Katy's Blog


Katy B.

Katy B.
Seattle, Washington, US
June 06
I am a working jazz vocalist, a writer and the mother of three boys. Basically, I sing, I write and, for better or worse, I parent. I love making noise about the Seattle jazz scene and also writing about other vocalists. I thought I was pretty good at the parenting gig until my son became a teenager. I'm presently getting my ass-kicked. Still, my kids rock, even when they nail me to the emotional wall and remind me, again and again, the meaning of humility. Beyond all this, I’m just a basic goober trying to make her way in the world. I am learning to fly solo after a 22-year marriage. It's pretty weird, but I'll figure it out. The Buddhist philosophy seems to work for me. I’m rabidly pro-choice. I love my president. I don’t eat meat. I love running but get injured a lot. I have the best sister on the planet. Pema Chodron said it best: “One can appreciate and celebrate each moment-there’s nothing more sacred. There’s nothing more vast or absolute. In fact, there’s nothing more.” Thank you for letting me make my paw print on Open Salon with you.


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Violet & Randy

What if you could help a dynamic team of scientists use nature as a platform to create life-saving treatments for rare cancers and other diseases? What if you had a role in groundbreaking research that could radically change the way we think about treating disease? What if you

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Everything came to a screeching halt.

On Wednesday afternoon, I received the news that my son Emmett’s best friend had been in a horrific accident. As he was riding his bicycle to work, he collided with a van. He wasn’t wearing a

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JANUARY 27, 2012 3:11AM

A Bitch Slap for Rick Santorum


 “There are certain things that government does that gives people privileges in order to promote activity that are healthy for society and are best for society. And those things we promote would give people advantages or benefits, government benefits because we thi

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NOVEMBER 22, 2011 10:59AM

Why I'm Grateful For Gay Kids




I am grateful for gay kids.

Their mere presence in the world makes it a better place. Gay kids are unique and effervescent spirits. Most have a wisdom beyond their years. Many are madly creative and unafraid to push the edge. Gay kids… Read full post »


 Well, it’s certainly been one nutty week. Between Rep. Sally Kern (R-OK) and Donald Trump, there’s no question that racism and stupidity are alive and well in the U.S., or at least in the GOP. Both received suitable karmic comeuppance for their misdeeds. The pushback againstRead full post »

DECEMBER 9, 2010 10:09AM

Reindeer Minutia


 Ah, the season is upon us once again. Many of you probably celebrate the Christmas holiday or some variation of it. If so, it is quite likely that you are well schooled in all things Santa Claus. You know the stories. You’ve/Read full post »

NOVEMBER 24, 2010 10:53PM

grace, ambiguity & gratitude

 Tomorrow is Thanksgiving, the beautiful autumn celebration of communion, food and giving thanks. Many of you will be gathering with friends and family over sumptuous feasts and lively conversation. Some of you will be traveling, enduring icy roads or TSA pat downs to reach… Read full post »

 After the disaster with the Prius acceleration, the massive vehicle recall last spring and the accompanying PR debacle that came with it all, one would think that Toyota would be very careful about what messages it puts out to the world. One would think Toyota big wigs would exercise extreme ca/Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
OCTOBER 21, 2010 9:14AM

"Jackass 3D" - The Joy of Stupid


  The other night, my boys and I went to see “Jackass 3D.”  It was disgusting, profane, ridiculous and unquestionably stupid. I laughed so hard it hurt.

