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SEPTEMBER 1, 2009 4:03AM

Because....

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Because I Love You.

 

Because I love you I let you go.  To have done anything else would be unbearably selfish.  You taught me the true meaning of selflessness. 

 

Because I love you I’ll be crying off and on, seemingly out of the blue, but I know the tears will come from happiness as well as grief.  

 

Because I love you I have a clear path to walk, guided by you.  The wheels you set in motion will continue to grind, your dreams will bear fruit.

 

Because I love you I will follow you wishes.  No maudlin funeral, only a sunset toast to your life, with friends to celebrate a life worth living, yours.

 

Because I love you I videotaped the sunset on your last day on earth.  I watched it grow bright and cast it’s golden red glow on me.  I took that photo too.

 

Because I love you I will painstakingly notify each of your friends and give them some time to grieve on my shoulder.

 

Because I love you I am a much better person, as are all people whose lives you touched.

 

Because I love you I know how to honor you, and I will. (Like this photo of you thinking of getting a new nose.  Hah!)

 

You make me laugh 

 

 

 

Because You Love Me 

 

Because you love me I am able to be free to express it any way I need to.

 

Because you love me, you made me your priority.

 

Because you love me you wrote beautiful cards I cherish.

 

Because you love us, you made a life which pleased us both.

 

Because you love me, you found a way for me to not have to clean up after dinner...I could sit and laugh with you instead.

 

Because you love me I am the woman I have become, a softer version by looking through your eyes.

 

Because you love me I want to be happy for our times.

 

Because you love me I saw how to open my eyes to the beauty in life and avoid negativity.

 

Because you love me, I am me...the woman who loved you for thirty years.

 

Because you love me I can be silly and not care.  

 

This is it 

 

Thank you my darling. 

 

 

 

 

 

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Was that a bump on your nose?
BuffyW
September 01, 2009 04:04 AM
Just beautiful, Sheila! Because of you, I can't help but cry and smile, and appreciate the love that you and Vance shared, and I recognize that which is so special in sharing a lifetime with a true love.
Rated
julie Kiernan
September 01, 2009 04:24 AM
Thank you, Sheila, for honouring us with this beautiful testament to a love that will endure, a love reborn with every sunset.
psychomama
September 01, 2009 04:27 AM
Sheila, these words are so beautiful I can cry with you for your loss and what you have gained. These words you have written so well are the best thing I have came across in a long time.
You are beautiful Sheila.
Mission
September 01, 2009 04:30 AM
Oh Sheila, it's four in the morning here and this is the first thing I saw when I opened up OS. You two were such a matched set, you brought out the best in each other. A true love does that. You were blessed to have found each other thirty years ago and have all that time to share each other's life. I envy you that.

I can not think of two more deserving people to share those years of happiness and love.....and....Life.
David McClain
September 01, 2009 05:01 AM
That was absolutely beautiful...
P Slater
September 01, 2009 05:46 AM
What a tender tribute to a love beyond compare.
bobbot
September 01, 2009 05:59 AM
Sheilah, thanks for allowing us the privilege of getting to know Lance through your eyes, your heart and your writings.
Sandra Stephens
September 01, 2009 06:03 AM
Sheila, I held back the tears until "Because You Love Me". Thank you, dear one, for letting me know Lance even if just for this short time.
A toast at sunset...
Sharon Kay
September 01, 2009 06:19 AM
What a gorgeous tribute to Lance, to you, to your love. With all this dialog going on lately about what a "good" relationship should be, what it should contain, what motivates any of us to participate; a simpler way would be to look at the two of you; Truly, you and Lance are the poster children for what a relationship can be if both players are committed to it.

I know you are proud! You should be.
Rod Emmons
September 01, 2009 07:06 AM
A wonderful tribute to a wonderful man and a life truly lived. To love like this is rare - your were fortunate to find one another. [[[hugs]]]
wind in my wings
September 01, 2009 07:10 AM
You are truly one very special lady, Sheila. Lance was also a very lucky man to have you and I doubt a day went by that he didn't express that to you. Do share that sunset if you are so inclined.
Michael Rodgers
September 01, 2009 07:22 AM
That was beautiful, Sheila. Because you loved each other we all have been blessed and now know how it's done.

