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Lewisburg, Pennsylvania, USA
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August 01
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Clinical Psychologist
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Dr. Jacqueline B. Sallade
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Only child of holocaust survivors from Eastern and Central Europe, grew up in Phila., Central PA, and NYC (2nd home). Psychologist since 1970 working with children and adults in wide variety of selttings, including schools, hospital, courts, private office, and prisons.

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MAY 5, 2012 3:12PM

Dr. Jackie's Mental Health Moment -Body Image

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I saw a beautiful, curvatious woman in her 30's this  week who is contemplating liposuction. I can't imagine where, but I do know why. She has carried around a distorted body image for 20 years, since her freshman year in college, when she gained the freshman 15 and kept it on for one year. She remains petrified of a tiny amount of fat on her belly, sadly. Doesn't she know it's supposed to stick out a little? Of course, she's from a family of perfectionists and is good at everything she does, which plays into her compulsive beauty maintainance.

Most of the time, I see obese people who view themselves as the new normal, fitting in nicely with their overeating family members and friends. They view average size people ( or what used to be average) as thin. They feel sorry for those who restrict their diet.

Occasionally, there's the anorexic or borderline anorexic, exercising her butt off in the gym and eating one apple for lunch. When she comes into the office, there's hope because she's realizing the problem. It's the person who consistently maintains her weight of 85 lbs. over the years, lying to herself about an amazing metabolism or being careful never to gain weight so she never has to lose it, who worries me more. What's she doing to her body over the years and when will she realize that she looks sick and could be enjoying food?

Poor body image develops from our families' attitude towards their and our bodies, from society and as fallout from anxiety, obsessiveness and depression. We can't just approach people randomly and confront them about their bodies, but if they open up, we can be politely and kindly honest about what we see. Too bad, people aren't honest, so afraid to offend that they reinforce the poor body image by agreeing. For example, they say, "Oh, I'm always trying to lose a few, too," to someone who doesn't need to lose weight or "Dieting is too hard," to someone who does. Let's care enough about people to tell them the truth gently. If they hear it enough, it may take.

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Good advice... but there are naturally skinny folk, my mother who never weighed much more than 95 pounds and naturally robust people, my Dad who weighed in at 250, 100 lbs overweight for his 5' 9" frame by medical standards... he died in his 80's, smoked cigars every day of his adult life and until he went into AA never passed on a cold beer... his arms and legs were all muscle and his thigh was as thick as my waist... he was a big man.
Good comment. Large people aren't the same as obese people and thin people aren't the same as anorexic people. People who eat well and exercise enough still vary naturally in body size and there's no need to feel bad about it. It's just those who gained a lot of weight by overeating and those who starve themselves who have a problem.