 I suppose I could blame this on the fact that I am the mother of /

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OCTOBER 14, 2010 9:31AM

Santa is an Asshole




 Don’t let the photo fool you. Behind that deceptively cute face lurks a snarling, maniacal little rat turd. In fact, mere seconds after this photo was taken, Santa snapped and growled at my friend Wally. Santa is my elderly mother’s little bundle of joy. AccoRead full post »


 Every now and then, I come across a piece of writing or a musical recording that settles a little more deeply into my psyche than most. It floats dreamily along with me and ultimately inspires me to think bigger. “Tattooed By Passion: Music Inspired By the

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OCTOBER 6, 2010 11:19AM

Cloning Myself


 Lately, I’ve been thinking that it might be a good idea to have a few clones of myself walking around. This isn’t because I’m so wonderful and think the world would be a better place with me in multiples. Nope, it’s because that for the past couple… Read full post »

  They shove him into lockers and call him a "faggot" and a "fat ass." Some days, they grab his backpack and play keep-away from him, tossing it back and forth over his head, while taunting him and calling him names. They steal his cell phone and use it to textRead full post »

SEPTEMBER 22, 2010 2:25AM

Minutia in 12: HeidiBeth's Open Call


psycho shower scene


 OK, I wasn’t going to respond to this Open Call, only because I didn’t figure anyone would be particularly interested in twelve random factoids about moi. But golly, a whole lot of my fellow OS peeps seem to be having such fun with this one, I figureRead full post »

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SEPTEMBER 10, 2010 9:41AM

The Christianity I Used to Know

 For the past several years, the face of Christianity in the United States seems to be changing and with that change, the concept that God is a benevolent entity seems to be a distant and outdated notion. Over the course of recent years, we have seen high-powered churches launch political initiaRead full post »

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SEPTEMBER 9, 2010 11:13AM

Sponsored Call: Pony Boy Jazz Picnic in Seattle

 Seattle has one of the liveliest jazz scenes on the West Coast and a wildly popular event well worth checking out is the 7th Annual Pony Boy Records Jazz Picnic, which takes place Sunday, September 12 at Seattle’s Sand Point Magnuson Park.

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SEPTEMBER 8, 2010 3:57AM

The Shit of Motherhood

There’s no winning here.

It all fell apart again tonight, with my teenage son and me. With Emmett and me.  We had a conflict. It escalated. I asked him to leave my apartment. He did, with both of us screaming on his/… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 5, 2010 5:48PM

More Reflection on Mark's 15-15

Wow. OS writers love their music.

 The response to Mark T’s recent 15-15 Open Call has been pretty impressive, and I have had big fun perusing all the lists and reading what people have to say about why certain recordings are meaningful to them. I… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 4, 2010 2:43PM

The Amazing Merengue Dancing Dog!

 This little gem has been making the rounds on Facebook this week. I watched it for the first time a few days ago and have revisited it several times since. This funny dog has wiggled (or more accurately, danced) her way into my heart, and I get a big smile on… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 3, 2010 4:36AM

Mark Trost's Open Call: 15 in 15

 This is in response to Mark Trost's fabulous Open Call assignment. This is a good one, chum. I've copied and pasted the instructions here, although I think I fumbled on the tagging part.

Here are the rules as Mark explained them:

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 Sometimes a woman gets lucky. Out of the blue, she gets a text message from her teenage son, asking her if she wants to hang out with him today. She says “yes”, and

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AUGUST 25, 2010 2:58AM

The Luxury of Health

 One day last May, I woke up around 4 o’clock in the morning with a crushing pain in my chest. From everything I’d ever read, I was experiencing classic heart attack symptoms. I did not, however, call 911 or get myself immediately to the ER. Instead, I lay in bed, stared/… Read full post »

AUGUST 18, 2010 9:25AM

The Last Lesson


 The hospice people had us prepared for much worse. They gave us literature explaining what the process of dying would look like, what my father’s death would most likely look

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 Someday they will find me. I’ll be facedown in my apartment, or possibly on a sidewalk somewhere in the neighborhood. There will be pint containers littered around my body. My pants, if

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AUGUST 11, 2010 9:34AM

A Case For Skinny-Dipping

small dipping
 After pantyhose, which I consider human Saran Wrap, there is probably no greater affront to the human form than the swimsuit. Let’s face it, there is realistically only about 1% of the population that can actually work a swimsuit with any authority or panache. They are th… Read full post »