God bless you, Darlin'
PlannerDan
September 01, 2009 07:47 AM
I can only hope my Love will write something at least half this good when I pass. This was a great way to honor his memory!!
scanner
September 01, 2009 07:51 AM
just lovely, I hope writing this was a comfort for you. It is a beautiful testimony to the power of finding a soul mate.
Athena Bradford
September 01, 2009 07:56 AM
I am so deeply sorry and this was so very beautiful. Here is wishing you healing after the grieving.
Lisa Solod
September 01, 2009 08:12 AM
Sheila, that was just beautiful. You are a great soul, and you have been so lucky to have had such a partner as Lance.

"And, in the end, the love you take
Is equal to the love you make."
Bill S.
September 01, 2009 08:25 AM
this is direct from the heart, funny, lovely, sad, and well done. There is no better way to sum up the gifts given and received than plain talk like this. Intense love is given a Good Voice. Thank you Sheila.
Greg Correll
September 01, 2009 08:25 AM
Dear Sheila,
only a true and beautiful love could inspire such eloquence. Thank you for sharing these thoughts and allowing us to keep being with you, in this weird and wondrous virtual way. More and more good thoughts and prayers for you and yours. - Eva
Eva T. Made Vaudeville
September 01, 2009 08:30 AM
Thank you for sharing your journey, it is something I will remember as I go through life. I wish you peace, joy, and many more beautiful suunsets in the days to come.
mamoore
September 01, 2009 08:42 AM
I love that you can find joy in your sorrow. By remembering the good and the love you will be together forever. The pictures and the video from your other post are priceless.
Lunchlady 2
September 01, 2009 08:42 AM
Because I love you, I snuck in to read this after you let me know you were writing it. Now I just love you and Lance more. xoxo
cartouche
September 01, 2009 09:04 AM
Beautiful, beautiful . . . love and light to you and yours. Thank you for this glimpse . . .
Owl_Says_Who
September 01, 2009 09:39 AM
I would like to meet you and wish I could have met him.....
I Love Life
September 01, 2009 10:09 AM
Beautiful.
I hope to have that kind of love in my life someday.

You're both still in my thoughts.
spotted_mind
September 01, 2009 10:51 AM
peace to you Buffy, and what your heart desires
Rolling
September 01, 2009 11:17 AM
Oh, Buffy...so beautiful. You've brought tears to my eyes and a lump to my throat, and I feel so privileged to have been able to witness, even just a little, the love you shared. Many, many blessings be upon you, dear one.
AshKW
September 01, 2009 11:20 AM
Beautiful Buffy, simply beautiful.
Peace and Love be with you...
micalpeace
September 01, 2009 11:28 AM
A beautiful life.
Stim
September 01, 2009 11:31 AM
I am happy for you, Sheila...
dynomyte
September 01, 2009 11:40 AM
:: tears :: of loss and joy.
Fabflamingo
September 01, 2009 11:46 AM
What a gift you've had.

Love,

denese
denese
September 01, 2009 11:47 AM
Beautifully spoken words of one great love..
fireeyes24
September 01, 2009 12:02 PM
There is some perfection at work here.
Skip Williamson
September 01, 2009 12:44 PM
Your love is an inspiration. Your grief is an example for all of us.
S G
September 01, 2009 12:49 PM
Sheila
Lance's gift is eternal; your spirit is wise beyond the ages. To me, you are family.... much love to you.
Chuck
Chuck A. Stetson
September 01, 2009 01:17 PM
I'm supposed to run out right now and I have to take a few minutes to compose myself. This is beautiful. This showed great strength.
Geraint Isitt
September 01, 2009 01:23 PM
Thank you for touching my life this day, Shelia.
randypd
September 01, 2009 01:36 PM
Your love, and his love for you, shine through. And the sunset is magnificent.
emma peel
September 01, 2009 01:42 PM
"Because you love me I am the woman I have become, a softer version by looking through your eyes."

Oh my......so lovely.
Brie aka Barbara K
September 01, 2009 02:00 PM
Tough guys like me aren't supposed to cry. I just went through a six-pack of Kleenex.
littlewillie
September 01, 2009 02:06 PM
A beautiful celebration of the life you shared and the love that goes on. We should all be so blessed...

Much love to you, Sheila
Skye Writer
September 01, 2009 02:24 PM
This says it all for you. I can add nothing.
CarolinaBlue50
September 01, 2009 02:51 PM
Very beautiful Buff...

