ok, so, in real life i have been enacting a policy that i summarized like this:  the people i want in my life are those who want me in theirs.

a friend told me this is called "having standards."

in real life, i have found it to be working wonderfully.

no more chasing someone who doesnt care much for me, or trying to convince someone that i deserve their goodwill.

instead i ignore those people, and instead focus and give my time and attention to those who WANT my attention and time.

its been working so much better than i could ever have hoped.  shocking, really, how effective it is at removing daily stressors from life.

and amazing how much one can enjoy everything else, when those stressors are removed.

so ima do that here, too.

i tried to show some people who were not interested, that they had hurt me.  they werent interested when i said it outright several times, and they werent interested when i showed them.

then there are the irrationally outraged - those who never read me ANYWAY.

and a few who had not IN MY OPINION treated me poorly, but neither had they stood up, and i felt badly enough about deceiving them for even an hour, that i told the truth.

there are many many who dont understand a word i just said and never will and dont want to.

so i suggest to you, that you go read one of the other thousands of blogs available on this site.

and i will focus my energy and my affection on those who feel affection for me, okay?  yep - affection!  for an avatar!

and all of you who dont know me, never did, never could, how dare i, etc etc etc, can all talk about me behind my back or in true OS form, write all the counter-blogs you want.

i will be busy having standards, and putting my attention where it is wanted, rather than chasing what isnt needed.

'kay?

oh, also gonna close comments, cause i think i took enough from all o'y'all who ACTUALLY dont even know me or have a goddamned horse in the race today, okay?

cause, this is my blog, and my space, and yeah, i like to keep it tidy and pleasant.

if you think you are a better person for letting people shit on your blog, then what you should do is leave comments open even when things are volatile, and then dont delete, okay?

you do what works for you, and i will do what works for me, and we can quietly disdain the other's methods.  except i will be ignoring yours, and striving instead to create the life i want for myself, both real and cyber. 

and you can create whatever life you want for yourself, whereever you want.

i will be picking the neighbor's lily of the valley and inhaling deeply. 

smells divine, doesnt it?