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Jennifer Byde Myers

Jennifer Byde Myers
Location
SF Bay Area, California, US
Birthday
February 03
Bio
Jennifer Byde Myers is a writer, editor and parent of a child with autism. She has been writing since 2003 at www.jennyalice.com, chronicling her family’s journey from diagnosis to daily living with her son’s special needs. She is a founder and editor of The Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism. Her writing has been featured at Salon.com, Dandelion, Care.com and in several books including My Baby Rides the Short Bus. Jennifer has been interviewed on NPR, most recently on Forum with Michael Krasny, and is a Parenting.com Must-Read Mom. She lives on the San Francisco peninsula with her supportive husband, two wily children and a dog named Gus. Follow her on Twitter at @jennyalice

MY RECENT POSTS

MY RECENT COMMENTS

JANUARY 14, 2014 1:44PM

Keeping the Cup Full

I drove past the building where my husband and I went to those prenatal classes. The ones we went to when I was pregnant with Jake, and a sob lifted up through my gut and caught me by surprise by gasping out so sharply it was like a gunshot in the… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 10, 2013 5:09PM

We Do Not Cross the Line

Just after the recent murder of Alex Spourdalakis, yet another parent has attempted to murder her autistic child.

Services to help families are not available to the degree they are needed, often leaving parents of children with intense needs feeling abandoned, depressed, suicidal and, in some cases… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 6, 2013 12:00PM

A Thank You to the Other Tables

Dear Fellow Patrons of Harry's Hofbrau,

You are awesome, and my son thanks you for greeting his whoops and hollers with smiles instead of glares. I am grateful too, as it made eating lunch a lovely date with my son, instead
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AUGUST 20, 2013 8:37PM

It's Thursday, and I'm in Love

It's our 15th wedding anniversary today, and sitting here in this beautiful hotel room in Chicago, I can't help but think that I am the luckiest girl in the world to have my particular spouse... who is back in California minding after our home, our children, and

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AUGUST 9, 2013 3:05PM

In The Making


She's seven. Seven. and I can't imagine that she is already seven and that she is only seven because she is both my little baby, in a pink onsie covered in a Sock Monkey print, and she is this spunky, punky, vivacious, perfectly wonderful being, who is wholly/…

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APRIL 18, 2013 10:31PM

It's In the Stars

My blood pressure just shot up so high I was seeing stars.

Calm house, homemade broccoli beef, Jake's aide on time and helpful, the wind has finally died down. Things were going so smoothly I was able to sort and file papers.

Seeing StarsThen after dinner and a nice warm shower,… Read full post »

MARCH 19, 2013 4:42PM

When Everything is Just So Big

Every once in a while it feels like our life is filled with VERY BIG things, and nothing small at all.

I expect small problems all the time. This world is not set up for people who are outside the norm, and we have disability, precociousness, and…

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FEBRUARY 27, 2013 8:36PM

Tell Me A Little Something

Jake is considered non-verbal. I used to say pre-verbal, but then I realized that was just as insulting, and probably less accurate, since I do not expect him to speak in a clear manner that will be medically or academically recognized, and quite frankly, communication has always been the goal, not…

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FEBRUARY 18, 2013 10:13PM

I Resolve to...

To honor number 7 on my list below, here are a few of my resolutions a full month and a half into the year. I figure I just finished packing away the Christmas decorations, so I am right on schedule.

New Year's Resolutions:
  1. Don't hold myself to anything I
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DECEMBER 20, 2012 8:31PM

Making Sense of Sandy Hook

We need to make sense of things. That's what we do as parents, as people, we want things to make sense, because if we can identify "why" something happened, we can make it happen next time, or we can make something better, or we can prevent it from ever occurring again…

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NOVEMBER 9, 2012 12:27PM

I Stand Here Ironing

I have come to believe that I perhaps I live a life of luxury, if for no other reason than the fact that I no longer iron my husband's shirts, or mine very often any more. We take them to the cleaners. That one thing makes our life so much simpler…

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NOVEMBER 1, 2012 6:40PM

Autistics Speaking Day

For the most part, most people, would say that my son is non-verbal. That is a clinical diagnosis. I use the term when I am explaining his needs to a caretaker or an education professional. I hate saying it though, not in the "we should use the term pre-verbal instead of…

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OCTOBER 24, 2012 7:00AM

A Cup of Kindness


My dry cleaner retired.

