Gwendolyn Glover

Gwendolyn Glover
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“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~ Mark Twain * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * "Remember, remember, this is now, and now, and now. Live it, feel it, cling to it. I want to become acutely aware of all I’ve taken for granted." ~Sylvia Plath

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JANUARY 5, 2010 12:13PM

This Is My Body

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Your hand opens and closes and opens and closes.

If it were always a fist or always stretched open, you would be paralyzed.

Your deepest presence is in every small contracting and expanding, the two as beautifully balanced and coordinated as bird wings.

 

- Rumi

 

tongue piercing 

 

I was 21 y.o. when I got my tongue pierced. I didn’t even have my ears pierced yet. I was spending some time in Virginia Beach, visiting my best friend who had just had her first baby. We wanted to do something together. We got our tongues pierced down at the beach front. It hurt, but only for a second. I talked funny for weeks. Having a tongue ring was against the ORU rules so I felt like a rebel.

 

I was completely unaware of my tongue before I got the piercing. When I read Maxine Hong Kingston’s “The Women Warrior,” I felt akin to the narrator. She writes about her mother cutting her tongue. (Probably symbolic.) She writes about how difficult it was to use her tongue, to be able to communicate with others.

 

I love having my tongue pierced.  

 

I was 22 y.o. when I got my first tattoo. My brothers and I had been talking about getting one for awhile. My youngest brother designed the tattoo. It is a trinity symbol with the phrase “a three-fold cord is not quickly broken” in Latin. Getting the tattoo hurt immensely. I got it done on my lower back and I got so nauseated that I had the tattoo artist pause so I could go to the bathroom. I sat on the floor for several minutes. I thought I was going to puke.

 

Totally worth it.

 

The tattoo symbolized the bond I have with my brothers, but it also made me aware of the small of my back. I had never known that backs were sexy before. I had never thought that my back was sexy. Now it was beautiful.

 

Tattoos are scars, of course. The symbolism of the scar on my back was clear to me. It reminded me of the legendary scars on Christ’s back. I thought of the story that Kingston tells of Fa Mu Lan and the words carved into her back. I would carry the love of my brothers on my back no matter how far away my journey took me.

 

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For most of my life, I’ve hated my body. In religious dogma, this was supposed to be noble. A sign of a true spiritual person is that they put the spirit first, above the desires of the body. In a letter to the Romans (according to Christian tradition), St. Paul writes:

 

“For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God.”

 

I strove to kill the flesh so that I would please God. I worked hard to suppress physical desires, ignore “unnatural” thoughts and fantasies, and even despise my weak body. I thought that my body was keeping me from being spiritually minded.

 

I poured negative energy into my body. I didn’t enjoy anything about body. The result caused real damage to the way I perceived my body and my body in connection to other bodies. This created a real fear of the body. I did not want to know anything about male and female anatomy. I was ashamed of my own, messy female body.

 

(Fingerlakeswanderer recently wrote a post about the Christian view of the female body. It really spoke to me.)

 

I wasn’t aware of any of this until college. I was not very self-aware. Due to my interaction with wonderful gay friends, nursing students, and close relationships with girl friends, I slowly saw my body as a beautiful thing. But I still did not feel particularly proud of my body. I still felt ashamed of what my body did and of what other bodies did. Sex was messy and frightening.

 

“Man is the sole animal whose nudity offends his own companions, and the only one who, in his natural actions, withdraws and hides himself from his own kind.”  ~Montaigne

 

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The journey towards body awareness continued when I moved to San Francisco. There is an amazing energy in the City of Lights. It is intoxicating. I fell in love with that city and its people. I fell in love with the idea that nothing was to be ashamed of, nothing was embarrassing. You are good. Being with others is good. Sex is good.

 

That’s when I met David.

 

I won’t go into the details because I’m writing under my real name. (Sometimes family members read this blog.) I will say that the way I was raised negatively impacting my sexual life. It was a very slow and long process for me to relax and enjoy what had previously been ingrained into me as a sinful and disgusting act.

 

 yoga  

I continue to experiment with the idea of enjoying my body. One of the best things I did was to start the practice of yoga. My first experience with at Funky Door Yoga on Polk St. It was affectionately called “Sweaty Door Yoga” because of how hot the room was. I could only go for about a month because it was so expensive. But I continued to practice at home. I am not the best yoga practitioner. I get lazy. I’ve been known to skip months before starting again.

