I'd like to ask everone to consider a question;
Which opinions matter to you, and from who?
Can you dismiss provocative or simply nasty comments directed at you without emotional turmoil? Do ALL opinions matter to you? This is a very important question to ask ourselves in order to help us understand why or even if we should become upset at another person's words.
As I responded recently in a comment, I'm hurt only if I receive criticism from someone I respect. Otherwise, have at me, flog me with an arsenal of vitriolic dialogue - I will shrug and walk away, virtually or otherwise.
This wasn't always the case - I spent too much of my youth taking the wrong things to heart before I finally realized that it was rather stupid on my part. True and lasting respect is earned. Think of the people you most respect in your life and ask yourself why you respect them. It's doubtful that any of your reasons would fall into the "just because" category. And, of course you respect their opinions as well.
Some people love to provoke, it's a sport for them. Do we respect them? Of course not. So why should their words have any weight towards destroying our peace of mind?
So if you receive a comment or an email that cuts you deep, ask yourself; Is this from someone I respect?
(the above thoughts are in response to the rampant nastiness that has come to a boil in recent days here on OS)
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