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Nikki Stern

Nikki Stern
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Author of "Because I Say So: The Dangerous Appeal of Moral Authority" (www.nikkistern.com) and "Hope in Small Doses" to be released June 1, 2010 by Humanist Press.

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JULY 1, 2010 12:52PM

Good Bless America

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Flag1 I love celebrating Independence Day. I'm grateful to live in this country, grateful for the freedoms we often take for granted. I plant my Independence Day petunias (red white and purple but who's quibbling?)  and stick a little flag in the flower pot by my front door.  My husband and I used to ride our bikes to the town center to watch the parade and later, the fireworks; now my sister and I continue the tradition. If I'm not invited to a barbecue--and my next door neighbors often oblige--I hold one and pull together various permanent and temporary singles in my neighborhood.

I like to display the flag on special occasions; I'm very mindful of the proper way to fold a full-sized flag and how to treat it in bad weather, which is to bring it in. I wouldn't dream of cutting or burning a flag or turning it into a shirt or a summer dress. I also know what a flag is and what it isn't: a symbol of pride but not of ostentatiousness, an act of  commemoration perhaps but not an act of defiance.On various occasions and perhaps never more in my lifetime than after 9/11, the flag has been something of a catch-all: a symbol of patriotism and also xenophobia, a badge olapelpinf honor but also a judgment--you're either with us or against us. Obama was called out for not wearing a flag pin during his campaign and so was I for not displaying the American flag following my husband's death on 9/11. You of all people, I was told; but I couldn't see hoisting a flag that had become so freighted with anger, fear, expectation, judgment and, at times, yes, hypocrisy--an excuse to stifle freedom of speech or throw around accusations of treason or paste a decal on the back of a gas-guzzling SUV and call it sacrifice. Frankly, I was too tired.  

Divisions in our fair land remain as do claims that we are or should be divided into patriots and pretenders. For one thing, patriots--or so the patriots would have you believe--are God-fearing. I don't fear any possible supreme being as much as I fear closed-minded rhetoric and the absolute certainty that permits mere humans to assume not that they're in search of the Truth but that they've found it. Another post here has bravely tackled the subject of whether the United States is truly a Christian nation or simply a nation with a Christian majority by suggesting that we as a nation fall short of following true Christian one-nation principles. While I can scarcely lay claim to direct knowledge of how Christianity or any other religion defines good, I agree that we sometimes fall short. On the other hand, we hold these United States of America to a different standard, as well we should because somehow, in some exceptional manner, we have proven to be pretty darned successful at integrating and allowing a huge and hugely diverse constituency to express themselves without fear.

No one should be starving here and some are; no one should be struggling either, and too many are. The marketplace has produced some impressive innovations and an oppressive focus on short-term gains; we all want a piece of the pie and so sometimes lose site of the common good.

But while I don't claim to be able to know with the admirable certainty displayed by others the minds of the Founding Fathers, I'm impressed handheart that they (our Fathers) managed to jump-start a nation so durable that it could survive several examples of internal strife  and countless examples of external struggles and still grow, not just stronger but also wiser. They had faith in our country and so do I. We are too slow for some (me, most days) but growth is evident; even when we slide temporarily backwards, we manage to pull ourselves forward.

Thus, complaints, criticisms and concerns about my presidesparklernt, my representatives, my judiciary and my fellow citizens will resume next week; we've got much to discuss. Meanwhile, I'm celebrating, beginning with this invocation: may good continue to bless America.  Happy birthday and pass me that sparkler. 

images credited to: www.flagsbay.com; Mike Keefe, The Denver Post; www.mudpreacher.com; www.elizabethperry.com

 

 

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What a brilliant piece of writing, Nikki. Truly wonderful._r
Nikki, I can certainly relate to all that you say here and, in particular, the following sentence: "the flag has been something of a catch-all: a symbol of patriotism and also xenophobia, a badge of honor but also a judgment--you're either with us or against us." I think many of us have been annoyed by the way the flag became a symbol of "with us or against us." I saw plenty of politicians wearing flags on their lapels while many of their actions worked against the best interests of our nation! A very Happy 4th to you!
The government and my country are two distinctly different things. I may not always like my government but I always love this country!
R
I agree.. I think there are too many chefs now and not enough line cooks.
If I was president ,I do not think I would be taking a lot of opinions from my aides. I would be thinking about things with my heart and bring real people in.
Rated with hugs
Right on. Absolutely right on.
writing as delicious as ice cream on apple pie. i'll salute you with my fried chicken leg held high at the picnic. good on america, indeed. happy 4th, nikki.

~waving a sparkler, wiping away a tear~
Where'd you get a sparkler? I want one!

r
Yes, God Bless America and all in her care and protection.