 

But yoga makes me feel one with my body. Instead of constantly fighting my body and trying to make it into something it’s not, I become one with it. I know that sounds silly because obviously I can’t get away from my body. But when I do yoga, I no longer want to get away. I enjoy it. I am aware of it. I pour positive energy into it. As a result, my mind expands and I discover so much about myself and the world around me.

 

Breathing in, I know I’m breathing in.

Breathing out, I know

As the in-breath grows deep,

The out-breath grows slow.

Breathing in makes me calm.

Breathing out makes me ease.

With the in-breath, I smile.

With the out-breath, I release.

Breathing in, there is only the present moment.

Breathing out, it is a wonderful moment.

 

-Thich Nhat Hanh

 

*     *     *

 

I continue to celebrate my body in different ways. Over a year ago, David’s birthday gift to me was to take me to the body piercing place. I adorned my belly with a navel ring. It didn’t hurt much, but it took over six months to heal. I’ve never liked my belly, but I’m starting to accept it and enjoy it. I decorate it and have stopped trying to hide it.

 

I’ve always liked my hands. I have long, piano fingers that are delicate. I wanted to get a tattoo on my left hand to match the red star on David’s right hand. Once again, David’s birthday gift to me was to help me decorate my body. I have a little blue star on my hand. Now, when we hold hands, our stars connect.

 

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I want to spend the first month of the new year and the new decade, exploring how we relate to our bodies. So many people are going to try to force their bodies to be different. They are unhappy about their bodies. They want to look different, feel different. I want to concentrate on being aware of my body. Not judging it. Not being angry with it. Simply celebrating it.

 

I want to be more aware in 2010. I want to see, feel, touch, taste, love, and let go in 2010. Like Sylvia Plath, I want to “Remember, remember, this is now, and now, and now. Live it, feel it, cling to it. I want to become acutely aware of all I've taken for granted.”

 

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Gwen, your post today sang in all the corners of my soul. Much of my early upbringing was Catholic, which emphasized how dirty, filthy and disgusting the female body, in particular, was. The only woman who was holy was the Virgin Mary, and only because of her virginity.

I hated my body, in a million subtle and not-so-subtle, ways for years. I even spent years purposely wearing bras too small because I hated and couldn't believe there was anything sexual about my breasts and wanted them to disappear.

It's taken years and a lot of feminism and understanding love from my SU to create a me that has a more or less healthy image of her body and is proud of it.

Sorry for the lengthier comment; as I said, this post really spoke to me.
This is a gorgeous post. It takes so many perspectives on the body. It's great.
Gwendolyn,
Thank you for this beautifully descriptive and thoughtful narrative. You've expressed "life" things here that many of us can relate to in one way or another.

It's wonderful thing to write so that others can get mileage out of your personal journey. You've done a great job of that here.
Rated and appreciated.
Ash: It makes me so angry that we 've wasted years hating ourselves because of religious indoctrination. I am so happy that you are in a healthy relationship. It's taken me years to get this far and I feel that I still have a long way to go.

Caroline: thank you!

Dennis: I am learning to use the painful experiences that I've gone through in a redemptive manner. I want others to know that they're not alone and that they're not crazy. We're on this journey together.
What a wonderful resolution for the New Year . . . powerful, powerful stuff. I could probably write an entire post in comment, but sadly, I don't have the time. Suffice it to say, for now, that I get this . . . and thank you for writing it.
This is very very wise and beautiful. We so often try to make our bodies into something they are not.
When I was exactly 40 I got my first and only piercing. The little ring dangling from my navel made me feel beautiful and oddly powerful. Great post.r
Wonderful, perceptive, self-discovery essay.

Now I'm curious about the seemingly symbolic nature of the red star tattoo (it is David's screen name here), and I love that you got a "matching" one. I am glad that piercing & tattooing can be an expression of who we are & who we hope to be.

Good on you, for that decorative belly!
:-)
I learn so much reading you. I didn't have a religious upbringing, so I never had the restrictions on me the way you had. That may be good or bad, I'm not sure. My daughter has one tattoo, in the same place on her back. At first, well I'm a Dad. But I like it now. The tongue is a personal choice, but I don't think it's for me, hah!
Owl: thank you so much.

