee!
perhaps you, and your dream, and the comments posted by myself and others, have no meaning; that in fact meaning itself is meaningless and that all our attempts to ascribe some value to the combinations of sounds/thoughts/ideas are no more than mental masturbation leading to nothing but inspissated random arrangements of transient energy flowing inevitably toward entropic death.
Bill, like I said, maybe I just had to pee.

Tom, I missed you back there. Agree with you assessment.
I'll certainly help you imagine a pot to pee in, or whatever other things 'the man' thinks best!!!

always interesting when the subconscious decides to purge itself, isn't it?
This is exactly what I needed, thank you!I love fashion ,so i red news about fashion,an old saying that woman like all beautiful things .such as replica jewelry ,yes every woman want to have an beautiful handbag .what do you think ?