SEPTEMBER 24, 2012 9:10PM

A Parents' Worst Nightmare: The Phone Call


Our son's car after a head-on collision 

I am not awakened when the telephone rings at 11:30 on a Saturday night. My husband is and is filled with dread, like he is always filled with dread when the phone rings at that hour. But, he knows that as soon he hears what… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 17, 2012 4:45PM

My Life's Lesson

My life's lesson should be etched on my brain because I keep forgetting it, and that simple act of "forgetting" triggers some cosmic event  involving one of my children, to which I respond improperly, which provokes parental-child angst, which forces me to remember "my lesson" all over aga… Read full post »

MAY 6, 2011 10:54AM

Why I Keep My Mother at Home

My 89 year old mother has mid-stage probable Alzheimer's Disease or some related dementia and as my friend Susan says has become toxic. This week she is suspicious of and furious with me because of the form we need to fill out for her Long Term Care… Read full post »

The probable meltdowns that are now occurring at two (now the press says three) nuclear power plants in Japan started me thinking, again about the issue of nuclear power. You would think that as an intelligent people, we've had sufficient warnings of the risks involved in using nuclear power. I remem… Read full post »




Image thanks to Christie Abshire Butcher's Students at the University of Texas, Austin

A friend, known as Artfish on Open Salon, posted the following on her facebook page:

"One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw aRead full post »
AUGUST 17, 2010 7:17PM

My Time Isn't Ever Going to Come

Caption: I'd rather be living at the beach

I WENT OVER to mom's house this morning to see how she was feeling. She lives in my backyard, so it's just a short walk.

She has had a bladder infection that just won't go away, despite being put on a low… Read full post »

The other day, fingerlakeswanderer, aka Lorraine Berry, posted a quote by Stephen Fry:

“If I had a large amount of money I should found a hospital for those whose grip upon the world is so tenuous that they can be severely offended by words and phrases yet remain all unoffendedRead full post »

APRIL 10, 2010 3:57PM

Bleeding Hearts from Portland

Copy of Bleeding Hearts Mom Visit 5-08

In Portland, Oregon, where I grew up, Bleeding Hearts or Dicentra Spectabilis are one of the first signs of Spring. They have beautiful pink heart shaped lobes and delicate fern like leaves. Before they bloom the plant stock looks like a gnarly old piece of wood that would… Read full post »

" No one should die because they cannot afford health care, and no one should go broke because they get sick. If you agree, please post this for the rest of the day."
Many of you all have not responded to my post asking for a discussion of health care reform views, both conservative and liberal.
I'm the liberal.
Here are the last couple of comments posted by CatnLion suggesting various reform
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For the last several weeks I have tried to engage mostly conservative friends and family in the health care debate by presenting facts and counterarguments to their arguments. My efforts have simply made my conservative friends and family either tune me out or become angry with me. I even posted a… Read full post »



Dear Robert [I love you Robert, even though on the whole I don't agree with you!], from what I have read, Obama’s plan would reduce costs in numerous important ways, insure portability, and cover most Americans. He would do this by:

1. Reducing the cost of underwriting. If you eli… Read full post »

JULY 18, 2009 5:42PM

The Post-It Note and the Wash

Do you see my Post-it-Note? It says "Let me hang--no dryer"
I LOVE the 'Post-it-Note'.

The ‘Post-it-Note’ might be one of the greatest inventions known to modern wo-man. I use, the yellow 2X2 ones, which are the standard ones. The color yellow? I do not know/… Read full post »

Bleeding Hearts Mom Visit 5-08posteredgesthanksgivingbeachNOblackeyedsusanflower1sunflowercraneinflightBlossom2spikeyredcloverfernswaterfall
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Here is my son's version of me with no make-up, which is me most of the time. I'm by our back door, just in from outside in the garden, too much sun. He graciously pixilated this a bit to hide the truth. But, whatever, it's okay. This is me at 51.… Read full post »

MAY 12, 2009 2:07PM

When he calls you fat

A really bad day can only get worse when your husband calls you fat

This is the deal: Tonight Rich called me fat. And no I’m not exaggerating. I’m also not misinterpreting. Those very words came out of his mouth, or very close to them and under circumstances where I was/… Read full post »


MS football

 Middle School Football

Dear James,

I am writing this letter on the eve of your senior retreat. We have been lucky, you and I.  I don’t know many mothers that have the kind of relationship with their children that I have with/
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This is Georgie as a Puppy. He is a Shetland Sheep Dog, or Sheltie, and has no toes at all on his left rear leg. Oh yeah, he has his own very dramatic rescue story!


Georgie's story:

Our prior Sheltie, Tuki, was put to sleep as… Read full post »

Buddha apostles

 Buddha and Apostles

This is a copy of a journal post I wrote during my first visit to Sri Lanka in the several months spanning the years 1999 and 2000 of the Christian calendar. A friend urged me to post it as a record to my children that their motherRead full post »

APRIL 27, 2009 3:39PM

Shaped by Adoption



 Baby denese in the mountains of Nevada

 Here are Bardgirl's questions in an Open Call for Adoption Stories.

1. Was your experience as an adoptee or a parent of an adopted child positive or negative?

2. Do you know your/your child's birth history?… Read full post »


Fighting with my baby is painful, particularly on my baby's birthday

My oldest son and I are in a fight. Somehow we are communicating the arguments of our respective significant others. Daniel is speaking for his fiancée and I am communicating for my husband. At one point,… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
MARCH 16, 2009 9:53AM

I Think I Flunked The Civil Service Exam

Civil Service Exam under a Chinese Emperor

Civil Service exam under Jen Tsung: Probably a lot easier in LA

I took a Civil Service Exam today, and unfortunately the experience sucked my good attitude reserve dry because I think I flunked it. Maybe I didn't do well because I didn't haul my big bag of… Read full post »

This is dedicated to Deb: You know who you are.............

Let's get this party started: from 8:30 am until the parade starts at 4:30 pm and beyond

We leave our ever-growing work machinations related to the LSU budget cuts and our recent issues with our youngest son behind… Read full post »

The lotus flower: A symbol of wisdom

Me drinking from a coconut on the road to enlightenment

I confess. I am a suburban housewife.

This is an embarrassing admission to make to the group of people that I traveled with to Southern India and Sri Lanka. Many… Read full post »