Joan: it's interesting how something so little can make you feel powerful, isn't it? I'm thinking of taking up belly dancing too. I think we women need to be proud of our bellies and stop trying to get rid of them. :)

spotted: thank you! David likes stars because of something mystic ..about all of us being stars in the universe...or something like that. I just really like stars. :)

scanner: I'm glad you learn stuff here! Yeah, it's gotta be hard being a dad. My mother was fine with the tattoo. In her youth, tattoos were cool. But piercings were weird and she's still not happy that I have my tongue pierced.
I think that the intense hate of the human body and it's wonders are one of the things that rankle me most in respect to religion. So many people waste so much valuable time trying to unlearn the lessons that they have been taught. I'm glad you decided to love yours and found someone to love it with you.
Great post. Interesting how the tattoos and piercings have helped you to love your body. Do be careful of your teeth though, I understand tongue piercings can wreak havoc with them.
I have a tattoo on my forehead. It says "Tattoo."
Great piece. So enlightening and well written.
R
For so long, I was against piercings and tattoos. Then my daughter was kidnapped and raped and the zip ties her attacker used to bind her left scars on her wrists. When she was physically healed, she went to a tattoo parlor and had a turquoise ribbon put over the deepest scar. Her reason, "If I have to remember what happened for the rest of my life, I want to remember that I survived." I've never looked negatively on tattoos again -- and body piercings hold a message as well. You are speaking out in your own way.
R
Gwen,
This is a beautiful essay, written by a beautiful person. I'm glad you celebrate the body. It's what it was given to us for, isn't it? I have a piercing, too...
What a beautiful post. I am struggling with body issues now, I had surgery this summer and I feel I am in someone else's body. I have to accept who I am at this moment, not who I was. The Plath quote spoke to me. Thank you for this today. R
Great post indeed, Gwen. Beautiful. I too have a couple of tats and if younger would have my eyebrow pierced. I am afraid of looking however, like a biker chick who's had one too many rides, if you know what a mean. Again, wonderful post...R
Gwen, I appreciate how your perspective on piercing and tattooing changed from a hatred of your body to a celebration of it for you. I think the human body is beautiful au naturel, therefore, personally, I prefer not do anything permanent to mine to remind me to celebrate or discover it. I tried henna tattoo on my hand once just to see how it would feel to live with a desing on my skin for three weeks.
Sigh. This was lovely and really spoke to me. One of my best experiences was getting my tattoo. I have hopes of getting another one someday.
You made the cover!! Yay Gwen!!
Bra-vo!!! (virtual applause)

This is what I like about OS, reading great, revealing and personal stories which no print-magazine editor would touch. Your story spoke to me like few others of its kind. (Print this posting out and secretly hand out copies to the victims of "abstinence education" at your local high school!)

I don't know if I'll ever have the privilege of living in the City By The Bay, but I'll definitely take your suggestion (albeit an implicit one) and look into yoga.

Rated, of course!
Bob: thank you.

Ablonde: my grandmother sent me newspaper clippings of articles about how tongue piercings hurt teeth. So far, my dentists haven't said anything to me. As I see it, I can always take it out if I don't want it anymore.

john: thank you!

Donna: wow...that is so beautiful that your daughter got a tattoo there. It's also beautiful that you understand, support, and love your daughter. Sending both of you hugs and love.

Lorraine: thank you! And where is your piercing? Hmmm?

rita: thank you. I'm glad that the quote spoke to you. I adore Plath and her passion.

madcelt: there's nothing wrong with looking like a biker chick. :) Biker chicks rock.

FusunA: I also believe the natural body is beautiful. Tattoos and piercings aren't for everyone. As I've said, my experience has been a purely positive one and I think neccesary for me to break through the religious barriers in my mind.
Stunning journey through your writing. I loved it.

I felt like I was getting different snapshots, from different angles, of not only your interpretation of your body, but on the female body in general and how to love it.

It is funny - I have studied many religions and I read St. Paul's teaching much differently. It still bothers me today the way that passage is taught - to shame women about their bodies. However, if you read it with a different eye, one without the belief structure which was imposed on you, you may see something different. You may see St. Paul trying to encourage you to find the spirit you discovered right here in this piece - to live in from that place within the body, not solely from "the flesh" alone. Man has made these Saints' words into more than what they were intended, in my view.