Just keep pushing it all out...
Manchu Wok
September 01, 2009 02:56 PM
Beautiful, Sheila...thank you for sharing your love with us...I love you, girl. xox
Robin Sneed
September 01, 2009 05:12 PM
Looking forward to my sunset here and a toast to you both.
Reader Not Writer
September 01, 2009 05:23 PM
"Because I love you I videotaped the sunset on your last day on earth. I watched it grow bright and cast it’s golden red glow on me". I love that you did that!
trilogy
September 01, 2009 05:24 PM
BTW...I love your new picture too...a new direction...you remain in all of our thoughts and prayers
trilogy
September 01, 2009 05:25 PM
As we discussed Sheila, the loving memories are forever. What a blessing you were to each other.
Lea Lane
September 01, 2009 06:43 PM
What a healthy way to express sorrow through joy, love through everything. You are one grounded, healthy girl and have taken everthing that touched you the last 30 years and embraced all it's beauty.
Cathy GF
September 01, 2009 07:06 PM
This post is for the ages. God bless you.
Steve Blevins
September 01, 2009 10:50 PM
I'm checking for bumps! Lovely eulogy!!!
Ralph Tingey
September 02, 2009 12:36 AM
If tears could speak, you would know what is in my heart...
Outside Myself
September 02, 2009 01:02 AM
Beautiful tribute. Just beautiful.
Chicago Guy
September 02, 2009 07:40 AM
Sheila - we all have had the opportunity to learn a little about Lance through your posts. My personal belief in life after death is simply in the memories of those one leaves behind. With this beautiful tribute, he is indeed immortal.

He's a lucky soul be part of your life.
Boomer Bob
September 02, 2009 08:48 AM
A wonderful tribute. You two were lucky to have found each other, your love shines through.
JustJuli
September 02, 2009 11:30 AM
I'd like to have what you both had.
O'Really?
September 02, 2009 04:53 PM
what an absolutely rare and amazing experience to be able to have shared this for thirty years with another. thank you for your bravery and honesty in this posting!
Heidi Hough
September 02, 2009 07:50 PM
Because you express your thoughts beautifully. Thanks Sheila.
Sactogator
September 02, 2009 08:51 PM
Words are lost on commenting about this post. What a post script to a wonderful, beautiful love story.
Walter Blevins
September 03, 2009 01:04 PM
Just think if you hadn't been in your car, at that moment, if the light hadn't been red (or was it a stop sign?), if your eyes hadn't met, if you hadn't both smiled at the right moment; just think how easily you never have met. But you did, and you shared a great love. Surely it was meant to be and if our spirits survive in some way I don't doubt that you and Lance will "see" each other again.
Ablonde
September 03, 2009 05:27 PM
Thank you for your beautiful thoughts and willingness to share... love like yours continues to grow...you may find him with you in ways not possible before.
Mimetalker
September 03, 2009 06:24 PM
That's lovely. My dear dad died last January and I would love to have written something like that for him. Maybe you've inspired me to have a go.
HonoraryGreek
September 04, 2009 05:32 AM
This is lovely.
God Bless you.
Lolly
LollyDama
September 04, 2009 02:18 PM
Oh, Sheila, what a wonderful love story. I cried a bit while reading, but I also kept a smile on my face for the sweet and tender tribute to your shared life and love. Just beautiful; all my love and affection to you, sweetie.
Kisses,
Marcela
Marcela in English
September 05, 2009 04:51 PM
Although I've never been loved in the way you describe the 30 year love affair with your very special man, I 'm so touched by your words and know the days ahead will be hard but it's clear you'll cherish him always and keep him close in your heart, as he will you as well. It was uplifting to learn you are loved so well by such a fine man. So many of us will never know that kind of love. What a blessing his life must have been to you and those who knew him.
Gabby Abby
September 05, 2009 10:48 PM
This is very touching, and again, I am so sorry for your loss.
Roger Fallihee
September 06, 2009 01:19 AM
I had a second and decided to wander over to you and see how you were doing, and discovered that you're doing okay. I bet Lance loved this piece.
m. a.h
September 06, 2009 04:21 PM
wow, to have loved like that- you are such a lucky woman Sheila
hyblaean- Julie
September 08, 2009 02:38 AM
Buffy, truely beautiful tribute to your husband. I can't imagine going through what you did, all of us do, in time. I admire your courage and joy remembering your past with him.
cindy Prochnow
May 15, 2010 05:37 PM