As I cannot put a photo in a comment, I must respond here to Foolish Monkey's excellent post (http://open.salon.com/blog/nofrillsmonkey/2012/05/04/tittyplatters-girlywomen_god_save_the_queen_from_stilettos)
First, I often love me some stilettos. But only for occasions and yeah they hurt but I think they are cute. And I'd rather have someone looking at my cute shoes than my draggedy ass.
More to the point of your post. This is a young lady I know in person. This picture was taken of her on her prom night.
Everyone above the age of 30 who saw this said "oh my, what a pretty girl."
The girl pictured said, "oh it's ugly. My teeth are yellow and my lip is weird."
She was not kidding. That, my friends, is sad and a precise indicator of all FM was discussing.