Regardless, you are an amazing example of someone who found her inner spirit despite what anyone wrote in a book. :)
Thoughtful, well written, & rated. Had my navel pierced when I was 40, and I love it.
Very convenient of St. Paul and the Church Fathers to skip over an explanation of how the carnal mind is not subject to the law of the omniscient, omnipotent Being they believed in. Congrats on your ever-improving self-image.
brilliant post, it really spoke to me....

I’ve never liked my belly, but I’m starting to accept it and enjoy it. I decorate it and have stopped trying to hide it.

i think you have hit the nail on the head as to why i have always chosen to decorate myself with piercings and tattoos. making that which one doesn't into something pretty.

much food for thought.

thank you.
odetteroulette: you should write about getting your tattoo!

Ash: thank you!!!

fuddler: it's so nice to meet you! Thank you for your kind words. I hope you enjoy yoga.

Sparking: thank you. I now aspire to have a more balanced view of the spirit/body connection. Since you've done some study, do you have an book recommendations for me?
@ Blumenthal, You forgot to mention you had it done backwards so you could read it in the mirror.
Great new year start GG! You seem to be casting away some of those early day demons in your story and enjoying your present life. And you write very well.
susan: that's awesome!

Stim: thank you so much! You rock!

kmbearden: thank you so much! I love it when I meet kindred spirits.
Great post! I think coming to love ourselves in general and our bodies in particular is one of the biggest challenges that we all face in life - especially as we age and the years take their toll.

I'll add that even without religion there seems to be some underlying cultural programming that teaches us that our bodies are shameful. Catholicism may have raised that programming to an art form, but I think the whole effect is some sort of side-effect of human consciousness and the ego that goes along with that. And I suspect that the the whole "shame" thing in the story of Adam and Eve is a metaphorical rendering of that almost universal phenomena.

My girls are 10 and 12 now and I'm kind of trying to think of ways to help them avoid that programming as they enter their teen years, but I'm not sure how best to go about it, and I'm sure to a certain degree they must wrestle with the body image thing as teens, if only to make their own peace with it.

Again, great post and great topic.
Love that you're loving your body. It's harder as you get older and it betrays you, but if you embrace the changes it eases the sadness. I have considered getting a tiny butterfly tattoo somewhere hidden to most. That is a big change. But will I do it?
Gwendolyn, I'm glad you are freeing yourself from old, negative thoughts about your body, and are becoming friends with it at last. Yoga is a great way to accomplish this. You're braver than I am; I've always hated needles unless they were absolutely necessary, so tattoos are right out, for me. I stuck to pierced ears as far as body piercings went.
Heehee, Bob. I can't totally see John doing that.

grif: thank you! I think it's going to be a good year.

fins: I totally don't think the body image issue is just a problem in religion. Our whole culture is created to make us feel like we're not good enough. If we just bought the right things and products, then we would be acceptable. I'm going to email you with some stuff/websites for your daughters. With a dad like you, they'll be just fine.

Lea: you should get a tattoo! I actually think it's a really big deal. You should talk to others and get a recommendation. You want to go to a good tattoo artist.

Shiral: thank you and happy new year!
Hey Gwendolyn,

Glad I came back. It depends what you are looking for. If you want a different interpretation of Christianity, I always recommend Emmet Fox - especially "Sermon on the Mount". It really took my previous views of that religion and began to flip it on its head, put it more into a "consciousness" perspective.

As a result of a piece I just did, I am going to be putting together a comprehensive spiritual book list and what I got from each. It will probably take some time though. If you are looking for a specific topic, let me know (you can PM me), and I'll get back to you.

Again, beautiful post!
I too love tattoos in the small of the back, San Francisco, sex and your writing. Awesome story, kiddo.
Congratulations on discovering the beauty of your own body and for having the beautiful voice with which to express the journey that led you there. And yippee for the EP and cover, too!
"But yoga makes me feel one with my body. Instead of constantly fighting my body and trying to make it into something it’s not, I become one with it. I know that sounds silly because obviously I can’t get away from my body. But when I do yoga, I no longer want to get away. I enjoy it. I am aware of it. I pour positive energy into it. As a result, my mind expands and I discover so much about myself and the world around me."

