Look, Ima use caps for you today.
Big Brouhaha that a lot of people are weighing in on, while knowing nothing of what actually happened.
Pretty word, ain't it? Prettier concept. We all strive for it, don't we? Both to give it and to receive it, no? Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
But you thank forgivers, you praise forgivers, you condemn the non-forgivers
without knowing a goddamned word of what happened.
Which I find bizarre. Unless, say, someone is a very very dear friend on here, you talk in real life, you know them know them. And one day they put up some post about something you don't know about, but you KNOW they can't have done something wrong, so you defend.
Oh, but wait, that scenario is bullshit. If someone is your close friend, you'd already know the deal, so categorically could not speak from a place of ignorance.
And if someone is not your close close friend, how can you be sure in your defense of them? Why would you defend with no knowledge of what happened? No one gets a free pass because I like them. No one is roundly condemned because I don't.
It's called critical thinking, and plenty of you could try it.
I will speak only to what I have seen.
At Sally's post about shooting, Nutjob left a comment blaming her as a jew for gun violence, talking about rabbis as pedophiles, etc.
Go read it if you want to.
It was disgusting. I mean, he writes disgusting stuff regularly. He is a foul person with fouler beliefs. But this comment was, even by his standards, really over the top.
Fusun defended it.
Fusun said, "ignore the hate, focus on the one sane-sounding sentence."
Uh-huh. There is not a monk in the fucking world that would give that advice. Being a monk does NOT in any way, shape, or form mean you are deluded and pretend filth doesn't exist. It CERTAINLY doesn't mean you give filth-spewers a free pass, pat them on the head and say, "he knows not of which he speaks."
Deleting the comment might have worked, if there had been time before everyone got there and talked about it. But delete doesnt work, either, does it? The scumbag who stalked me didn't stop when I ignored him, did he? When did "ignore it and it will go away" become the best advice we could find? And WHEN is the last time you saw it work??
It's a LOT like blaming the victim. "Oh, this person just spewed on you? Ignore it. Don't let it bother you. You are wrong for being bothered. You are wrong for wanting him to STOP. Don't make a big deal about it, drama queen. Just flush it when he does it."
If you all, individually and collectively, would get your heads out of your asses, learn to assess a situation for what it IS, not for what SOMEONE ELSE TELLS YOU IT IS,
and FUCKING STAND UP FOR WHAT'S RIGHT
the world would be a much better place. Everywhere, all the time, in every single situation.
There is no room to ignore racism and anti-semitism in this world. Your child might be the next shot in a movie theater by a racist. Or you, or a wife or husband or sister, at the mall.
You don't have time anymore to look the other way. When people spout hate, you better speak up. You better plant the tiniest seed that their thinking is just slightly off.
How many people are NOT surprised by those who commit these acts? Know what that means? It means they IGNORED what they saw in front of their own faces, hoping that somehow, ignoring would magically erase the evil. And racism is evil. Anti-semitism is evil.
Also, this whole concept of "unadorned criticism." It's an excuse for showing a lack of kindness, and as my banner says, goddamnit, there is never room to not be kind. None of us here are old seasoned salts, none of us want unadorned criticism and anyone who pretends they dont care, is a good faker, who thinks there is value in being "able to take it." There is no value in being able to take it. There is no girl scout badge for tolerating unkindness well.
Now, all you fifty raters over at Fusun's post, you rated a post defending a man who spouts, regularly, some of the ugliest bile on this site. And in this case, spouted CRAZY ugly bile. As long as you meant to do that, great.
Hell, we are so fucked as a society now, maybe 47 of you MEANT to defend defending the indefensible. What the hell do I know?
But I am so goddamned sick of sheep. Sick of people who think snark is cute or a way to stay above things. Sick of meanness overall. And there is right and wrong and I won't pretend to not be able to tell the difference.
Stand up and be different, why don't you.