I'm glad to be your neighbour.
Nikki ... happy 4th... There is no doubt our country, the land the people and the life we are presented, is beyond unique — special. I'm proud to be an American. Although I can criticize policy and government, I do so with respect.
@Con: North Carolina (shh, don't tell)
@Scarlett: happy birthday northern neighbor
@Chuck: amen, brother
God Bless Nikki for saying it all and saying it right! I'll have a hot dog now, please.
Beautiful piece that everyone can (and should) relate to. Thanks for sharing as always.
This was wonderful Nikki. Congrats on the EP and Happy 4th to you.
Great post Nikki. You would think this would be a time for all Americans to come together for just one day. I guess that will happen when pigs fly!
Great post, Nikki. But then, I'm not surprised.
100% with you, Nilli and so well done! R.
Marvelous, Nikki. Thanks for saying what so many of us believe, so well.
It is always good, when our government is deadlocked, to remember why this country is great and that we will get through it.
This was a great Independence Day post. Happy birthday to us.
Now if I could have a real old fashioned sparkler, instead of those glo stick thingies, which is what we're allowed where we hold our fireworks.
I may light two or three boxes of sparklers (yes, the REAL kind) just in honor of your post and our collective national birthday!
So well constructed and woven with meaning...your writing is a treasure. Many thanks! r
Glorious post Nikki! RRR
Oh darling. You know I love you but...starving? When you can buy 3 hamburgers a day for a dollar each, you have to work very hard to starve in America. Not counting food kitchens and churches.

And struggling?! But there will always be struggling, that is part of the human condition. You know what happens when a country tries to mandate a level playing field: Pol Pot.
Here it is again; the clear, fair thinking, wonderfully expressed. "I don't fear any possible supreme being as much as I fear closed-minded rhetoric and the absolute certainty that permits mere humans to assume not that they're in search of the Truth but that they've found it." - fantastic.
As an American by choice I relate to all you said. Except for one small problem that I have been facing when living abroad. We are about 8 million Americans without representation...yet we pay taxes...
Deborah: Point taken--maybe not starving, certainly not as people are in so many other parts of the world. Struggling? I think so, although again, it's so much better here than anywhere else. As for your comment about mandating a level playing field, however, your Pol Pot description is a tad off the mark: I don't believe that reigning in the excesses of a free market that hasn't yet developed a conscience automatically guarantees a despotic Communist rule...

But see now: this difference of opinion on some issues is indeed what makes this country great. And I love you too.
I admire your spirit and love this piece, Nikki. Happy Birthday to a fine neighbor! ~R~
Amen! And pass me a hot dog and a beer! B.T.C.
A very nice piece on a holiday I don't celebrate. This one though, I will celebrate, playing with my old drummer at his daughter's wedding. I'm turning my Strat up, like Jimi did long ago, when he paid homage to this country with his Star Spangled Banner....
I'm not generally a flag-waver, but on July 4th I wave and clap and I'm grateful. However flawed, it's also great, this country of ours.
Excellent post, Nikki!
You're my kind of patriot Nikki!
"If I'm not invited to a barbecue"

Nikki, lady, you're welcome to my BBQ ANY time of year. I even BBQ foir Thanksgiving and Christmas (after all, it's the only way I know how to cook.) So come on by and enjouy BBQ Ester Egg :-0
Boomer: where do you live again? ;-)
Luminous: now that I'd like to hear!
Wonderful insights on a symbol that is so multi-dimensional yet taken for granted. R
Well done, Nikki. This is the one time of year that we can celebrate our country instead of kvetching about things.
Shucks, it's July 3rd, evening, and there is nothing I can think of to say that hasn't already been said. I'm really happy to know we are fellow countrymen.
Absolutely perfect-- sparkler, flag, purple petunia and all. Also, very insightful. You've put me in the spirit. Happy 4th, Nikki.
Nikki, thank you. Liberty is one of those wonderful themes that elevates public discourse. It seems to bring out the high mindedness and clarity in us all. When it's well addressed, it always gives me goosebumps. That's why July 4th. is my favorite holiday. It's also why you're one of my OS faves. Call me a cockeyed optimist. Thanks again.
@Mary: Thanks; symbolism is like that for so many of us
@xeonon: there's an article in today's Times about a brave young soldier with a spirit I find awe-inspiring; it's possible to fault the leadership's political decisions and celebrate that level of resilience
@yalebno: aw-waving a sparkler at you
@Steve: just returning the favor; you always out me in the spirit
@Lary9: I'm delighted to call you a cockeyed optimist
SO cool. And true. I'm a child of the 60s who wore flags in...well...some pretty "unusual" places for awhile there, until I traveled, a black girl in Europe, among people who tried to tell me what a hard time black folks had in America. While ignoring the "colored" people amongst them, who worked menial jobs during the day taking care of them, and went back to segregated parts of their own cities afterward, having spent the day as ghosts. I was in college, headed for a career in journalism--as vocal and visible as one can be. They couldn't get past their own concept of my life as an American of color. I couldn't believe they totally missed the irony of those conversations held in front of people who were brown like me...and treated far worse where they lived.

And then...of course, they would pick on us just for being American, period. But almost in the same breath, they'd ask us if, when we left, they could have our jeans and t-shirts--the t-shirts emblazoned with the names of American places and icons on them.

We began to wear BIG flags on the backs of our denim jackets, daring anyone to say anything about us or the country we came from. But most of all, I began to understand why I should re-evaluate some of my own views about this country. Oh, I grit my teeth a LOT about things we do wrong or don't do or can't seem to see.

But...the life I've lived here is proof that we get things really right sometimes. A lot of the time. So...I raise a sparkler or two every July 4th, and salute my father's commemorative flags, as well.
Love your spirit! Rated.