Thanks for that. Beautifully said. :)
Oh girl, my son got a tatoo at 17 against my warnings! I'm glad you waited till you were in your twenties and that they have meaning for you. Interesting take on piercings!
What a fabulous reflection on your body. Thank you.
Sparking: thanks! I will PM you.

Boomer: thank you. :)

ZJ: thank you.

cartouche: thank you so much! That means a lot to me.

Gourmet Goddess: thank you.

Deb: I thought you had to have your parents' permission until you're eighteen? Well...as I tell my young cousins and friends, really and truly think about the tattoo you want. You're going to have it for a very long time. It should always mean something important to you.
It is wonderful to read that you are exploring your freedom of self.
wow this is cool, I loved this. And hey, you got some J. Rumi up there...love the Rumi. Good job!
this is so wonderful. i love how obviously in touch you are with your self as a whole being, a single entity of mind,body & spirit. most people aren't even aware, so to see (read) you not just becoming aware,but embracing it is an honor... go you!
Next time I'm in Chicago, I really want to meet you.

I really like this piece.
Gwen, this was so beautiful and personal and spiritual. Congratulations on the well-deserved EP.
Ahhh, I just loved this. I'm so interested in your journey.
xoxo
~Amanda
Rumi is one of my favorites, beautiful opening\

& yeah, I've got body issues, too- don't know a woman who doesn't- good for you for pushing beyond that. The meds I'm on have eclipsed my sensual body for all that they have helped me float instead of sink emotionally. I wish my body remembered how to feel.
This post will probably stay with me all night :D Thanks Gwen!
Great post. So much of this rang true for me
A wonderful post, Gwendolyn, from the first line to the last. I love how the tattoos mark your journey, real and symbolically. To the new year...may you find what you seek.
What an extraordinarily powerful, positive journey you are on.
Gwen! Congrats on your EP and Cover!! Awesome piece... I'm so glad that I get to walk with you on your journey. xox
Gwendolyn Glover.
What a tongue. I'm so far behind.

I loved those people you quoted.
Virginia beach can be liberating.
You fell into a fish tackle box?

I betcha your journey is wild.
You learn. It is to flow with.
If you read those folk-great.
Ya flow down a creek to sea.
Ya watch clouds float away.
Ya no need to be critiqued.
Those author/Friends lead.

I have enough dang war scars.
You say`It just hurt a second.
It's a nice looking hook Ya got.
Now this is feminism! A woman living as she wants, and adorning herself as she wishes! I have often thought that if Sylvia Plath lived now, her life would not have ended so tragically. She was so ahead of her time...xox
Gwendolyn, that is a lovely quote from Rumi! I only came into my body in my thirties due to childbirth. Even when there is pain, it is the only place to live.
This is so beautiful and what a gorgeous liberating story of your pathway to connection with yourself and your body. No easy feat given the repressive background. You have much courage. I relate to your experience with yoga. Thank you for this.
I love posts I learn from. This is great: Your take on the body is intriguing. Rated.
Your writing always impresses me, but this post is especially fine. I love how you share your personal journey and weave so much into it. It really gave me a lot to think about, and even inspires me to get back into yoga. Yes, let's celebrate our bodies!
Beautiful post. Thanks! I love the last quote. My new year's resolution is also to be here in the moment, to be fully present. I believe when we are fully present in our bodies, the body comes alive. Walk in beauty!
am surprised. the peep into another world of thought was interesting.
O, must share this with you, already 'middle aged' by the time realization dawned I had a great body and that am pretty :) and it was all gone! orientation towards teaching our children changed after that.
You mean sex isn't dirty?! Good! I can open my eyes next time. Great post GG, but I still don't think I'm running out and getting a tat anytime soon. I like to get my scares by doing something unintentional. I like to call them accidents and am prone to many. I must say that I do love the way you feel so strongly about your P's and T's.
I loved this post! It is really amazing how much growing up with religion can affect someone. I didn't think of how I was affected by it too much until recently.
REALLY nice post. I love the interwoven elements - religion, body image, change, identity...and how it all comes down to "now." Living in the now.