I walked in last week, and felt like someone was "gaslighting" me, because instead of the usual cheerful couple behind the counter, there was an entirely different cheerful couple that is about the same age. And yet there they were doing the same things that/…

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OCTOBER 2, 2012 2:41PM

My Not-So-Little Tween

I love it when you laugh. We call you chuckles when you're that silly. Sometimes you laugh so hard no sound comes out. When I do that I know I'm having a good time, so I assume you are too. It's hard for the rest of us not to/…

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SEPTEMBER 10, 2012 4:37PM

Chances Are

In the middle of the night, I heard my daughter cough in her sleep and jumped out of bed. She had only coughed once, but that's all it took for my heart to race and a cold sweat to break out.  I rushed to open… Read full post »

JULY 31, 2012 4:30PM

On Our Anniversary

You were a little boy when I met you, I know that now. With your black hair and shiny hazel eyes, you were young, we were so young, but you had already been through so many things that I thought you were very mature and just had a little/…

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JULY 31, 2012 4:29PM

A Little Rain Must Fall


I saw the piled boxes at the store, each one containing a pair of galoshes and a matching umbrella. I hate umbrellas. They just break, or the wind blows them the opposite way turning you into a flower bending in the wind, rain soaked and wilting./…

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JULY 25, 2012 12:09PM

On Our Anniversary

You were a little boy when I met you, I know that now. With your black hair and shiny hazel eyes, you were young, we were so young, but you had already been through so many things that I thought you were very mature and just had a little/…

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JULY 23, 2012 4:46PM

Scarborough on Autism

In case you're wondering, I'm pretty sure my son is not going to grow up to be a mass murderer. Thanks Joe Scarborough--it only takes one idiot to undo advocacy.

"You don't want to generalize," said MSNBC's Joe Scarborough, but that's exactly what he did when he said that James Holmes,/… Read full post »
the cashier: Diapers eh? Expensive. I bet you can't wait until they are out of those.
me: Yes, we'll be rich. Uh, I have a special needs kid, so it may take awhile.
Oh, that's hard.
Yes, mostly for him. He gets frustrated. But he's doing great. He's a… Read full post »
JULY 11, 2012 10:22AM

Busy Days of Summer

What a great week at the Lake house. Happy, tired kids and happy tired parents. Someone told me I looked rested today, someone else said I looked like I'd been "hiking or something." All I know is that I had a great time.

We had Sage and her…

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JUNE 23, 2012 10:42AM

Dispatch from Another Planet

I'm in an internet cafe in Mexico. It' not so surprising that I might be traveling, because our little family has done all sorts of great travel, but I'm here by myself. Well, not by myself, but without my husband and my children.

I miss them. It's hard/…

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JUNE 12, 2012 12:44PM

Where Are you Going My Little One?

My daughter, my baby, turned six yesterday.

She is beautiful and kind and quick and loves to curl up sweetly in my arms to start the morning. Each day I am equal parts terrified and delighted to be her mother. I know I will…

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MAY 10, 2012 8:00AM

Just Say Something

the cashier: Diapers eh? Expensive. I bet you can't wait until they are out of those.
me: Yes, we'll be rich. Uh, I have a special needs kid, so it may take awhile.
Oh, that's hard.
Yes, mostly for him. He gets frustrated. But he's doing great. He's a… Read full post »
MAY 7, 2012 6:30AM

Snapshot of myBoy

Jake had a most successful ride on the boat this weekend. Happy and snuggled next to me, comfortable (enough) in a life jacket, and following all the rules. He had a smile on his face nearly the entire ride, and was very happy. It means there will be many/…

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