(My belly piercing took AGES to heal. If you have even the slightest belly, its tougher. I almost took it out and I swear, it healed that day. It didn't want to come out apparently. But I'd say it was about 9 months...interesting!)
Fascinating piece and very well written. Well deserving the EP and cover: the eds got this one right!
Love this, love the reclaiming of the body, and the desire to keep exploring--it's such an important insight for women, especially, figuring out ways to mark yourself that are you. Rated.
Great post. Thanks for sharing.
This helped me---of a different generation--learn something.

If I had ever been blessed with a kid---I would have wanted her to turn out like you.
Thank you: Penelope, scupper, Jesse, Kris, Amanda, Placebostudsman, Donna, Sandra, David (!), Thoth, Pilgrim, and alexis. You have no idea how much your readership and support means to me. Wishing you each a wonderful start to the new year.

wakingup: I want to meet you too!

Julie: I'm sorry to hear that your meds have that effect on you. :(

Art: Thank you for that beautiful poem.

Robin: I would like to think that Sylvia lives on in each of us feminists.

Lucy: I wonder why we find ourselves in pain??? Could be a question for another post.

Michael: I'm disturbed by your "accidents." Maybe you should take to marytkelly about this. (JK, of course.)

ChicagoGuy: I am actually available for adoption and would love to have you as my adopted father. :)
mary: I feel especially kin to you. I think we've gone through so many similiar experiences. It's wonderful to know that we're not alone, or crazy.

Nora: thank you for your generous support and kind words. I am a better person/writer because of your kindness.

Moomin: I completely agree with you. Happy new year to you as well!

Rolling: why does it takes some of us so long to come into ourselves? I don't know, but I'm happy to have fellows travelers like you. You make the journey a joy.

ModRight: It's so lovely to meet you. Maybe we can discuss our spiritual journeys in more depth.

Beth: thank you for your kind words. It's great to know that others feel the same way as I do.

Martha: you always speak with truth and love. Thank you for reading and sharing.
I love the way you wrote this with the various quotes interspersed. Very effective. Great post! (I love that book - The Woman Warrior too - hadn't thought about it in years; probably worth a re-read. Thanks!) R
What a lovely post, Gwendolyn. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Relating to my body is something I think about quite a bit too. It's changed a lot over the years. I wish you a continued positive journey- it sounds like you're well on your way.
I got my first tattoo for my 50th birthday, I'd wanted one for over 20 years but was always waiting to get thin to get one. At 50 with that tattoo etched between my shoulder blades I finally felt like "This is My Body".
I've always had a hard time looking at pierced tongues. They feel painful to me. But I looked at your picture (is it you?) for a long time because you have such pretty teeth. It's interesting to me that for so many women I've known their ability to control their bodies is such a metaphor for their ability to love themselves. Often for good reason. I had a sister-in-law whose minister father used to check her panties when she returned from a date, as if even her hormonal discharges and arousal were something that needed to be regulated by the patriarchy.

I read a Jewish apologetic a while back that said the word mistakenly translated as "virgin" in the Greek Septuagint, and quoted by the New Testament, simply meant young woman in Hebrew. There was no Jewish requirement that the Messiah be the son of a virgin or be celibate himself. Wouldn't it be ironic if the 2000-year-old Christian obsession with sex as dirty were the result of a faulty translation?

Nice post.
Very wise post, Gwendolyn.
Blue: I like to reread The Woman Warrior every couple of years. There's so much in it.

Juli: I'm starting to wonder if everyone has body issues???

McKenna: I'm so proud of you for getting your tattoo. Do you have a photo?

Megan: that's not a photo of my mouth, unfortunately. I barely notice my tongue ring anymore. It's just a part of me. Interesing thought on the word "virgin." I wouldn't be surprised if they were right.

Floyd: thanx!
If I wanted to write about loving my body, I would post pictures of pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding, especially discreet pictures of my two home births.
I had never understood why people wanted piercing or tattoos, until I read your post just now; this has been very insightful, very powerful. Thanks a lot for sharing your experiences our personal growth. Oh, and I do think your 2010 resolution is great; go for it!
Kisses,
Marcela
What a wonderful theme! You flesh it out beautifully.
This is profound and satisfying to read. I learned to love my body because of the things it could do, including yoga. I'm glad you found yoga, sex, and decoration. We have no choice but to live in our bodies, and when you have a reasonably normal, well-functioning body, that is cause for celebration. There's no greater waste of time than hating your body.